THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 2017
FEATURES
Past infidelity still haunts
Dear Annie: I have been don’t know whether your hus-
married for seven years. My band is using you or whether
husband has had not one, but he’ll cheat again. But I know
several affairs. And he didn’t you’re unhappy in this rela-
just have affairs; he had two tionship, and something needs
kids born six weeks apart to change. That might mean
from two different women. I leaving him and building a
love my husband and
healthy sense of inde-
DEAR
pendence; it might
am helping him raise
these children, who
mean staying together
ANNIE
and learning to put
are now 2 years old.
I keep telling myself
the infidelity behind
the kids are inno-
you. Either way, you
will find the necessary
cent and it’s not their
tools in therapy.
fault they’re the prod-
Dear Annie: You
ucts of affairs, and I
recently
published
want to help them. I
Lane
a
letter
from
“Tor-
still feel he’s mess- Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
tured in New York,”
ing around. Even if
a woman who is
he’s not, the fear will
always be in my mind. I don’t “uncomfortable” with oppo-
know whether it’s just my not site-sex nurses. You supported
wanting to be alone or I do her desire to have only female
actually love him this much. nurses and said the hospi-
I am really confused and can’t tal should have honored her
help but wonder whether this request immediately when she
man loves me as I love him. protested a male nurse’s car-
Is he using me because I’m ing for her. What would you
older and settled? — Lost and say, then, if a man requested
that only male nurses examine
Confused
Dear Lost and Confused: him and help him in a clinical
There’s so much to unpack setting? Would you agree with
from your letter, and there’s him that his request should be
hardly space here to begin. I honored immediately? Hon-
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
estly, I am a man who would
always prefer that only male
medical professionals see me
naked, but I don’t expect that
because it would be sexist for
me to demand such. But when
I have a colonoscopy every
five years, for example, I’d
prefer a male nurse dress me
afterward. So far, it’s always
been a female nurse. I’m
embarrassed when I come
completely conscious and see
her. — A Shy Man in Texas
Dear Shy Man: To clar-
ify, I did not tell “Tortured
in New York” that she had a
right to a female nurse or that
the hospital should have hon-
ored her request immediately.
I only told her she could make
such a request and the staff
members would most likely
do what they could to accom-
modate her. Since the letter
ran, I’ve received feedback
from medical profession-
als affirming that position.
Though there’s no guarantee
you’ll get a male nurse if you
request one, it doesn’t hurt to
ask. Just be sure to do so well
in advance, preferably when
making your appointment.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). They’re falling
in love with your smile. If only they knew how
difficult it can be to take the sunny route. It’s
often automatic, but just as often not. Some-
thing good usually happens when levity wins,
though.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). How much caring
is too much? You’ll wonder this as your love
expands along with your involvement in, and
expectations of, a relationship. Take your time.
This part requires thoughtfulness and space.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are people
from your past whose paths you may never
cross again who think of you in a certain way.
You can’t control or change that, but you can
definitely make a fresh impression on the peo-
ple you meet today.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). To wish for an
easy route — well, it wouldn’t be wrong, but it
wouldn’t be you, either. You’ll take what comes
naturally and know what it feels like to get
stronger and smarter for the work.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Some will find the way;
others will find the excuse. You’re at a point
where you need to decide how much it means
to you. Much will be riding on how important
the mission is and how deeply you are commit-
ted to it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Reality and your
dream of it do not seem very far apart from
one another today. But there are still a few key
differences. Take these obstacles into consider-
ation one by one. Be methodical.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Conflict comes from
facing life head-on. So does peace. Avoidance
keeps the tension going unnecessarily. Today,
everything is better handled very quickly if not
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
immediately. Speak to each moment in that
moment.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The people in
charge may place roadblocks to deter the
faint-hearted or those who are only mildly
interested. You’ve every reason to keep trying.
You’ll quickly prove you’re not in that category,
and doors will open to you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The leader-
ship position will come with stressful respon-
sibilities and expectations, and yet somehow
that won’t bother you the way it would others.
Things will be better when you’re in charge.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Relax and
let things unfold naturally. Even with today’s
lengthy to-do list, you’ll approach with the right
attitude, handle it all and even have some fun
along the way.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You see funny
things today — or maybe you just notice what’s
always been there but you suddenly see the
humor in it. Stress levels go down with every
laugh.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Opportunities will
present themselves in coy, understated ways.
The best one will sit quietly, not drawing much
attention. You won’t be fooled. You know a good
thing when you see it. Seize the moment.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 27). A win-
win: You’ll inspire people as you look for inspira-
tion yourself. You’ll get to know someone much
better and this will lead to lifestyle upgrades
and improvements. The spiritual work you do
has very practical benefits in 2018. Romance
decorates your year. You’ll complete a study or
big project in May. Aries and Taurus adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 7, 39, 2, 28 and 44.