THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, APRIL 13, 2018
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Stuck in the middle and stressed
Dear Annie: I am a 50-year-
I really don’t know what to do.
old woman. I have two adult chil- My daughter doesn’t want me to
dren and two grandchildren. I am even talk about my relationship
a recovering addict. My daugh- to her or around the grandkids.
ter chose to stay with me during She wants me to pretend Sally
all those painful years. Now, after doesn’t exist. What can I do? —
many years alone, I finally met Stuck in the Middle
someone who loves me,
Dear Stuck in the
DEAR
and I love her — yes,
Middle: It’s unfair of
“her.” My partner is a
your daughter to not give
ANNIE
woman. “Sally” and I
your partner a chance.
have been living together
Maybe she is having a
for almost three years. I
hard time accepting your
moved out of state a year
new relationship because
ago to be with her.
it’s with another woman
Here is my issue:
and that doesn’t fit with
My son is OK with my
the image of who she
Lane
relationship — and is Annie
believes you should be
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
respectful and kind —
— in which case, she
but my daughter is a
should adjust her picture.
whole different story. She is not Or maybe this is a matter of over-
happy with my decision to be protectiveness and would happen
with another woman. She and even if you were seeing a man.
Sally have had arguments, and I It’s probably a bit of both.
And then there’s Sally. You
am tired of being put in the mid-
dle. They curse and say very should always strive for a good
harmful things to each other. I relationship with your partner’s
have spoken with Sally about this family. If a good relationship isn’t
and asked her nicely to stop get- possible, then you should at least
ting upset and saying these hurt- go for a polite one. If even that’s
ful things. I’ve asked the same not possible, then it becomes
of my daughter. They ignore my about finding some sort of peace
requests and continue to not like with that. What you absolutely
each other and to treat each other should not do is scream and curse
with disrespect.
at your partner’s family mem-
bers. Sally might rationalize it
as her defending you, but really
she’s just making your life harder.
Ask her to go to couples counsel-
ing so you can find sustainable
ways of coping with the stress
you face as a couple.
Dear Annie: Please tell your
readers about the importance of
having an optimal level of vita-
min D. The majority of doctors do
not include the test for D in rou-
tine labs, especially for those who
are younger than 65 and have not
had a problem bone scan.
Vitamin D is found in every
cell in the body. It is believed that
a large part of the population is
low in D. The reasons may not
be known, but it is true that for
many, just getting lots of sun does
not ensure an adequate level.
A low vitamin D level is often
found in people having dementia,
fibromyalgia, acne, depression,
ADHD and other maladies. — L
Dear L: You’re right that
there are many health risks asso-
ciated with vitamin D. Accord-
ing to the National Institutes of
Health, bones can become thin
or misshapen without sufficient
amounts of vitamin D. For more
information, see the NIH fact
sheets and talk to your doctor.
3C
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Can you trick
yourself into better behavior? Experiment to see
what makes you feel more generous. What if, for
a moment, you thought of your relative as your
friend’s parent or child? Would there be more
love or less love?
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). In play, children
can become professionals, get married, perform
acts of heroism and be super in any way, all
within the span of the game. You’ll feel playful like
that now and can momentarily take on any role
you desire.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). In the movie
theater, people sit together in the dark to look on
the bright side — or the dramatic, adventurous,
fantastical, horrific or thrilling side, according
to taste. The point is, in movies and in life, the
darkness helps with contrast.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you go after
too personal and specific a result, you’ll tire out
the people around you who aren’t invested in the
same thing. What can you want that others want
too? That’s the focus that will make for a happy
group.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Seeing someone
or something from your past makes you realize
what you’ve really got to get back to. Now you
have a different perspective to bring to whatever
that is.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some of your
dreams haven’t come true, but if you really did
try, then they got you into the flow of life in a way
you weren’t before. It’s a day for taking stock and
thanking your lucky stars.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). At the end of the
day, you may not see all that happened today
as progress, but hopefully you’ll sense that it
has made you better in ways you couldn’t have
anticipated or designed all by yourself.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re getting
stronger and more independent. It only helps
your relationships, as it allows you to jointly
focus on building toward the future and new
adventures instead of rehashing the same old
problems.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If you’re bored, you can
bet that others are, too. The difference is that you
have the guts to do something about it, while
others may not. Your sense of silliness will not
lead you astray.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Play potentially tricky
scenarios out in your head, because it will pay to
think ahead this weekend. Forethought will help
you manage the impression you make, your rep-
utation and the general expectations of others.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s weird, but humans
place higher value on what’s scarce than what’s
available, even if what’s available is better in most
quantifiable ways. You want people to value what
you have. How can you make it scarce?
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s comfort
in the knowledge that people think about and
care about you. That said, if you don’t want them
to bother you with their worries, don’t tell them
everything you’re up to.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 14). Be-
cause of your loyalty and sense of duty and hon-
or, you’ll excel within a particular structure. July
to September is your biggest “spurt,” and you’ll
grow in skill, rank and stature. Promises will be
exchanged in the late summer and kept for years
to come. October through the year’s end features
lighthearted adventuring and friends. Cancer and
Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 39,
22, 3 and 4.