THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 10, 2017
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Twisted test of loyalty
Dear Annie: My husband would you suggest I do? —
and I have been married for Happy or Sad
Dear Happy or Sad: If he
more than 40 years. During the
first five years of our marriage, truly was making up these lies
he confessed to several instances about cheating as some kind of
of infidelity. He begged for for- test of your loyalty, that’s pretty
twisted. If he did cheat but now
giveness. I forgave him.
has decided to rewrite
Well, recently, I
DEAR
history and pretend he
found out he was lying
wasn’t an adulterer,
and never actually had
ANNIE
that’s pretty twisted,
slept with other women.
too. Which is true? At
He told me that he had
this point, the more
been questioning my
important question is
loyalty and made up sit-
why he would jerk you
uations to see whether
around like this at all.
I loved him enough to
Such emotional abuse
forgive him and that
Lane
is unacceptable.
I had passed the test. Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Tell your husband
Well, yes, I forgave
that if you’re to ever
him each time because
I loved him, but my feelings free yourselves from the tan-
about him did change a little gled web he’s woven, it will be
from the hurt of the supposed through marriage counseling. If
infidelity. I went through hell he refuses, I encourage you to
internally back then, but I didn’t attend counseling on your own.
Dear Annie: “Ongoing
let him know.
I don’t understand what Unhappiness” wrote to you
would make someone do that. complaining that her daughter-
He has been an excellent hus- in-law is a hypochondriac. She
band for the past 35 years, but may not be.
For 30 years, I suffered pain
I could have had a much better
marriage had he not lied the first and surgeries that I later under-
five years. I can’t stop thinking stood most likely could have
of how things could have been been avoided had I had a true
and what the real truth is. What diagnosis of fibromyositis, now
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
known as fibromyalgia. It took
30 years to diagnose. Pain hap-
pens all over. It can feel like a
bruise when someone touches
you. It can cause debilitating
pain when you bend over —
which is the impetus for unnec-
essary gallbladder or kidney sur-
gery or a hysterectomy when a
doctor is mystified by the pain.
I became uninsurable because of
those pained years. I was mis-
diagnosed numerous times, had
surgery after surgery and took
medication after medication.
None of it stopped the pain.
Too many people are consid-
ered hypochondriacs by those
around them because they’ve
never had a day free of pain. That
is not to say “Ongoing Unhappi-
ness’” daughter-in-law is in that
category, but it sounds as if she
could be. — Been There, Under-
stand That
Dear Been There, Under-
stand That: Chronic undiag-
nosed pain can have an incred-
ibly dispiriting impact on one’s
life and outlook. I’m glad you
eventually got the correct diag-
nosis. Perhaps your letter will
inspire someone suffering sim-
ilar pain not to give up looking
for answers.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). If it’s good, it will
be good in many situations. You’ll be able to
present it with pride. You won’t have to wonder
whether or not it’s going to hold up. Look for
what’s good. What has integrity. Look for it, and
honor it.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The saying goes,
“You can’t hunt two hares with one dog.” There
will be multiple options available to you, but
only one viable one. Which one is that? Either,
really, as long as it’s the only one you choose.
So choose one and chase.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The takeaway
isn’t always something neat and clean that you
can tuck away in a wallet like a business card.
The takeaway might be a messy little feeling.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Work on.
Work how you are. Work when you’re up,
sluggish, inspired, tired, enthused or used.
Work for you. And work because the real glory
is in the work.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You work this way,
they work that way... now how does it all work
together? That’s the question to be answered
today, and you’ll answer it best when you col-
laborate with a Taurus or a Sagittarius.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There is no
perfect partner. The list of qualities that might
make up such a person go out the window as
it becomes clearer to you what really matters
now — namely chemistry and compatible
lifestyles.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your loved ones
appreciate you, though you can’t feel it at all
times. When do you feel it most? When there’s
enough space and time between you for them
to get some perspective on your wonderful
qualities.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There’s a habit
you’ve been trying to break, and you certainly
can. The answer is right in front of you. All it
will take is one good you-to-you talk to sort it
all out.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). People think they
can help you, and yet they have no concept
of what it is you really do. It goes against all
you’re thinking, and yet it really is true: The
only one to fill the role the way you do it is you.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It’s so easy
to explore new worlds these days; you’re only
a few keyboard clicks away from it. You’ll dive
into a virtual adventure and learn so well about
what’s there that you’ll soon be able to give a
tour on the subject.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The critical
thinking might not serve you so well right now,
and you shouldn’t let the details weigh you
down. If you refuse to get mired in minutiae
you’ll get a powerful big-picture perspective.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You will solve
problems and generate ideas while your brain
is in a kind of default mode, occupied gently
by some kind of low-stress rhythm, such as
the type created by walking, driving, showering
and the like.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 11). You’ll
meet the people you want to know right at the
start of this solar return. Love fills your life with
joy. It all happens for one reason — because
you’re paying attention, seizing opportunities
to connect. A perspective shift and a new way
of setting up your days will make you more
productive in 2018. Taurus and Sagittarius
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 1, 13,
7 and 41.