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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TuESDAY, MARcH 12, 2019
Feeling left out at work
Dear Annie: At my job, office while laughing with
I’m the newbie on the team. another co-worker and then
The others I work with seem turn to me and speak coldly;
to know one another well, it’s like a 180-degree switch.
and they chat and make Ugh. — The Odd One Out
jokes in the office all the
Dear Odd One Out: If
time.
Meanwhile,
they’re intention-
DEAR
ally excluding you,
some of my team-
ANNIE
mates are rather pas-
you’re the better for
sive-aggressive with
it. Those aren’t the
me. I don’t under-
sort of people you
stand why, though.
should worry about
I’m good at my job,
impressing. But I
and I always put in
doubt they’re act-
ing out of deliberate
110 percent effort.
It seems to me that ANNIE LANE malice. More likely,
Creators
you’re just the new-
teammates who make
Syndicate Inc.
bie, and it takes
more careless errors
time to build rap-
but are part of the
“inside club” get far kinder port at the office. Familiar-
treatment than I do. I’m a ity with co-workers is earned
laid-back person and very through years of working
open and honest, and I just together.
Continue being yourself
want to be able to talk casu-
ally with these co-workers and doing good work, and
I feel have excluded me. I stop putting so much pres-
want to be a part of their fun sure on the idea of being
conversations, but friend- friends with everyone. You
ship can’t be built instanta- may never end up being
neously. How do I become super warm and fuzzy with
more connected to these peo- your colleagues, and that
ple and stop feeling so lonely would be totally fine. Look
in the office? It hurts to see at it this way: You’d be able
them laugh with one another to get more work done while
while I’m singled out. I’ve others socialize and to go
seen a co-worker curse in the home and have a healthy
social life that’s not tangled
up in work.
Dear Annie: This is in
response to “Mulling Over
Memoir,” who wishes to
record her father’s stories. I
help people write their mem-
oirs, and there are a few
methods I’ve used that are
helpful if the interviewee
lives some distance away.
For my own dad, I
emailed him a question a
day, and he replied with his
answer, which I copied and
pasted into a growing docu-
ment. When our online inter-
view was complete, I had
amassed an entire memoir
with relatively little effort.
If email is not an option,
another way to gather sto-
ries is telephonically, using
a speakerphone and an
audio recorder. That way,
your hands are free to type
what is said, and the record-
ing device captures anything
that may have been missed.
— Making Memoirs in
Michigan
Dear Making Memoirs:
These are incredibly useful
and practical tips for helping
loved ones tell their stories.
Thank you for writing.
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As long as you do noth-
ing to interrupt or counteract the natural rhythm and
flow, it’s one of those days when it really seems as
though time is on your side.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Galileo was arrested for
saying the earth orbits around the sun. Well, one era’s
dangerous words are another era’s common knowl-
edge. You’re developing an opinion that’s outside
the commonly accepted one.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Time is relative, sure.
But the order of things really matters to us. We are
creatures of predication and expectation. So what
happens first is significant. You’ll be making a first
impression today. Put some thought into it.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Today’s power move:
Go ahead and put everyone on a program of restrict-
ed information. When it comes to your business,
you’re better offering it up a need-to-know basis.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Just think of all you could
do if you didn’t have to be correct, appropriate or
acceptable. Actually, it’s difficult to even imagine
because you’ve followed the rules for so long. But
allow yourself the fantasy. There’s wisdom in it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your spiritual creed isn’t
the same as theirs, but you won’t really know this
until you articulate what is yours. Write it down. I
believe (fill in the blank.) This exercise will illuminate
your next move.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The world will seem to
light up with tidbits that call out, “Hey, over here, this
one is for you!” When you see the world as “for me”
and “not for me” it gets rather simple. No need to
judge, agonize, glorify or condemn, just take or leave.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Self-restraint will be
necessary. Your appetite might be bigger than
can be afforded by stomach or wallet. And you
can blame this on the cosmic currents, if that’s any
consolation.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Don’t you hate
when you can’t find the right words in the moment,
but you think of them a day (or hour or decade)
later? That’s OK. The zinger you come up with today
will make up for some of those times.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When you just don’t
want to do a thing, it seems a lot more inconve-
nient and difficult than it really is. Actually, the task
will take hardly any time or effort once you stop
resisting it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll be more alive
and alert in the morning, so use those early hours to
make quick work of the stuff you really don’t want
to do. Otherwise the dreaded tasks will drag on and
ruin your evening mood.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Shopping is on the
agenda. Bring a friend if you’re afraid of being un-
duly persuaded by the sales team. Go alone if you’re
afraid of being unduly persuaded by a friend.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 13). You are
so ready to do your part. What’s even better is that
you know exactly what it is! You’re paid well and
respected, but don’t let it go to your head. In May,
you’ll be back in the starter position — a newbie in a
completely different environment, thrilled to learn.
Love and support will be all around you. Cancer and
Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 13, 3,
32 and 40.