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THE ASTORIAN • THuRSdAy, FEbRuARy 13, 2020
No words for losing a child COMMUNITY BRIEFS
Dear Annie: Reading your for encouraging the adoption of
column on grieving, I was rescued pets. — Rex Rescuer
reminded of a quote I read
Dear Rescuer: Thank you for
regarding a parent’s grief upon your suggestions.
losing a child. Perhaps this
Dear Annie: The end of 1998
would be helpful.
was horrible for me. I lost my
“A wife who loses
father in November to
a husband is called a
cancer, and in Decem-
DEAR
ber, I lost my 50-year-old
widow. A husband who
ANNIE
husband to heart issues.
loses a wife is called a
What has gotten me
widower. A child who
through all these years
loses their parents is
has been to think posi-
called an orphan. There
tively and to surround
is no word for a parent
myself with everything
who loses a child. That’s
positive: my favorite
how awful the loss is.”
This is to remind ANNIE LANE music, my favorite col-
Creators
ors in clothing, my most
those who admonish,
Syndicate Inc.
positive friends and,
“Get over it, already.”
especially, my family.
They are not at all help-
ful! — A Grieving Reader in Ny
I have also gone back to
Dear Grieving Reader in church and am very involved in
NY: Thank you for sharing this many different projects. — Tips
beautiful quote. May it bring to Cope
some comfort to others who
Dear Tips to Cope: Thank
have lost a child.
you for sharing what has sup-
Dear Annie: I was touched ported you through your grief.
by the wisdom in your response
Dear Annie: Your response
to “Bitter.” Confession is good to “Useless in CT” was spot on.
for the soul. My first impression Many years ago, my 16-year-old
was that the woman is so self-ab- daughter asked that I not inter-
sorbed that she is dangerous to vene with a high school teacher
her family’s ongoing dynamics. so that she could handle the sit-
But your answer recognized and uation herself. She was, and is,
acknowledged her personal hurt the type of person who could
and addressed it gracefully so communicate rationally with-
a positive redirection could be out becoming rattled. I find this
approach difficult, so I prefer the
introduced.
I am writing this to applaud written word.
the wisdom demonstrated in
If the granddaughter is easily
your thoughtful and thought-pro- intimidated by bullies, she might
voking column and very kind consider writing a clearly worded
response to her. It was a blessing letter to her grandmother. With
to read it. — Happy Reader
help from her mother, the letter
Dear Happy Reader: Thank could outline her feelings and
you for your incredibly kind offer an explanation as to why
words. I am printing your letter she will be no longer be a partic-
to highlight the importance of ipant in the gift exchange. This
trying to give people the bene- would enable her to put forth her
fit of the doubt — and offering side without risking verbal inter-
love and acceptance instead of ruptions and excuses that may be
offered by the grandmother. It
judgment.
Dear Annie: Recently, you may even help grandma see the
responded to a question regard- result of her behavior and work
ing whether to go to a rescue to repair their relationship. —
organization or a breeder for Southern Girl
a husky puppy. Your response
Dear Southern Girl: Thank
included a reference to Petfinder. you for offering another option
Another good resource for res- for sharing our thoughts and
cued animals is the Rescue Me emotions — the written word.
Pet Foundation. They have a Writing letters can be a beautiful
wide variety of animal types and and liberating way to express our
of breeds of each animal type. If emotions. Sometimes, we don’t
one organization can’t help, per- even need to send the letters to
haps the other can. I applaud you experience the catharsis.
RELIGION BRIEFS
AAUW holds joint
meeting
Hydrant flushing, flow
testing starts Tuesday
Members of the Astoria and
Seaside branches of the Amer-
ican Association of Univer-
sity Women are hosting a joint
meeting at 6 p.m. Tuesday at the
Astoria Public Library, 450
10th St. Oregon AAUW Presi-
dent Georgia Applegate will be
there.
The meeting offers an oppor-
tunity to learn more about the
group, and the many ways they
advocate for girls and women,
such as the joint sponsorship of
the Women Interested in Going to
School conference scheduled for
March 14 at Clatsop Community
College.
Participants are provided a
daylong event that includes work-
shop sessions on financial aid,
setting educational goals, meet-
ing criteria and many other details
involved in going to or returning
to college. The event also includes
meals and child care — all at no
cost.
For information, go to asto-
ria-or.aauw.net and seaside-or.
aauw.net
On Tuesday, the city of Astoria
Public Works Operations begins
the annual flushing and flow test-
ing of 457 fire hydrants, which
will take place between 7 a.m.
and 3:30 p.m. for approximately
five weeks. The locations of test-
ing will be announced daily on
the city website and on local radio
stations.
Customers may experience
temporary low pressure and/or
water discoloration during the
flushing and flow testing pro-
cess. If these conditions continue
after 3:30 p.m., call Astoria Pub-
lic Works at 503-325-3524.
