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THE ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 25, 2021
Concern for enabling friend
COMMUNITY NOTES
FRIDAY
Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a
hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.,
Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave.
A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick
up at back door. For information, call
Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202;
for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Columbia Senior Diners — Full
Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup
available at the Astoria Senior Cen-
ter kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For
information, or meal delivery, call 503-
325-9693 before 10 a.m.
SATURDAY
Karaoke — For information, call
503-738-7911.
SUNDAY
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Support Group — Family to family sup-
port group, for anyone with a friend or
loved one suff ering from a serious men-
tal illness. For information, contact Myra
Kero at 503-738-6165, or k7erowood@q.
com, or go to nami.org
MONDAY
Grace and Encouragement for
Moms — A time for moms to relax
and enjoy each others’ company. For
information, call Christina Leonard at
503-298-3936.
Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a
hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.,
Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave.
A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick
up at back door. For information, call
Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202;
for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Columbia Senior Diners — Full
Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup
available at the Astoria Senior Cen-
ter kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For
information, or meal delivery, call 503-
325-9693 before 10 a.m.
Warrenton Senior Lunch Program
— For information, or to volunteer, call
503-861-3502 Monday or Thursday.
Astoria Rotary Club — For informa-
tion, go to AstoriaRotary.org
Columbia Northwestern Model
Railroading Club — Group runs trains
on HO-scale layout. For information, call
Don Carter at 503-325-0757.
Astoria Toastmasters — For infor-
mation, go to 775.toastmastersclubs.org
or call Christa Svensson at 206-790-2869.
TUESDAY
Stewardship Quilting Group —
Donations of material always appreci-
ated. For information, call Janet Kemp at
503-325-4268.
Do Nothing Club — Men’s group.
For information, call Jack McBride at
360-665-2721.
Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a
hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.,
Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave.
A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick
up at back door. For information, call
Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202;
for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Columbia Senior Diners — Full
Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup
available at the Astoria Senior Cen-
ter kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For
information, or meal delivery, call 503-
325-9693 before 10 a.m.
Astoria Lions Club — Prospective
members welcome. For information, con-
tact Charlene Larsen at 503-325-0590.
Astoria Kiwanis Club — For informa-
tion, call Frank Spence at 503-325-2365
or Susan Brooks at 503-791-3026.
Bras2Moms Fitting — Free nursing
bras and/or tanks to mothers. A $5 dona-
tion is requested, not required. For best
fi t, come for a fi tting two weeks after giv-
ing birth. Sizes subject to availability. For
information, call 503-338-7581.
Evergreen Masonic Lodge No. 137
— For information, call 503-717-0808.
Authentic Spiritual Conversa-
tions — Open dialogue about spiritual
issues. All faiths, including “spiritual but
not religious” welcome. For informa-
tion, email info@cgifellowship.org or call
916-307-9790.
Association on Mental Disabilities
— Support group open to all those diag-
nosed with a mood disorder, or have a
family member or friend diagnosed, or
who think they might have depression
or bipolar disorder. For information, con-
tact Ken Rislow at 503-791-5482.
U.S. Coast Guard Auxiliary Flo-
tilla 06-02 — Uniformed civilian volun-
teer branch of the Coast Guard. Mem-
bers learn new skills and qualifi cations;
no former military or boating experi-
ence needed. For information, contact
Della Wilson at 360-244-7062 or wilson-
tekart@gmail.com
Seaside Elks Lodge No. 1748 — For
information, call 503-738-6651 or email
seasideelks@yahoo.com
THURSDAY
North Coast Women — For informa-
tion, call 503-738-8695 or go to tinyurl.
com/CC
Wickiup Senior Lunches To Go —
Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to
12:15 p.m, Wickiup Grange Hall, 92683
Svensen Market Road. For information,
call Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202.
For new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a
hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.,
Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave.
A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick
up at back door. For information, call
Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202;
for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Columbia Senior Diners — Full
Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup
available at the Astoria Senior Cen-
ter kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For
information, or meal delivery, call 503-
325-9693 before 10 a.m.
Warrenton Senior Lunch Program
— For information, or to volunteer, call
503-861-3502 Monday or Thursday.
Rotary Club of Seaside — For infor-
mation, visit Rotary Club of Seaside on
Facebook at fb.me/SeasideRotary
Grief Support Group — For infor-
mation, call Lower Columbia Hospice at
503-338-6230.
