THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 20, 2017
FEATURES
Wait for shift change or new job?
Dear Annie: For the past year, (beyond just the convenience of
I have been working as a licensed the schedule), go for it. But before
nursing assistant, taking care of you give two weeks’ notice to your
residents. I love the patients, and current employer, be sure you’ve
I’ve gotten very close to them. But secured the new job — i.e., you
the facility administration itself have an offer letter in hand. Good
doesn’t work with employees to luck.
meet their needs. I have
Dear
Readers:
DEAR
requested to work morn-
Recently, I printed a let-
ter from “Overwhelmed
ing shifts for months now
ANNIE
in Michigan,” who com-
because my man gets out
plained that his wife
at 4 p.m. and I want to be
doesn’t help enough
able to spend my nights
around the house. His let-
with him and my family or
ter hit a nerve, it seems, as
friends. I’ve made multiple
I received many responses
requests, and the adminis-
trators can’t seem to work
from readers. Here are a
Lane
around my schedule to give Annie
few of my favorites.
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
me the shift I’m asking for.
Dear Annie: “Over-
whelmed in Michigan”
After a few weeks of feel-
ing unheard and pushed aside, I really hit home! I’m 67 and grate-
started looking at other options for ful every day for the good fortune
my career. There is a job that could of living to enjoy my retirement
pay me more and still offer bene- years. “Overwhelmed” appears to
fits I need for my family and future. be a workaholic who expects oth-
Should I expand my opportunities ers to buy into his inability to smell
and leave or just wait till the shift I the roses. Maybe “Overwhelmed”
want becomes available? — A Girl should calculate how much his
Trying to Make a Living
partner’s cooking, cleaning and
Dear AGTTMAL: I think the other services have contributed to
answer is in your question. You his lifestyle over the years.
said that leaving this job would
The complaint against his wife
mean expanding your opportuni- and niece relates to a scene at the
ties. If the position you’re consid- end of the movie “Mary Poppins.”
ering makes sense as a career move Maybe “Overwhelmed” needs to
stop the rat race he has created and
say “let’s go fly a kite” with his
wife before it’s too late. — Enjoy-
ing Retirement
Dear Enjoying Retirement:
You’re not the only one who
thought “Overwhelmed” should go
fly a kite. Read on.
Dear Annie: I am writing to
“Overwhelmed in Michigan.” My
wife is the same — a bit negligent
around the house but attentive in
her relationships with loved ones.
If her kids call and need a baby sit-
ter, she goes instead of cleaning the
house. We had a close friend who
had cancer, and my wife organized
all our friends to be there for her
and was always ready to do what-
ever was needed. When our friend
died, my wife was there helping
with the arrangements and consol-
ing the family.
Everyone thinks she’s the most
wonderful person in the world.
And you know what? So do I.
Mr. Overwhelmed, if your
wife wants to go fly a kite with
the grandkids, put down your tools
and join her. Hold off on the grum-
bling. You’ll be so much hap-
pier. — Happily Married in New
Hampshire
Dear Happily Married: Beau-
tifully said. Thanks for writing.
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You can’t expect
to think differently if you’re using the same
references as everyone else. For this reason
and more, it’s time to go digging deeper for
new influences.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Knowing your
weakness is the first step. From there you can
build on your strengths enough to compen-
sate, find a way to capitalize on the inherent
gift in your weakness, or work directly to
develop the weak area.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). People may
ask about your plans, but you might want to
show them what you’ve already done instead.
That will speak with more volume and clarity,
leaving no room for doubt.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There’s some-
thing to be said for feeling like you have to
impress a person. It will be interesting to see
how the nearness of such a person changes
your approach. Of course, it’s nicer to be with
people who already get you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’re so close to
success on a project, though you may have
to redefine it. For instance, success may be
simply finishing the thing so you can move on
and never look at it again.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Breathe. Of
course, that’s not your only job in the process
of helping this thing along. Breathing in;
breathing out; plus investing some of your
faith: Hit those three, and then step back. Your
job is done.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It might sound
like a mean thing, but a big part of your
happiness, success and well-being is just
knowing who to stay away from. It’s better to
be alone than with an influence that makes
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
you behave as less than you really are.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). On this day of
cosmic change, you’ll adapt more easily to
the transition than most, if only because you
long ago accepted the temporary nature of all
things. For this reason and more, someone
wants to hold your hand.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
don’t have to wait until tomorrow to get your
second chance. By then you might not even
want it anymore. To a person of action, now is
the second chance — and now and now.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The bottle
of water by your side helps you stop and think
while you stop and drink. A more thoughtful
(and hydrated) approach to speaking with
people and doing your work will lead to an
important breakthrough.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll be in
a position to defend a person or idea, and
because you’re so loyal you’ll do this well. For
this reason, knowing whether the person or
idea is in the right will be crucial. Find out first.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s that
one person you like to have around — the
one who’s like a candle in a dark room,
mysterious, warm and always casting a lovely
quality of light on you.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 21). Your
creativity is going strong through the end of
the year, but it’s your practical efforts and
team building actions that carry a plan to the
payout. Give your body a new way to express
your energy in 2018. You’re strong, graceful
and competitive. The places you see will in-
vite you back: This is love. Leo and Capricorn
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 27, 15,
42 and 50.