THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2018
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Husband’s past is embarrassing
Dear Annie: My husband and Another Annie
I are alcoholics in recovery with
Dear Another Annie: I think
multiple years of sobriety. We are that going to different meetings
in our 60s. When my husband was would be wise. It would allow
17, he committed an act of vio- each of you space to focus totally
lence that resulted in imprison- on your own recovery, with-
ment. This act was in retaliation to out filtering it through the lens
of your marriage. You
someone who snitched on
DEAR
might also benefit from
him for drug dealing.
My husband regularly
attending Al-Anon meet-
ANNIE
ings, in addition to Alco-
talks about this part of his
holics Anonymous, to
life in AA meetings. I am
help sort through some
very embarrassed by this.
additional baggage you
I’ve talked to him about
may not even be aware
how this makes me feel,
you’ve been carrying.
but he says it’s part of his
(I’ve heard good things
story. I can understand
Lane
about SMART Recovery
that in some situations, Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
and LifeRing, which also
his disclosure of his past
offer support for the loved
would help people, such
as men who are currently incar- ones of people with alcoholism.)
cerated. In conversations between Congratulations on your years of
the two of us, my husband will sobriety.
refer to his prison life with what
Dear Annie: The advice you
seems like fond remembrance. gave to “Faithful in New Mex-
ico,” the poor soul who has been
This bothers me very much.
Am I being selfish and con- in and out of the hospital and is
trolling in wanting him to stop now home recovering, was far off
talking about his prison life? I base. Her husband was ascended
know that I cannot control him, upon by two women wanting to
but I wish he could just talk “console” him during his wife’s
about his recovery. I’m thinking health crisis. You said she should
about going to different meetings take solace in the fact that her hus-
so I won’t have to listen to him. band was honest with her and he
Is that the best thing to do? — was furious that these women
were so forward.
First off, he told his wife that
she did not know these women.
How does he know them? Why
would he be pouring his heart out
to other women about his wife,
her health issues and the decline
of their family home situation?
Because he’s guilty! The rea-
son he confessed to his wife was
to make himself feel better. He
either did act, wanted to or will. If
it meant nothing, why tell her? He
should have kept his mouth shut
or told his wife who these women
are. The fact that he is talking to
these women about himself and
his wife is a sure sign of guilt.
Maybe it has not gone further, but
it will in time.
I’m very independent. I was
married at 37, had cancer at 48,
had surgery and did treatments.
My husband was “consoled.”
How far he took it, I have no idea.
He never breathed a word. I heard
from another source. — D.P.
Dear D.P.: I’m so sorry that
happened to you. You’re right that
sometimes when partners bring up
such things, it’s out of guilt. I hope
that wasn’t the case for “Faith-
ful in New Mexico” and her hus-
band, but I’m printing your letter
because it’s an astute point.
3C
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). In school, we
study for the tests to get the grade. Real-life
relationships aren’t forged in tests. We
make the grade through routine pleasant
interactions.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Games,
awards or some kind of competition is
featured. If you win, be gracious and brief.
If you lose, the same applies. Either way,
you’re likely to win a friend, acquaintance or
at the very least, a new contact.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Most people will
go wide; you should go deep. Do the best
you can do at the thing you do the best and
you’ll be sprinting past the rest, making a
name for yourself, carving out your unique
niche.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be mak-
ing things and presenting things. Perfection
isn’t the point. Take a step back. What
matters about this? What will people’s take
away likely be? Speak to that. Any attempts
at perfection are misguided.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s not about
going slow, it’s about creating a sustainable
rhythm you can carry out time and time
again, a steady march that will get you
across the regions to where you want to be.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s not always
as easy as it seems to figure out what you
really want and need because it’s different
for every person. To see yourself and your
needs more accurately is the start to attract-
ing more desirable circumstances.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have charis-
ma to spare. The challenge is in directing it
well and handling the attention that comes
with it. Which is the most appealing choice.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
Which is the kindest?
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). What you’re
making isn’t for everyone, so don’t concern
yourself with what everyone thinks about it.
Cater your efforts specifically to the people
for whom they will matter.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The way
to happiness will be very simple. Find what
matters to you and get deeper into it. Learn
it well, do it often, take your understanding
and appreciation of it to the highest level
you can.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Love
doesn’t always feel like love because it takes
on so many forms. Some of the forms, for
instance, the more truthful ones, can sting a
little but you’ll still find them very worthwhile.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Informal
gatherings will be part of the fun. The
conversation will be interesting, the food de-
licious. Plus, it will be satisfying to know that
you can charm people just by being you.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Let someone
take care of you. You don’t have to be needy
to do this, of course. People take care of one
another in many different ways. Accepting
a little help or tenderness is as good for the
relationship as giving it is.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 6). You
will claim a fulfilling sense of community in
the months to come, involving yourself in
scenes that fit nicely with your world view, in-
terests and with what you have to contribute.
Other highlights include a renovation of your
domestic digs, a project that gets funded
and being a major part of a loved one’s
advancement. Leo and Aries adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 9, 33, 31, 2 and 17.