Lower Columbia Danish Society —
7 p.m., via Zoom. The group is reading
the short story “Babette’s Feast,” written
in English by Danish author Isak Dinesen
before the meeting, then discussing the
story at the meeting. The public is wel-
come. Being or speaking Danish not
required; only an interest in Danish her-
itage, culture and traditions is needed.
For questions and Zoom information,
go to lowercolumbiadanes.org or call
503-325-2612.
WEDNESDAY
Moms Off ering Moms Support
Club — For information, email presi-
dent@momsclubofastoria.org
Wickiup Senior Lunches To Go —
Pick up a hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to
12:15 p.m, Wickiup Grange Hall, 92683
Svensen Market Road. For information,
call Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202.
For new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Senior Lunch To Go — Pick up a
hot lunch from 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m.,
Bob Chisholm Senior Center, 1225 Ave.
A, Seaside. Drive up to Avenue B to pick
up at back door. For information, call
Suzanne Bjaranson at 503-861-4202;
for new Meals on Wheels inquiries, call
503-304-3420.
Columbia Senior Diners — Full
Meals $6: Delivered to seniors or pickup
available at the Astoria Senior Cen-
ter kitchen door, 1111 Exchange St. For
information, or meal delivery, call 503-
325-9693 before 10 a.m.
Dear Annie: I have a even if it is just across town.
longtime friend with a his- A new place. A fresh start. A
tory of enabling, starting new phone number.
with her own kids. I tried to
Family is those that are
discourage her from doing around you and care for you
that numerous times without as much as you care for them.
success. History appears to You don’t owe blood family
be repeating itself. Her kids a single thing. Abusers will
are long gone, but now her never admit fault. And the
granddaughter has moved in. children will never see it;
This young lady, barely out they are simply parroting the
of high school, is perfectly behavior of their elders.
I was happiest when I was
comfortable hanging around
2,500 miles away
the house playing on
from my family. I
her cellphone. Two
DEAR
am back now but
years have gone by,
ANNIE
see no reason to get
she has shown no
close. They haven’t
interest in getting a
changed; I have. —
job, nor does she have
Know Better Now
any discernible goals.
Dear Know Bet-
She cooks family
ter: Wherever you
meals on occasion,
go, there you are —
but I’m not aware
of her contributing ANNIE LANE but I can agree that
Creators
sometimes a change
much else.
Syndicate Inc.
of scenery can be a
My friend hasn’t
much-needed refresh.
put in much effort
encouraging job hunting. Nor I’m glad you found boundar-
has she felt it necessary to ies that gave you peace, no
consider counseling, some- matter your location.
Dear Annie: “Unappre-
thing I’ve suggested a few
times, for one or both. The ciated Stepmom” gave her
sad part is my friend knows stepson and his fi ancé money
she’s enabling yet chooses to for their wedding about a
do nothing to help herself or year ago, and life certainly
the child. Grandma’s motiva- has been a winding road since
tion may be as simple as lov- then. I agree with “Step-
ing the company. She really mom” that not being updated
isn’t doing the granddaugh- over their change of plans is
ter any favors. Any idea how insensitive, more so because
I might make that a little she is one of the groom’s par-
clearer to her? — Concerned ents. My interpretation was
that her involvement in the
Friend
Dear Concerned: If it’s wedding planning simply
concern that you want to was the provision of funds
express, go ahead. Do so for the couple to proceed
with their plans as they wish.
once; then let it go.
If, on the other hand, what In my understanding, when
you really want to express is you give a gift, it is no lon-
an opinion, then save your ger yours, regardless of what
breath. We’re all entitled to it is. There is some imbalance
make our own mistakes, for on both sides of the scale
better or worse. Besides, peo- here. — Just the Way I See It
Dear Just the Way I See
ple rarely take advice when
they ask for it, let alone when It: I tend to subscribe to that
line of thinking, as well. If
they don’t.
Dear Annie: Thank you it’s got strings attached, then
for telling “Bewildered” — it’s not a gift; it’s a trap. That
whose toxic family had con- being said, I could sympa-
tacted her out of the blue, act- thize with “Unappreciated
ing as though they’d never Stepmom’s” hurt feelings
done anything wrong — to in this case, as no one likes
feeling left out of the loop.
get therapy.
I would also encourage “Imbalance on both sides of
“Bewildered” to move, as the scale,” as you put it, is an
soon as they are able to — eloquent description.
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