THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MARCH 28, 2018
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Disturbing parenting behavior
Dear Annie: My daughter and ried Godmother: Please don’t
her best friend are 30. When her feel that you shouldn’t need help.
friend was 12, she lost both her We all need help sometimes, and
parents. She has been like part of asking for it is a sign of strength,
our family since then. She came not weakness. Your concerns over
home last year with a beautiful your goddaughter’s yelling at her
baby. Her husband is stuck in his child are very valid. She may not
own country awaiting a
even be aware that she is
DEAR
visa. My daughter baby-
doing it. Yelling proba-
bly is the result of anger
sits daily for her, and they
ANNIE
and stress in her life, and
are both here almost daily.
She is a wonder-
being a new single mom
ful, accomplished young
is not an easy transition.
woman, and we adore her
I would be completely
toddler. As she is a single
honest with her and ask
mom with no other fam-
her what is going on in
ily support, she relies on
her life to cause her to be
Lane
us. But she has started yell- Annie
so impatient. I’d also tell
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
ing at the baby. If he is too
her that repeated yell-
ing at the child is unac-
noisy or demanding — just
normal behavior — she loses it. ceptable. No excuses. You might
The first time it happened, I was give her some advice on how to
shocked into silence. But it has cope with an unruly toddler with-
happened again, and I have to say out resorting to yelling. You have
something. I am afraid to drive been a loving and supportive per-
her away and make things worse. son in her life. My guess is she and
She has been a truly great mom, her baby will thank you in the long
and she came back to the U.S. for run.
Dear Annie: Your advice to
better opportunity for him. Please
help me find the right words. I “Wedding Woes,” the woman
know I shouldn’t need help, but whose developmentally disabled
I’ve never had to deal with this sit- daughter has been effectively dis-
uation. — Heartbroken and Wor- invited from her other daugh-
ter’s wedding because the dis-
ried Godmother
Dear Heartbroken and Wor- abled daughter’s fiance is not
invited, completely missed the
point. Modern manners have not
changed so much that you can
fail to invite perfectly nice family
members to your wedding.
Despite the fact that the other
daughter would have preferred
not to have a wedding, she is hav-
ing one. Etiquette dictates that
if you invite immediate family,
you invite all the immediate fam-
ily. The only exception would be
family members whose presence
would be dangerous, emotion-
ally damaging or abusive. I would
think the disinviting sister would
be glad to have the fiance help
her less able sister travel, navi-
gate hotels and attend the wedding
to celebrate her happy day. Other-
wise, though I hope the two get-
ting married will be very happy
together, I suspect they won’t,
given how unkind and ungenerous
they are proving to be before the
wedding. — Catherine G.
Dear Catherine G.: True.
Unfortunately, the bride-to-be was
not the one who wrote me; it was
her mother, who does not get to
decide the guest list. It would be
much kinder and politer for the
bride to invite her sister’s fiance; I
agree, and I hope it works out that
way.
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
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ARIES (March 21-April 19). With the solar
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THATABABY
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MUTTS
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BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The discipline
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from wandering out on your own a bit today in
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leave it strong.
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A rich personal life will open the door to differ-
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