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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Was that his girlfriend?
Dear Annie: Earlier this week, be an innocuous reason. Some
I was swiping through a dating people don’t realize that just delet-
app, when I think I saw some- ing the Tinder app doesn’t auto-
thing really surprising and terrible. matically delete their account. Or
I’m about 99 percent sure I saw perhaps she and your friend have
my buddy’s long-term girlfriend, an open relationship, as you spec-
“Becca.” Should I tell him? I don’t ulated. Or perhaps she is cheating.
The main point is that
have a screenshot or other
DEAR
you don’t know for sure.
evidence, because I was
So assume that there’s
so freaked out I just closed
ANNIE
an innocent explanation,
the app after seeing her
and innocently bring it up
face. And I’m worried that
with your friend — e.g.,
there’s a chance it’s another
“I saw a girl who looked
girl who looks exactly like
exactly like Becca on Tin-
his girlfriend. Also, I’m not
der! I was so shocked
sure what their relationship
that I immediately closed
is like; they could be in an
Lane
out of the app.” He can
open thing or something. Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
do with that information
We’ve never talked about
what he will, and you’ll
that, though he has talked
about being serious with her. I want have made him aware without
to stay friends with him, and I think unnecessary alarm.
Dear Annie: I lost my sweet-
hearing about potential infidel-
ity would make him want to shoot heart of 55 years last summer. A
the messenger, especially because I two-year battle with esophageal
don’t have real evidence. But I also cancer reduced the love of my life
think I’d want to know if my girl to a shell of her former self. I held
were cheating on me. I’m spiral- her hand as she passed, after mak-
ing! What should I do? — Tinder ing the life-ending decision for her.
Trouble
After staring out the window
Dear Tinder Trouble: Be for a while and listening to a few
careful not to sound the fire alarm folks tell me how I was going to
when you’re not even sure you’ve feel and what I had to do, I decided
smelled smoke. It may not have that this whole thing was bigger
been her. And if it was, there may than just me — that my family
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JULY 24, 2018
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
members and tons of friends just
lost her, too, and they were griev-
ing also. I decided to join them
every chance I got. I traveled over
6,000 miles visiting family and
friends to share our love for this
wonderful woman. I’ve enter-
tained dozens at our home to cel-
ebrate and toast our love of her. In
fact, since Thanksgiving, I have
lost four friends and family mem-
bers and have attended their funer-
als. One friend had the same terri-
ble disease as my wife. I’ve found
peace in helping his spouse as she
navigates her way through the
financial and legal mumbo-jumbo
that comes with this horrible loss.
I miss my honey every day. I
still wake up early. I still mourn
her loss. But as my daughter tells
me, “she’s up there listening.” I
realize that she would want me
to carry on. Hope this might be of
some help to others who are griev-
ing. — Don From Michigan
Dear Don: How beautiful that
you reached out to so many in
your time of grief and let empa-
thy be a healing balm. I’m sorry
for your loss, but I second your
daughter’s statement: Your wife
is up there listening. And I’ll bet
she’s mighty proud to see her hus-
band helping others.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Why is it that
when you’re in the presence of certain people,
you seem to forget everything you’ve learned
about love? Luckily, once you’re back in your
own realm, it comes back to you.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The need to be
self-sufficient is especially pronounced when
you’re feeling distrustful of the situation. This is
not necessarily a bad thing today. You’re wise
to let the situation prove worthy of your trust
before you give it.
willpower or restraint to pull off.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). People do not
always know what they need. Help people
understand what you’re offering. With the right
presentation, you can make them want what
they didn’t even know about before.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). In a capital-
ist society, people begin to think of themselves
as brands. For better or worse, it’s a valid way
of organizing your options today. Ask: “What
would (insert your own name) do?”
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Life is an adven-
ture that doesn’t come with trigger warnings.
To try and set up an accurate expectation
for others may help interactions go more
smoothly, but it also may suck out the surprise
and mystery.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Unsolicited
advice is usually taken as an affront, so you
try not to give it. And yet, when it’s offered to
you, you see it as valuable information, even if
it’s not good advice. It just lets you know how
people are thinking.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be gather-
ing inspiration today. It won’t come to you; you’ll
have to go to it. The best entry point will be
the thing that intrigues you — which is not the
thing that’s popular or the thing that “they” want
you to explore.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The one who
thinks of you often will continue to do so wheth-
er or not you check in. But you’ll find that taking
the time to connect will reward you by making
you feel good about the kind of person you are.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The last time you
cried, it wasn’t for you, but there was a part
of you that could deeply relate to the woes of
another. Today your empathy will bond you in
laughter instead of tears.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re pretty clear
about your purpose, and this will help you
move forward when the work is tough. You
won’t even stop to receive praise. You’re doing it
for your cause, not for the applause.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Silence and
smiling: two responses you can’t go wrong
with today. They’ll be appropriate in so
many situations and — bonus — will
require almost no special knowledge, skill,
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The world is
more explored than ever, but that doesn’t mean
there’s not plenty for you to find. Believe in your
uniqueness and in your ability to change a
place for the better just by trying to understand
it.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 25). You’ll
do your best work because you don’t stop to
judge, compare, doubt or ponder. You get out
of your own head and keep going. It’s a year
when the learning comes by doing, not by
thinking. Next month, good news for family is
good news for you. October brings a happy
resolution to an ongoing struggle. Cancer and
Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9,
40, 3, 32 and 1.