C3 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, FEbRuARY 8, 2019 Jumping into dating at 74 Dear Annie: I’m a 74-year- Dear Wallflower: It’s time for old single man who has never you to branch out from that wall been in circulation. and grow into the person you were I have relatives, friends and always meant to be. Start this pro- others who keep asking me, cess by reaching out to friends and family. Let them “When are you getting DEAR know you’re interested married?” I don’t even ANNIE in dating and looking for know where to start with guidance. As Bill With- dating. I don’t know ers sang, “No one can fill what it is these days or those of your needs that whether it even exists you won’t let show.” for me. Should I have You also need to over- announcements printed haul your mindset from to let people know I’m looking to date? Should I ANNIE LANE that of a passive spectator Creators to that of an active partic- run a notice in the news- Syndicate Inc. ipant. You mention being paper? Or should I sim- ply tell people at a family “passed over,” as if dat- dinner? We have a family dinner ing were a schoolyard basketball coming up on Valentine’s Day, so game in which everyone but you I thought then might be a good got picked for a team. That sort of time to do it. It needs to be known thinking is toxic and paralyzing that not all of us are socially active — and incredibly hard to shake on and successful. More than a few your own. A professional coun- of us are simply passed over, selor could help you open up and ignored or rejected, both men and get away from that wall you’ve women. And our chances are not been clinging to for so long. Make improved by having to tell oth- an appointment today. ers that we’ve never really dated. Dear Annie: I’ve been want- I was never invited to social gath- ing to go vegan for a while now, erings. As a result, I don’t have but I’m scared it would have some of the skills needed. I don’t nutritional repercussions. I’ve know the latest dances, etc. Any eaten meat my whole life, and ideas or suggestions? — 74-Year- I want to make sure my body Old Wallflower wouldn’t miss out on the nutrients it needs if I adopted this extreme diet change. How can I switch my diet to vegan while maintaining good nutrition? Also, I hear that a vegan diet is more expensive than a mainstream omnivore diet. Is that necessarily true? — Veering to Vegan Dear Veering to Vegan: A vegan diet — one rich in fruits, vegetables and whole grains — can be very healthful and afford- able, with a little planning. You might be surprised to learn how many plant sources of protein there are, including lentils, beans, nuts, seeds, tofu, oats, broccoli, spinach (Popeye knew what he was doing) and many others. Most of the aforementioned are also good sources of iron — and as an added bonus, they’re all rel- atively affordable. If you make such foods the staple of your vegan diet, you’ll most likely find yourself spending less on grocer- ies, not more. The one thing you can’t get sufficient amounts of from a vegan diet is vitamin B-12, so be sure to take a supplement for that. And of course, the big caveat to all of this is that I’m no doctor. Please talk to a dietitian or your physician about planning a diet that meets all your needs. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Jealousy makes people behave uncharacteristically. It’s not worth it to make someone jealous on purpose, and if anyone does this to you it’s a red flag. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you can facili- tate an experience for another person, you’ll be thrilled for the opportunity to do so. Stay cognizant of this: You can invite experience but never provide it, as experience is a co-cre- ation between host and guest. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Check in with loved ones, even if you just did recently, even if you’re worried about bothering them, even if have nothing to say. Connection will be meaningful in unexpected ways. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t have to help everyone around you. Consider that you may be able to help them best today by be- ing you and being clear, strong and convicted about that. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Issues of territory arise. The map is a crude tool here, because even if you spell out the “mine” and “yours” of it all, life will make the borders messy again. You’re going to have to lead with your heart on this one. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). No pressure, but people are noticing you and they’ll start to follow you, not in just an attention or social media way, but they’ll actually do what you do and say what you say. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s one of those days when you can really see clearly who is in and who is not. Harsh maybe, but anyone who isn’t rooting for you in obvious ways FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE today doesn’t belong on your team. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You did it before and you can do it again. Sure, you can’t remember how you did it or even why. You’re not the same age, and you don’t have the same resources as you did then. Nonetheless, you’ll repeat the success. Believe. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you could figure out a way to go faster and still keep the quality up, you would. But this is just going to happen naturally. Quality first; speed will follow. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You love to keep smart people around you who will chal- lenge you, make you read, think, learn, strive, be healthy and active ... and you also love the comfortable people. In fact, you’ll love and need them a little more today. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People fall in love with you unexpectedly. If you can help it, be careful not to foster attachments you won’t be able to keep up with. It’s no fun to be loved more than you love. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). What’s legal isn’t always moral and what’s moral isn’t always le- gal. But today won’t be about laws of state. It’s more like rules of the heart vs. social mores. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 9). You once worried about what was expected of you, and now you laugh about it because you already know, and you’ve already decided just how much credence to give to those expectations. Truly this is your year of freedom from social constraints and of self-realization at a whole new level. Aries and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 30, 10, 7 and 28.