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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, APRIL 4, 2018
Disagreeable online posts
Dear Annie: This is an issue I an endless mudslinging contest
imagine many people are having. in which everyone gets dirty and
Sometimes my family members nobody wins. If you want to talk to
post things I disagree with online. your relatives about these issues,
Many times, I’ve found myself it’d be wiser to do so in person or
typing up a comment, only to at least over the phone so you can
decide against clicking the “sub- hear each other’s tone of voice.
mit” button. I really don’t
But it would be wiser still
want to get into arguments
to focus your energy on
with loved ones about pol-
effecting positive change
itics, so I refrain from say-
in your community rather
ing anything. I just talk to
than on relatives’ minds
friends who already pretty
that don’t want changing.
much agree with me on
Dear Annie: I’m
the major issues. But that
pretty sure that I’m “the
doesn’t seem right, either.
other woman.” And no, I
Isn’t that part of why our
don’t mean the rom-com
country is so polarized Annie
kind who gets to team
right now? I feel that it’s
up with Cameron Diaz
my responsibility to have
and catch the bad guy in
civilized discussions with people action. I mean the kind who third-
with whom I disagree so I might wheels a relationship between
change their minds and they might a boy and his mother. I finally
change mine. Should I jump into found a guy I am head over heels
these conversations and speak my in love with, and he seems to feel
mind or continue to keep quiet? Is the same way about me. But it was
sharing caring? — Unsure in Ohio clearly too good to be true.
Dear Unsure: Respectfully
He is the only child of a sin-
debating ideas with differently gle mother. At first, I thought she
minded folks is healthy and pos- hated me, but then her sister let
itive. Of course, that’s not what slip that I’m the favorite girlfriend
anyone is doing on Facebook. so far. I realized that she just hates
Though there are always excep- anyone who comes between her
tions, the vast majority of polit- and her son. And honestly, that’s
ical “debate” on social media is the last thing I want to do. Annie, I
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
would love to be close to the fam-
ily of the man I love. How fantas-
tic would it be to have an extra
mom?! But I’ve tried, and she can-
not stand me, and she cannot stand
when he’s with me. She needs to
know what he’s doing and conve-
niently needs him to run errands
for her or bring her sweets or oth-
erwise be at her beck and call when
he is with me. She controls every
aspect of his life, and he is con-
stantly apologizing to me on her
behalf. It makes me frustrated. But
I can’t take it out on him, because
he’s not doing anything wrong.
To be honest, it’s starting to
wear me down. But I also can’t
say anything, as I know there’s
nothing like the bond between
a mother and her child. I would
not even consider going to war,
because I know that’s a battle I
could not win. I’m afraid to con-
front him — or her — but I fear
for my own heart and sanity if I
remain silent. I don’t want to make
him choose. — Mommy’s Third
Dear Mommy’s Third Wheel:
Until the man cuts the cord from
Mom, any romantic relationship
he has will be severely constricted.
Some have even told me that this
issue ended a marriage.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As it turns out,
common knowledge, common sense, com-
mon courtesy and even common law aren’t
common to everyone. This is a mighty fine
day to assume nothing and expect less.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Decide on
who will decide. Hint: It’s you. There have
been and will be times to compromise and
concede. This just doesn’t happen to be one
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You have many
fine qualities. However, today it’s not so
much about having a quality as it is about
having the quality that will best serve the
moment. You have that, too. Do you know
which quality it is?
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
project is now. If not now, when? Never,
most likely. And your life would be complete-
ly different in that “never” scenario. So don’t
miss out. You can do this.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The reason
people follow you is pretty simple really.
Where you go, that’s where the fun is. Now
what will you do with this pied piper charm
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The fewer
words the better. Silence is your friend. Also,
if this is about something visual that you’re
creating, the white space will be the equiva-
lent of silence. White space is your friend.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The man drove
down the boulevard smoking a cigar in a
convertible with a vanity license plate that
said “DUES PAID.” Good for him, and good
for you in some way today, too.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). In many ways,
the family dynamics will echo the dynamics
of each individual soul. For those who love
and honor the people in their lives, love and
honor comes back.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Some want the
solution and the problem in tandem. Others
want you to give them the problem so they
can come up with the solution. Still others
think you’re being lazy if you don’t start with
the solution. Which option applies?
FRANK AND ERNEST
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
WIZARD OF ID
ROSE IS ROSE
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s
one in the group who will relate to you, see
you for who you really are and ultimately
help you the most. You’ll help that person,
too. Home in on your best bet.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When the
demands of the day seem to exceed the
personal and social resources you are able
to mobilize, it’s a call to action. Even it out.
Reduce the demand or increase in the
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Today’s
unusual emotional ride will include strange
correlations and unexpected reactions. A
trick: Separate what’s happening from the
emotion attached to it. The two should come
apart pretty easily, with just a mental click.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 5).
Because you’re clear about what you have
to offer but also open to things you might
not have imagined, the unimaginable will
happen. Your passion will move obstacles.
Travels will inspire you to change something
about your personal routines. Domestic life
gets sweeter in July. New friends enter in
September. Capricorn and Leo adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 8, 20, 38, 11 and