B8 THE ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, APRIL 22, 2021 Husband is COVID-shaming COMMUNITY NOTES FRIDAY Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave. A, Sea- side. Drive up to Avenue B to pick up at back door. For infor- mation, call Suzanne Bjaran- son at 503-861-4202; for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Columbia Senior Din- ers — Full Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup available at the Astoria Senior Center kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For information, or meal deliv- ery, call 503-325-9693 before 10 a.m. SATURDAY Karaoke — For information, call 503-738-7911. SUNDAY National Alliance on Men- tal Illness Support Group — Family to family support group, for anyone with a friend or loved one suff ering from a serious mental illness. For information, contact Myra Kero at 503-738- 6165, or k7erowood@q.com, or go to nami.org MONDAY Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave. A, Sea- side. Drive up to Avenue B to pick up at back door. For infor- mation, call Suzanne Bjaran- son at 503-861-4202; for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Columbia Senior Diners — Full Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup available at the Astoria Senior Center kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For information, or meal delivery, call 503-325-9693 before 10 a.m. Warrenton Senior Lunch Program — For information, or to volunteer, call 503-861-3502 Monday or Thursday. Astoria Rotary Club — For information, go to AstoriaRo- tary.org Columbia Northwestern Model Railroading Club — Group runs trains on HO-scale layout. For information, call Don Carter at 503-325-0757. TUESDAY Stewardship Quilting Group — Donations of mate- rial always appreciated. For information, call Janet Kemp at 503-325-4268. Do Nothing Club — Men’s group. For information, call Jack McBride at 360-665-2721. Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave. A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick up at back door. For information, call Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861- 4202; for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Columbia Senior Diners — Full Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup available at the Astoria Senior Center kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For information, or meal delivery, call 503-325-9693 before 10 a.m. Astoria Lions Club — Pro- spective members welcome. For information, contact Charlene Larsen at 503-325-0590. Authentic Spiritual Conver- sations — Open dialogue about spiritual issues. All faiths, includ- ing “spiritual but not religious” welcome. For information, email info@cgifellowship.org or call 916-307-9790. WEDNESDAY Mindfulness/Meditation Group — For information, call 503-338-4520. Wickiup Senior Lunches To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m, Wickiup Grange Hall, 92683 Svensen Mar- ket Road. For information, call Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861- 4202. For new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave. A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick up at back door. For information, call Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861- 4202; for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Columbia Senior Din- ers — Full Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup available at the Astoria Senior Center kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For information, or meal deliv- ery, call 503-325-9693 before Dear Annie: I have friends and family But the family members are people I like who have traveled for vacations during to see two or three times a year — and the COVID-19 pandemic. My husband I’d like to visit them with a happy hus- and I have taken trips during the pan- band! Do I have to give up that fantasy? demic, too, but only road trips, and we — Dealing with the Fallout Dear Dealing: Remind your hus- stay at Airbnb rentals (by ourselves). Some of my relatives, meanwhile, went to band that there are folks who have been Hawaii, justifying it as helping Hawaii’s even more careful than you have, peo- economy. Some have fl own upwards of ple who have barely set foot outside fi ve times during the pandemic. Many their yard, let alone left their town. They even traveled during the holidays and got might consider your road trips reckless. together with people outside their house- My point is COVID-shame not, lest ye be COVID-shamed. hold for multiple days. Still, it’s not surprising that These friends and relatives are DEAR many of us have been so quick not anti-maskers. They proudly ANNIE to judge during a year that has tout all the extra safety precau- been so turbulent. Judging others tions they take when traveling, gives us a sense of control. Hope- and they get tested beforehand. fully, as the pandemic recedes But my husband is sickened by and life eventually returns to nor- their behavior, and he’s begun mal, your husband will let go of opting out of our weekly family these resentments. In the mean- Zoom calls. He says he’s lost all ANNIE LANE time, continue to talk with these respect for them. Creators friends and family as you nor- He’s saddened by this situa- Syndicate Inc. mally would, paying no mind to tion and isn’t enjoying himself. his crankiness. He feels very alone in his quest Dear Annie: Your column caught my to do the right thing, surrounded by those who prioritize themselves over the safety eye when you printed a prayer for Lent about fasting from negative emotions. of greater society. I’m disappointed in their actions, too While reading, I even got a sheet of paper — but not enough to cut them out of my and divided it in two columns: one with the negative behaviors (to fast from) and life. When we’ve pressed these relatives the other with the corresponding positive about why they feel the need to travel and behavior. As I looked at the poem and take unnecessary risks, they say that our wrote down the points, I thought it would vacations have been just as risky; fl ying be a good start for New Year’s resolutions is safe (this is a big one); it’s their prerog- (and can be used by everyone): “Say kind ative; and they’re not endangering any- words; be thankful or fi lled with grati- one. They feel as though my husband is tude; be patient; be fi lled with hope,” etc. This past year has really been one of harshly judging and shaming them. And testing and has been hard on many peo- to be honest, he is. I’m trying to support all parties ple to have a positive attitude. I thank the involved. I’ll never force my husband to Lord for watching over us. — Bonnie Dear Bonnie: Happy to hear you liked be friends with people whom he doesn’t respect — but at the same time, I’m griev- the poem, and I appreciate your letter as ing the loss of the unity between every- a reminder to stop and count my bless- one. Thankfully, we live far away from ings. The days I feel the least like mak- these friends and relatives, and they’re ing a gratitude list are the days I need it not really part of our regular daily lives. the most. 10 a.m. Fat Quarter Quilters — Not limited to quilts. For informa- tion, call 503-325-3300 or 800- 298-3177 or go to homespun- quilt.com Warrenton Sunrise Rotary Club — For information, call 503-325-4030. THURSDAY Wickiup Senior Lunches To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m, Wickiup Grange Hall, 92683 Svensen Market Road. For infor- mation, call Suzanne Bjaran- son at 503-861-4202. For new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave. A, Sea- side. Drive up to Avenue B to pick up at back door. For infor- mation, call Suzanne Bjaran- son at 503-861-4202; for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call 503-304-3420. Columbia Senior Din- ers — Full Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup available at the Astoria Senior Center kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For information, or meal deliv- ery, call 503-325-9693 before 10 a.m. Warrenton Senior Lunch Program — For information, or to volunteer, call 503-861-3502 Monday or Thursday. Rotary Club of Seaside — For information, visit Rotary Club of Seaside on Facebook at fb.me/SeasideRotary Caregiver Support Group — Open to all caregivers, both professional and family care. Yoga exercise, refreshments, friendship and support. For information, call 503-738-0900. SELF-HELP GROUPS OTHER Blankets Needed — Columbia Veterinary Hospi- tal, 576 31st St. Needs blanket donations for their four legged patients. Anything is help- ful, even the stained or frayed. Donations can be dropped off during business hours (closed for lunch from noon to 1:30 p.m.) Monday through Saturday. Al-Anon (Astoria) — For information, call 503-325-1087. Al-Anon (Clatskanie) — For informa- tion, call 503-728-3351. Al-Anon (Nehalem) — For information, call 503-368-8255. Al-Anon (Seaside) — For information, call 503-810-5196 for information. Al-Anon (Tillamook) — For information, call 503-842-5094 or 503-730-5863. Al-Anon Family Groups information — Oregon Area Al-Anon website, orego- nal-anon.org Alateen (Tillamook) — For information, call 503-730-5863. 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