A6 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THuRSDAY, FEbRuARY 14, 2019 Sad Valentine’s Day memories Dear Annie: Each Val- necessary to heal is incredible. entine’s Day, I am filled with I’m not sure that you will ever incredible sadness. Two years completely heal. My guess is ago, my husband and I were that there was life before you expecting our first baby girl. lost Valentine and there is now Her due date was Valentine’s a sort of different understand- Day, and we were ing of life after her. DEAR so thrilled with love You sound like an ANNIE and excitement at the amazing mother, wife arrival of our baby and overall human girl. Her name was being. Thank you for going to be Valentine. sharing your story. As best you can, try to let Sad to say, Valen- the love of your sweet tine was born Feb. 14 Valentine fill you up. as a stillbirth. It was without a doubt the ANNIE LANE Her spirit remains with Creators you and your family. most difficult day of Syndicate Inc. Your letter made me my husband’s and think of what the real my lives. We have since given birth to a beautiful meaning of love is. One of my boy, who has brought us joy favorite poems comes to mind, and hope, but we will never and I will share it with you. forget our sweet Valentine. It is widely known as “Foot- My husband and I have gone prints.” Its author has been through lots of grief counsel- disputed: One night I dreamed a ing together, and it has helped tremendously. But every Val- dream. I was walking along the entine’s Day serves as a reminder. How can we move beach with my Lord. Across past this? — Heartbroken on the dark sky flashed scenes from my life. For each scene, Valentine’s Day Dear Heartbroken: I am so I noticed two sets of footprints sorry for your loss. Words can- in the sand, one belonging to not begin to do your grief jus- me and one to my Lord. After the last scene of my tice. The very fact that you and your husband took the steps life flashed before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand. I noticed that at many times along the path of my life, especially at the very lowest and saddest times, there was only one set of footprints. This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it. ”Lord, you said once I decided to follow You, You’d walk with me all the way. but I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life, there was only one set of footprints. I don’t under- stand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me.” He whispered, “My pre- cious child, I love you and will never leave you, never, ever during your trials and testings. When you saw only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.” I want to wish you and all of my readers a very happy Val- entine’s Day. Life is like a sail- boat. Sometimes it is smooth sailing, and sometimes the weather is choppy and bumpy. For you, my sweet mother, Valentine’s Day will always be a choppy one, but I hope you can find a bit of comfort in knowing that the love you feel for baby Valentine is true love. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You don’t just ride the trends; you take the time to study and understand them. And you have what it takes to start a trend yourself. You’re more influential than you think. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’re currently unable to see how you’ve erected a barrier to your own success, which is not a problem unique to you. It’s a human thing. The view of an outsider will be invaluable to getting a clear sightline and a new plan. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Thoughts are myste- rious. Some start inside you, some come from the environment or the ether, all get vetted through your belief system. Though most can be disre- garded, at least one today should be cherished, nurtured and planted. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You don’t have to re- invent yourself to totally change yourself. Adding one habit is all it will take. Of course, adding hab- its isn’t easy, though it can be simple if you keep it small and make it compelling to repeat. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Be careful not to see things as rules that aren’t really. Preferenc- es, guidelines, the status quo ... these things are not rules, so don’t give them so much credence that it limits your ability to be creative and think elastically. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You can afford to be experimental in your approach to things, es- pecially old and firmly established things. If your idea doesn’t play, at least it makes the day more notable. And if it does play, it’s beneficially so. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You really do have something to add to the conversation, but you’ll probably hesitate, knowing that people just don’t often listen to advice. Is there a way to show them instead? AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll run into those who stubbornly persist, beyond all common sense, with what’s not working. The heels will only dig in further when challenged. Try walking away. Sometimes the best help is to stay out of it. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). As for that corner of chaos in your life, can you make a game out of it? Turn it into a sport and suddenly the untamable energy organizes itself into an order and maybe even becomes fun. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The thing that’s not working for you isn’t working for anyone. It’s just that you’re the one brave enough to point it out. When one small thing about a relationship changes, other adjustments happen to create a bigger effect. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Talking about a thing is one way to sort it out, but not always the best way. Consider that communication is happening on many levels; verbal may be the least of it. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your great talents will be improved upon by the challenges you put them through. Your lesser abilities need more care, nurturing and protection. To have stamina in this game, you must know your strengths and limits. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 15). You won’t so much solve the problems as you will incorporate them and make them work for you in the next chapter. By May, you’ll already be crediting the trouble for making you great and helping you grow through overcoming, build over barriers and recognize vividly who you already are, flaws and all. Libra and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 39, 10, 6, 4 and 16.