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HERS O PIN IO N
Learning to Live With The Choices You Make
B Y C .M , BROOKS
H
ave you ever taken a moment to
seriously consider the choices
and the ram ifications o f those
m ade thus far in your lifetime? For some,
I im agine, the choices se
lected w ere w ell-calcu-
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lated, life-beginning de
cisions that characterize
w ho they are today and
w hat they are doing with
their lives now. Overall,
they have minimal regrets
and are able to sm ile at a
w ell-chosen path. For
most, however, choices ar
rived at would make even
the m ost fearless tremble!
The m ind, as we all
know , is an incredible
invention. If properly nourished, exer
cised, and developed, it is capable o f
achieving intellectual feats o f wonder.
W hy then, if this is a true and accurate
statem ent, do so many individuals make
poor choices in life? W hy are they inef
fective decision-m akers?
T here are several reason that ex
plain why some people make poor choices
in their lives, but I have an answ er that is
relevant, tim ely, an applicable to many
o f us. The focus is primarily o the envi
ronment in which we make those som e
times faulty decisions or choices. The
environm ent is very important in terms
o f the out come o f choice. For example,
choices
a complex environm ent produces pres
sures like too little time, deadlines, and
Society pressures play a role in one’s
inability to make wise decisions. The
ability o f the majority to influence the
minority can cause certain realities to
become twisted and unclear. How many
times have you made a decision based on
what the larger group
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wanted even when it
devalued your morals or
conflicted with your per
sonal views? This is called
‘Group T hink’ and it can
cause you to not only
question your beliefs but
it will cause you to “ go
along with the m ajority.”
W hat good is the
Pow er o f Choice if you
are not capable o f mak
ing a sensible selection?
Eliminate outside influ
ences, make time for yourself, go through
the selection process steps carefully.
Define the problem, look at the conse
quences, check out the alternatives, gather
more information if needed, and then
make your choice.
Remember this is your life and ev
ery choice you make will have some
bearing on your future. Look back and
smile. Look forward with optimism. It’s
your choice.
The mind, as we all know, is an
incredible invention. If properly
nourished, exercised, and
developed, it is capable of
achieving intellectual feats of
wonder.
diversions. Com bine these with the over
abundance of information floating around
in the world and you will without a
doubt, make a hasty and shallow deci
sion.
W e all live with stress in our busy
lives, but stress can add to poor decision
making as well. Stress has a way o f de
creasing one’s attention which is needed
in making a decision and processing
vital information. The outcome is usu
ally and unfortunately, a snap decision.
Attitudes of the American public toward Medicare funding.
SUBSTANTIAL CUTS
IN MEDICARE TO
REDUCE FEDERAL DEFICIT
INCREASE MEDICARE
FUNDING
•Three in four want greater
federal spending on Medicare.
•Seven in ten prefer increased
taxes to reduced spending for this
program.
•Only one percent of the Ameri
can public views Medicare cuts as
an excellent way to decrease the
deficit.
Portland Observer Salutes
Laverne Davis Principle
Martin Luther King
Elementary School
lbs. So, why docs lie show up weighing
375 lbs? Why does he complain about
the $75,000 in fines or incentives he
«...WE ARE FACED THROUGH
loses for showing up overweight?
OUT OUR LIVES WITH AGONIZ
Judy is an alcoholic with chronic
ING DECISIONS, MORAL
liver damage. Her doctor tells her to stop
CHOICES. SOME CHOICES ARE
ON A GRAND SCALE, BUT MOST drinking or face the high risk o f dying.
She continues to drink heavily and dies.
ARE LESSER ONES. BUT, WE
Judy’s family and friends are shocked.
DEFINE OURSELVES BY THE
Why didn’t she stop or did she really care
CHOICES WE HAVE MADE. WE
whether she died or not? No one made
ARE, IN A SENSE, THE SUM TO
TAL OF THE CHOICES WE HAVE the youngster mentioned above sell drugs.
