6A FEATURES Ideas on co-ed sleepovers Dear Annie: Our daughter, readers. Do parents let their husband and family moved in to teens stay the night at the house a small house next door to us as of someone of the opposite sex? they both work, and their living It seems to be the norm around close to us enables us to keep an this area nowadays. My daugh- eye out for their three daugh- ter lets the girls have mixed ters, ages 11, 11 and 15. Until company and requires that the they get two bedrooms boys sleep in one area DEAR built on the cottage, the and the girls in another. 15-year-old and one of My husband says this ANNIE the 11-year-olds will is not so. So I want to use our spare bedroom hear opinions from to sleep in. My husband your readers on this. gets upset over their I am not comfort- able with either my bringing friends home 16-year-old son or my and doing the typical granddaughters sleep- stuff children this age Lane ing in the same room do. He really gets upset Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. with members of the if their friends are of the opposite sex, but sepa- opposite sex. When my (now adult) son rate rooms and nightly checks was a teenager, my husband by adults are fine with me. — allowed him to have girls stay Not Comfortable in his room, yet he would throw Dear Not Comfortable: Let a fit if his sister (the mother of me get this straight: Your hus- these girls we are talking about) band called your daughter a even had a boy over watching a derogatory name because a boy movie. He would actually call watched a movie with her at her derogatory names. Now we your house and then went home, have a 16-year-old son, whom but he let your son do anything he lets do whatever he wants. he wanted? You need to have I’m the only disciplinarian for a serious private talk with him him, but even then, my husband and set down guidelines for your grandchildren that treat will override me. Now my question is to your boys and girls equally. As for co-ed sleepovers, I’m in agree- ment with you. Until they are 18 and living on their own, I would say that sleepovers should stay single-sex. However, you asked for opinions and facts from our readers, so I am as curious as you to see the feedback. Dear Annie: I just read the column about the woman who compulsively looks at men. She describes going into a kind of trance in which she becomes totally unaware of others, much to her distress and her husband’s dismay. For many years, I was a practicing psychotherapist, and I have seen many people expe- rience profound changes as a result of their work with a ther- apist. However, I think this woman needs to have a neuro- logical work-up. What she is experiencing reminds me of a client of mine who had a seizure disorder. 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