B2 THE ASTORIAN • SATuRdAy, JuNE 1, 2019 Son disturbed Scotland: Our similarities help us at his school celebrate our common humanity Dear Annie: My parents, and, if you husband and I bought are all on the same a house in a safe page, have a meet- neighborhood 12 years ing with their teacher. ago primarily because It is remarkable, and it has a great school wonderful, that Alan district. We have two opened up to you. It children, a boy and shows that you are a a girl, and I am writ- great mom. I’m sure ing about our oldest the teacher is aware child, “Alan,” who is of the potential prob- 12. Alan is very sen- lem. It might make sitive and wants for sense for the school, everyone to or Alan’s get along. He class, to have a DEAR can’t stand it group discus- ANNIE sion and allow when people all students to fight. Alan used express their to love going opinions — to school, but and hear their lately he has classmates’, been trying to too. stay home as ANNIE LANE What is Creators much as possi- happening in Syndicate Inc. ble, saying, “I your school feel sick.” Yes- district is not terday, when he was unusual, and the more home being “sick,” we can communicate we had a long talk and openly and accept he opened up to me. many different view- He said there are four points and perspec- boys in his class who tives, the more we will don’t like three other all get along, just as students because the your wise son wishes. Dear Annie: I am others are immigrants from South Amer- responding to your ica who are still learn- column about compet- ing English. Alan likes itive, catty women. So both groups of boys sad to spend your 70s but feels like he is with “friends” that are being pressured to take so challenging in yoga sides against the Span- class. Not sure yoga is ish-speaking students. all about that. Alan has a best Now going on to friend, “David,” who my 80s, I’m hav- is also quiet and sen- ing a great time with sitive, and Alan said friends that love to David does not want laugh, enjoy what we to take sides either. He can and cannot do, said that he wouldn’t find joy in groups that be surprised if fights not-so serious about started breaking out, life’s difficulties. My and he and David just suggestion is to find want to run for cover. different friends that He said both sides get can laugh and enjoy together at school and the good in getting when school is not in older and wiser! — session, and they say Staying Away from awful things to each Negative People Dear Staying other. My husband and Away from Negative I don’t really know People: Your vibe where to turn. I have attracts your tribe. read stories about par- Dear Annie: The ents who approached column from the per- their school districts son whose in-law, with similar com- a gentleman who plaints, only to be worked really hard all labeled politically on his life only to pass one side or another. We on only a few months don’t care about poli- after his retirement, tics. We just want for was really moving. It our son to be eager to truly underscores the go to school and learn, fact that we need to the way he used to work to live, not the feel. Do you have any other way around. It suggestions for how also struck me that we can handle this? — you termed the letter Concerned Mother “incredibly beautiful.” Dear Concerned It was, and I like that Mother: You and hus- you subtly brought to band might want to get light that “beautiful” together with David’s is not always pretty. Continued from Page B1 their own specific words for fishing gear, boat designs, their Nordic religions featuring sea and weather gods and numer- ous superstitions that reach far back into the mists of history. In more recent times, the sailor towns of Scotland, such as Scrabster, developed a wild and masculine culture for maritime workers and mem- bers of the fishing fleet. These men faced the temptations of drinking, whoring and gam- bling, just like in Astoria. The Scottish mariners feared dreaded British Naval “press gangs” that could kidnap them to a forced life at sea— much like the young men of Astoria who were “shang- haied” and pressed into mar- itime service. Today’s Scottish coast con- tinues to share many cultural parallels with the Oregon and Washington coasts. Their fish- eries are also in decline, and their fishing fleet is graying— and shrinking. They are right- fully proud of their coastal heritage, and keep it alive through museums, boat fairs, folk festivals and college pro- grams such as the one at UHI. In some ways, their path differs from ours. Struggles to keep the salmon harvest prof- itable have resulted in “farm fishing,” raising fish in tanks or ponds, something that would not find much accep- tance around here. Men on Scotland’s north coast have also found work in off-shore drilling, something most Ore- gonians would probably rather not risk, for fear of polluting the waters. Two differences between cultures made me smile. When I told them about our beloved FisherPoets Gathering, they were incredulous. Fishermen writing poetry? They could not wrap their heads around it. Not one person I encoun- tered could imagine a Scottish fisherman writing—much less reciting—a poem. The other difference—one that makes me proud to be an Astorian— is how many women have entered our local maritime workforce. From fishermen to crabbers to bar pilots to offi- cers to cooks to ship agents— the women of Astoria have become a respected part of the maritime scene. This also caused the folks in Scotland to scratch their heads. Not a single person I met knew of a woman who fished, sailed or navigated. They could not fathom it. The Pacific Northwest and the Scottish Highlands are cul- tural cousins on different seas. Recognizing our similarities helps us to celebrate our com- Creative Commons Scottish fishermen. Creative Commons. Scottish fishing fleet. mon humanity. By recognizing the differences between our- selves and other small com- munities that live on a coast, we are able to celebrate what makes us unique—for good or for bad—and also what makes Astoria such a special and beloved place to live. Julie Brown is a professor of Literature and Humanities at Clatsop Community Col- lege. 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