Community HU sing
SEASIDE — A Sound Of
Soul Event, Singing HU (Hue),
an ancient name for God, takes
place at 3 p.m. Sunday at the Sea-
side Public Library, 1131 Broad-
way, sponsored by ECKANKAR,
The Path Of Spiritual Freedom. For
information, contact Seann Valen at
eckcoast@gmail.com
Cannon Beach Community
Diabetes seminar
offered
A “Reversing Diabetes Sem-
inar” is being offered from Feb.
19 to March 25 at the Astoria Sev-
enth-day Adventist Church, 300
Nehalem Ave. For information,
and to register, call 503-325-0610
and leave a message.
— The Astorian
HONOR ROLL
The following students have
qualified for the honor roll by
earning a 3.5 grade point average
or higher at school.
Eastern Oregon University
La Grande
Crossroads Community
SVENSEN — Crossroads Com-
munity Church, a Friends Fellow-
ship, at 40618 Old Highway 30, is
holding a Free Family Film Friday
at 6:45 p.m. Friday. Come enjoy a
film and fellowship. All are wel-
come. For information, call Shawn
Leonard, pastor, at 503-949-5033.
CANNON BEACH — Cannon
Beach Community Church, 132
E. Washington St., holds an Even-
song service at 6 p.m. the first and
third Sunday of the month. All are
welcome.
Evensong features Wes Warh-
mund (guitar, flute and clarinet)
and meditative songs, psalms, read-
ings, candlelight and time for quiet
reflection.
For information, call the church
at 503-436-1222.
Pacific Unitarian Universalist
The Pacific Unitarian Univer-
salist Fellowship meets at 11 a.m.
Sunday at the Performing Arts
Center, 588 16th St. The speaker
is Sarah Loose from the Interfaith
Movement for Immigrant Justice.
Childcare is available during the
service; a time for socializing fol-
lows the service.
Cannon Beach:
Danielle Williams.
Warrenton: Noni Webster.
University of Nebraska
Lincoln, Nebraska
Astoria: Maria Heyen.
SELF-HELP GROUPS
Al-Anon (Astoria) — 7 p.m.
Tuesday, Peace Lutheran Church,
565 12th St.;12 p.m. Wednesday,
First United Methodist Church, 1076
Franklin Ave. For information, call
503-325-1087.
Al-Anon (Clatskanie) — 7 p.m.
Monday, Faith Lutheran Church,
1010 N.E. Fifth St., Clatskanie. For
information, call 503-728-3351.
Al-Anon (Nehalem) — 7 p.m.
Monday, Riverbend Room, North
County Recreation District, 36155
Ninth St. For information, call
503-368-8255.
Al-Anon (Seaside) — 6:30 p.m.
Grace Episcopal
Tuesday, Seaside Public Library,
1131 Broadway, call 503-810-5196
for information.
Al-Anon
(Tillamook)
—
7:30 p.m. Wednesday, St. Albans
Episcopal Church, 2102 Sixth St., call
503-842-5094 for information; 9 a.m.
Thursday, 6505 Headquarter St., Til-
lamook; noon Friday, 5012 Third St.,
call 503-730-5863 for information.
Al-Anon Family Groups infor-
mation — Oregon Area Al-Anon
website, oregonal-anon.org
Alateen (Tillamook) — 4 p.m.
Monday, 5012 Third St. For informa-
tion, call 503-730-5863.
Grace Episcopal Church, 1545
Franklin Ave., is holding its annual
Books & Brownies & Browsing
sale from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Friday
and Saturday.
For information, call the church
at 503-325-4691 or go to graceas-
toria.org
Bethany Free Lutheran
Bethany Free Lutheran Church,
451 34th St., is having a pie social
at 6 p.m. Sunday, which also fea-
tures the church pastor, Craig John-
son, showing pictures and shar-
ing about recent trips to Israel and
India. All are welcome.
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Tuesday, February 18, 2020
Richard Neuberger of Oregon: A man ahead of his time
Richard Neuberger
When Neuberger died at the age of 47 in 1960, he was one of the most consequential Oregonians
of the first half of the Twentieth Century. Through his writing and political career, he moved
the center of Oregon politics from conservative to liberal. He was the first Democrat in 40 years
Oregon elected to the U.S. Senate. He was the second Jew elected to the U.S. Senate.
As one of America’s most prolific freelance writers, Neuberger gave voice to conservation values.
As Senator, he was one of three original authors of the National Wilderness Act. He also moved
the Highway Beautification Act through the Senate.
After decades of research, Forrester has authored a chapter on Neuberger
for Eminent Oregonians: Five Who Matter, which will be published
in early 2021. Subsequently, he will author a full
Neuberger biography.
Tuesday,
February 18, 2020
Get ready to set sail on your next adventure! Join John
Jerkovich of Viking Cruises to learn about sailing Europe’s
storied rivers on award winning Viking Longships and
Worldwide ocean itineraries designed to maximize your
time spent in each port!
Friday, February 21 st at 6:00 p.m.
AAA Warrenton / North Coast Service Center
153 S Highway 101 , Warrenton
Columbia Forum Sponsors:
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6 pm Appetizers
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Astoria
Foot of 12th St.