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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Wary of future in-laws
Dear Annie: I’m engaged
I don’t want to hold
to an amazing man, and we resentment against them or
spend our days in a cute lit- ruin their newfound relation-
tle house with our wonder- ship with my soon-to-be hus-
ful daughter. I sincerely have band, but I can’t help but
few complaints about my life. find what they did unforgiv-
Alas, there is one dark cloud able. My fiance says that they
would never hurt our
that I can’t seem to
DEAR
daughter, that circum-
shake.
stances are differ-
My husband has a
ANNIE
ent now. But if they
complicated relation-
ship with his parents,
wouldn’t protect their
and it stems from
son from their own
the horrific physi-
angry whims, why
cal, mental and ver-
wouldn’t they snap
bal abuse his dad
and not protect their
inflicted on him
granddaughter? They
Lane
throughout his child- Annie
are loving people as
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
hood — not to men-
it stands, but history
tion the lack of action
can’t be erased.
his mother took to protect
I live in a small town, so
him.
I have no counseling groups
They’re all in a differ- to turn to. I hesitate to talk to
ent place now, both literally people close to me, because
and psychologically, and my it’s such a sensitive subject
fiance is on relatively good for my partner. I trust my
terms with them. But I can’t own instincts as a mother, but
help but stiffen every time I also know I’m fast to cut
I’m around them, because people off. Should I be ner-
all I can do is remember the vous about their being around
pain they’ve inflicted on my my daughter? How do I resist
fiance. Now that we have resenting them? I hate pre-
a daughter, I’ve even been tending I like people, Annie.
questioning their role as It’s dishonest and exhausting.
— Mother Bear
grandparents.
Dear Mother Bear: First,
I certainly understand your
not wanting to take any risks
with your little cub. No one
with a history of abusing chil-
dren should be entrusted with
their care. You and your hus-
band should come up with
plans and backup plans so
that you never are in a pinch
and have to ask his parents to
baby-sit. You can implement
such boundaries without cut-
ting them out of your lives.
As for your protective
feelings toward your hus-
band, some caution is war-
ranted and wise, given his
parents’ history. But if the
three of them have genuinely
healed this rift, your continu-
ing to focus so much on the
past would do more harm
than good. At the end of the
day, they are still his par-
ents, and if he loves them
and wants a relationship with
them, any swipes you take
at them will feel personal to
him. So make a sincere effort
to give them a chance. Being
an ally to your husband and
a protector of your daughter
doesn’t have to mean being
an adversary to your in-laws.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2018
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s better not to
get too deep into why people behave as they
do. It could have something to do with you,
but likely not. You won’t regret staying within
your own boundaries and letting others do the
same.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You know some-
one really likes you when that person tries to
be an all-around improved and heightened ver-
sion around you. And when it’s you doing this,
it’s a fair indication that you’re the one smitten.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Stop putting it off!
(And don’t pretend like you don’t know what
this horoscope is about.) Not to live the life you
want to live is an abuse of the present.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Whether or not
you feel that you’ve been adequately loved,
you are able to offer this to others. The big
question is if you can you give it to yourself.
Not everyone capable of self-nurturing. Hope-
fully you are. It will be essential to growth.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Communication gets
tricky. If no one cares to try harder, conver-
sation might devolve into people droning on
about what they know instead people con-
necting with one another. You can steer it into
better outcomes.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Though other
value systems may different from yours, that
doesn’t make them wrong. Stars illuminate your
humanitarian instincts. And people are attract-
ed to your instinct for tolerance and inclusion.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You came here to
learn. So did they, although they might not be
as in touch with their original intent. Embrace
imperfection and open yourself to the lesson.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Inconvenient
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
happenings can be fortuitous and seemingly
lucky happenings can turn out to be a major
pain. So don’t be quick to judge. What happens
will be pretty funny regardless of the ultimate
outcome.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You some-
times question what people want from you, and
this is only smart. You don’t have to be a cynic
to be on guard against the darker inclinations
of human nature.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Blood is thick-
er than gossip. When it comes to your family,
you’re fiercely protective regardless of whether
they are in the right or not. And, if necessary,
they would be similarly protective of you.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Pretending to
be confident isn’t the same as being confident.
But the people who act like they have it all
together don’t fool you. You’d much rather see
the confidence that comes from admitting the
struggle.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Thoughts have
power, so take control before they take control
of you. And don’t be surprised if your feelings
are all over the place today. Ecstasy, jealousy,
agony and boredom could all happen in the
span of an hour.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 27). You go
into this new era playfully, a state that’s only
possible because your conscience is clear and
your stress is low. This state is hard won. It’s
happening because you’ve mastered much of
what used to stress you. Celebrate your luck;
pay it forward. A sweet connection will keep
on giving you gifts as it continues. Virgo and
Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10,
3, 26, 5 and 40.