No one made W illiam Perry overeat. No
MADE...”
one made Judy drink or force alcohol
PROFESSOR LEVY/WOODY ALLEN
CRIMES & MISDEMEANORS 1989
down her throat. Each one o f these indi
viduals made choices and paid the price
As the quote suggests, we are con for their actions. People need to become
stantly faced with difficult choices better m anagers o f their lives, careers,
throughout our lives and we as human time, money, and a host o f other things.
beings have the power o f free will to
Scholars have learned that the human
make good or bad choices. So, if people brain functions along the same lines as a
have the pow er to make positive choices, com puter and it, the brain, acts on the
then why do they still continue to smoke, information or programming it receives.
waste money, use drugs, get depressed Some o f this programming is genetic,
when it’s not necessary, not study for but m ost o f the programming is acquired
class, accept bad jobs, procrastinate, as people move through life. In the case
engage in dysfunctional relationships, o f the youngster from Los A ngeles, did
com m it criminal acts, lie, abuse alcohol, the fact that he lived in poverty, watch
eat too much, think irrationally, or a others in his family abuse or sell drugs,
million other elements that we know are or peer pressure enhance his decision to
wrong or do not promote positive per peddle drugs? Did he see this as the only
sonal growth?
way out o f the ghetto? W ould he have
In many regards, people make choices been a different person had he grown up
that are directly related to their values, in a nice, educated, and supportive fam
morals, or upbringing/conditioning ily? Chances are he might have ended up
mentally. For example: A Los Angeles a more positive/productive life or had
ghetto youth sells an ounce of crack more positive choices, but he still could
cocaine to an undercover FBI Agent and have ended up doing the same thing. No
is later arrested with marked money. Did one is immuned to making terrible choices
he know right from wrong? Did he know in life.In fact, bad choices will alw ays be
that distribution o f controlled substances made by people and hopefully the good
was against the law? Did he really care? will outw eigh the bad.
Now, what can be suggested to help
W illiam "The Fridge" Perry is a profes
sional football player for the Chicago people realize that they are the ones
Bears. He has a weight clause in his responsible for their life choices.? At
contract. The clause states that he should some point people have to stop blaming
report to training cam p no less than 320 their environm ent, families, education,
race, others, or society in general for
their actions and choices made. People
can change what is wrong or perceived
as wrong in their life by making rational
and correct choices. Again, people know
right from wrong. Sometimes, it takes
adversity to make people realize that the
choices they made are incorrect or
wrong.Others even know that their choices
are wrong and still do not make proper
changes. A cycle o f bad choices can lead
a person to self-destruction. If you would
like to know what your choices have
been, take a long hard look at yourself
and the life you have lived. W hat you
will see is the choices you have made.
People have control o f their atti
tude, their ego, who they chose as friends,
how they spend their money, their pro
ductivity as workers, their money, how
much they exercise, their goals, their
ability to learn from their m istakes, their
education, their giving to others, choos
ing the right mate, and the way they feel
about themselves. It’s all a m atter of
making the right choice. Unfortunately,
people are making bad choices and they
d o n ’t even realize it. Some o f these
unconscious choices can kill. People need
to be more conscious and figure out what
they want from life, where they w ant to
go, and how they want to get there.
Either way, good or bad, they have to
make some type o f choice to get where
they desire or a choice not to be produc
tive as a citizen o f the earth.
Learning what to choose, and how
to choose, may be the most important
education a person will ever receive.
Manage your choices and you manage
your life.
BY: ULLYSSES TUCKER^ JR.
Saudi Arabia As
Seen In America
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camel races and colorful folk
dancers with bandoliers and sabres
were ju st a few of the delightful
sights enjoyed by thousands of
Americans who viewed the Saudi
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minarets of magnificent mosques,
the doors of the Kaabah— Islam ’s
holiest place—covered with gold and
silver. Visitors got to see how old
and new complement each other in
Arabia and how centuries-old val
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