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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JANuARY 16, 2019
Worker gets ahead of herself
Dear Annie: I work as an edi- course can destabilize everything
tor at a publishing company. It a person has worked for. I recom-
has been difficult to find capable mend taking this proofreader out
proofreaders. I’ve had one work- of the office for lunch, coffee or
ing with me for the past few years a walk and asking her about her
who proved herself to be capable. career ambitions, both short-term
She showed great atten-
and long-term. Tak-
DEAR
tion to detail and would
ing her out of the office
ANNIE
will make it less for-
make occasional sugges-
mal, and you will have
tions to books that added
more success help-
value. In the past few
ing her plot a course
months, she has grown
to achieving these
frustrated that she hasn’t
ambitions in a realis-
advanced to editor and
tic time frame. Some
has let her proofreading
responsibilities slip. I’ve ANNIE LANE mentorship and guid-
Creators
ance should go a long
noticed obvious errors
Syndicate Inc.
way toward creating a
that she’s missed. More
grateful and loyal per-
importantly, she has
become more vocal about making son and a successful career path.
Dear Annie: I am sending this
story suggestions and has gone
behind my back to make these in out to anyone considering suicide.
an attempt to prove herself. I am Please reconsider what you are
supportive of her advancing, but thinking. My father killed him-
at the appropriate timing, which is self in 1978. I still think about
dictated by the company and our the many what-ifs. What if I had
needs, not based on her desired called? What if I had gone to see
timing. Do you have any advice him? Why didn’t I notice that he
on how I might approach her was down and depressed when
and motivate her? — Frustrated I saw him two weeks before he
did it? The guilt is always with
Editor
Dear Editor: Trust takes me, even after all these years. He
years to earn and seconds to lose. has missed so much in our family
Careers are built over a long period — grandchildren, marriages, etc.
of continued success and having a I think of my dad often and will
positive attitude, and a change in always wonder whether I could
have done more to let him know
how much I loved him. Don’t do
this to the ones you leave behind.
I know you probably think they
would be better off without you,
but that is not true. The guilt we
carry is awful. — Daughter
Dear Daughter: I am so
incredibly sorry for the loss of
your father. Please do not blame
yourself for what happened.
Though I understand you
mean well and speak from the
heart when you implore suicidal
people not to go through with it
because of what it would do to
their loved ones, I want to note
that this style of appeal can heap
guilt onto suicidal people when
they’re already depressed beyond
management. To anyone reading
this right now who is considering
suicide, please seek help immedi-
ately. Dial 911 or call the Suicide
Prevention Lifeline at 800-799-
4889. Counselors are waiting to
listen. You do not need to be con-
sidering suicide to call the hotline;
if you’re struggling with depres-
sion, give it a call, too.
To anyone worried a loved
one may be considering self-
harm, call the Suicide Preven-
tion Lifeline or visit https://sui-
cidepreventionlifeline.org/
help-someone-else.
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re ready to let old
things go — mostly having to do with unwanted
possessions. But some stale emotional content will
go, too, as though such things are invisibly teth-
ered to the physical items, and maybe they are.
what counts as progress.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Though following
another person’s path will teach you the way, even-
tually you’ll either take it over and claim it as your
own or venture off, claiming a new path. Ultimate-
ly, you’re most powerful when it’s your path.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Everyone’s got
their own insecurities, fears, secrets ... whatever it is,
you’re definitely not the first, last or only person to
deal with it. You might not be in the mood to share,
but to do so would cut your suffering in half.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your parents have
defined you in a certain way. Your friends have in
another way. Even your pet defines you as “dis-
perser of food and treats.” The only definition that
matters? Your own. Let it grow and change. Keep
tweaking it.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You think you
know what you’re good at, but put it to the test
anyway. You might be surprised how things have
shifted since you last looked. The more accurate
you can be in your assessment, the faster you’ll
learn.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). People will go very
far to give off the appearance of control, especially
if they actually do not have as much of it as they
would like. Someone is trying a little too hard. Now
why do you think that is?
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You may not want
the extra pressure of being the leader, but if you
don’t share your vision and ideas, everyone will
suffer, most of all you. Don’t hoard your talents.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). This day is tinged in drama
that may include tantrums and general bad behav-
ior, the likes of which would be easy to categorical-
ly reject, though there’s also wisdom to be gained if
you look a little further into cause and motivation.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It may seem like a few
errands eat up the whole day. Furthermore, this
doesn’t fit the image you have of how you’d prefer
to spend your hours today.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s one area in
which you’re really quite stuck. It’s time to get cre-
ative about the problem. Start by tackling a smaller
part of the issue and shrinking your standard for
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You can do the thing
alone but it’s going to take you so long and be so
arduous that by the time you finish, your attitude
will have soured. So include people. Enlist help.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Everyone in the group
has a different role. You feel that someone isn’t
pulling a fair share of the weight, and this may be
true, but all do not have to be contributing the
same amount for this to work extremely well.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 17). The fun of
taking part in interesting and beautiful projects
kicks off a glamorous period of time. Then, just
when you start to wonder if anyone is seeing the
real you, you’ll get an opportunity to put function
over form and prove what you’re all about with
the difference you make in the world. April brings
a windfall. Leo and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 1, 14, 40, 33 and 20.