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4B FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Wary of future in-laws Dear Annie: I’m engaged I don’t want to hold to an amazing man, and we resentment against them or spend our days in a cute lit- ruin their newfound relation- tle house with our wonder- ship with my soon-to-be hus- ful daughter. I sincerely have band, but I can’t help but few complaints about my life. find what they did unforgiv- Alas, there is one dark cloud able. My fiance says that they would never hurt our that I can’t seem to DEAR daughter, that circum- shake. stances are differ- My husband has a ANNIE ent now. But if they complicated relation- ship with his parents, wouldn’t protect their and it stems from son from their own the horrific physi- angry whims, why cal, mental and ver- wouldn’t they snap bal abuse his dad and not protect their inflicted on him granddaughter? They Lane throughout his child- Annie are loving people as Creators Syndicate Inc. hood — not to men- it stands, but history tion the lack of action can’t be erased. his mother took to protect I live in a small town, so him. I have no counseling groups They’re all in a differ- to turn to. I hesitate to talk to ent place now, both literally people close to me, because and psychologically, and my it’s such a sensitive subject fiance is on relatively good for my partner. I trust my terms with them. But I can’t own instincts as a mother, but help but stiffen every time I also know I’m fast to cut I’m around them, because people off. Should I be ner- all I can do is remember the vous about their being around pain they’ve inflicted on my my daughter? How do I resist fiance. Now that we have resenting them? I hate pre- a daughter, I’ve even been tending I like people, Annie. questioning their role as It’s dishonest and exhausting. — Mother Bear grandparents. Dear Mother Bear: First, I certainly understand your not wanting to take any risks with your little cub. No one with a history of abusing chil- dren should be entrusted with their care. You and your hus- band should come up with plans and backup plans so that you never are in a pinch and have to ask his parents to baby-sit. You can implement such boundaries without cut- ting them out of your lives. As for your protective feelings toward your hus- band, some caution is war- ranted and wise, given his parents’ history. But if the three of them have genuinely healed this rift, your continu- ing to focus so much on the past would do more harm than good. At the end of the day, they are still his par- ents, and if he loves them and wants a relationship with them, any swipes you take at them will feel personal to him. So make a sincere effort to give them a chance. Being an ally to your husband and a protector of your daughter doesn’t have to mean being an adversary to your in-laws. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s better not to get too deep into why people behave as they do. It could have something to do with you, but likely not. You won’t regret staying within your own boundaries and letting others do the same. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You know some- one really likes you when that person tries to be an all-around improved and heightened ver- sion around you. And when it’s you doing this, it’s a fair indication that you’re the one smitten. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Stop putting it off! (And don’t pretend like you don’t know what this horoscope is about.) Not to live the life you want to live is an abuse of the present. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Whether or not you feel that you’ve been adequately loved, you are able to offer this to others. The big question is if you can you give it to yourself. Not everyone capable of self-nurturing. Hope- fully you are. It will be essential to growth. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Communication gets tricky. If no one cares to try harder, conver- sation might devolve into people droning on about what they know instead people con- necting with one another. You can steer it into better outcomes. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Though other value systems may different from yours, that doesn’t make them wrong. Stars illuminate your humanitarian instincts. And people are attract- ed to your instinct for tolerance and inclusion. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You came here to learn. So did they, although they might not be as in touch with their original intent. Embrace imperfection and open yourself to the lesson. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Inconvenient FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE happenings can be fortuitous and seemingly lucky happenings can turn out to be a major pain. So don’t be quick to judge. What happens will be pretty funny regardless of the ultimate outcome. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You some- times question what people want from you, and this is only smart. You don’t have to be a cynic to be on guard against the darker inclinations of human nature. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Blood is thick- er than gossip. When it comes to your family, you’re fiercely protective regardless of whether they are in the right or not. And, if necessary, they would be similarly protective of you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Pretending to be confident isn’t the same as being confident. But the people who act like they have it all together don’t fool you. You’d much rather see the confidence that comes from admitting the struggle. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Thoughts have power, so take control before they take control of you. And don’t be surprised if your feelings are all over the place today. Ecstasy, jealousy, agony and boredom could all happen in the span of an hour. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 27). You go into this new era playfully, a state that’s only possible because your conscience is clear and your stress is low. This state is hard won. It’s happening because you’ve mastered much of what used to stress you. Celebrate your luck; pay it forward. A sweet connection will keep on giving you gifts as it continues. Virgo and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 3, 26, 5 and 40.
