THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JUNE 16, 2017 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Antidepressants suppress sex drive Dear Annie: My husband effects of antidepressants. Talk to your husband, tak- takes antidepressants. He suffers from severe anxiety and attention ing special care not to make him deficit hyperactivity disorder. If he feel guilty or defensive about his doesn’t take his pills, he’s tough to lack of sex drive. His doctor could be around. He becomes depressed. suggest solutions — antidepres- His attitude toward everything is sants that aren’t associated with decreased sex drive, for negative. He stays in bed. DEAR example, or medications He sleeps all day. It’s an to treat erectile dysfunc- ugly sight. ANNIE tion. A doctor might also We met when we refer you to a sex thera- were in our 20s. Life was pist or couples counselor carefree when we fell in to address any underly- love. We were young, ing issues in your sex and all that mattered was life. spending time together. Dear Annie: “Sad Most importantly, our Lane Nana With So Much to sex life was great. We’re Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. Be Thankful For” cer- currently in our late 30s. tainly struck a chord Nowadays, we have “adult” problems — such as jobs, with your readers. I’d like to pro- a mortgage and maintaining our vide perspective from someone health. Those are normal obsta- in the same boat as “Sad Nana’s” children. cles for any married couple. My mother is the sole care- Now include the fact that my husband seems to have zero giver for my terminally ill father, sex drive from the antidepres- who is in hospice. Mom refuses all sants and, as a result, we never help — except for that provided have sex. I want him to not be by her children. We, as Mom’s depressed, but I also have needs. hired help, are all exhausted and What should I do? — Amorous frustrated that our remaining time with our dad is being orchestrated Spouse Dear Amorous: Cruel but true by her. “Sad Nana” needs to remem- — decreased sex drive is among the most commonly reported side ber that her children are losing their father, just as she is losing a spouse. Perhaps “Sad Nana’s” children want to use their remain- ing time with their dad visiting, recalling cherished memories and making peace with his imminent death. Asking the children to pre- pare meals, cook and clean for her reduces their role in their dad’s life to that of hired help. I suggest that “Sad Nana” invest in profes- sional services or take advantage of those provided by Medicare or perhaps her church family. I imagine that “Sad Nana’s” husband would rather she be by his side as his wife rather than nursemaid — and his children be children rather than hired help. “Sad Nana” made her choice; she should avoid holding others accountable for it. — Dying to Be With Dad as a Daughter Dear Dying to Be With Dad: Your letter speaks to the impor- tance of making use of all hospice care and all other available care covered by insurance. If you’ve not expressed your frustration to your mom, it’d be worth doing so. I’m so sorry to hear what your family is going through, and I truly hope you get to spend some quality time with your father. 3C By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ve a multifac- eted skill set. When you don’t get to use some of these skills for a long time, you start to feel diminished. You forget all of who you are. To be able to exercise your competence will be a major lift to your spirit. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). When beliefs fuse into something more like stubbornness, it’s time to re-examine. Inflexible thoughts lead to intolerance and restriction. Go the opposite way and you’ll invite freshness, creativity and vitality. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s true that things can get pretty competitive in your professional arena. Perhaps it seems counterintuitive, but as you approach with compassion, caring and affection, this will only enhance your profes- sional potential. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Living by your values makes you a success. It can be done at any income level, as it’s not a matter of high finance but of high return on the potential of your soul. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The winner of the game isn’t always one who wins the trophy; often it’s the one who wins hearts. To be better is to be kinder. In the long run, kindness and love will be the score that matters. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your contribution is exciting. And though you may not like every- thing they have to say about you today, rest assured there’s plenty of positive in it. Anyway, it’s better to be talked about than not. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The sunshine is in you. Search for it, call on it, and draw it up. This will be easier when you’re around people who crave levity and laughter as much as you do today. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The bridge from one moment to the next is called courage. Don’t worry about where you’ll find it, as it’s activated by one foot stepping in front of the other. March on. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Caring about the way your project looks and feels doesn’t make you superficial, it makes you human — a being to whom aesthetics typically matter a great deal and has mattered for thou- sands of years. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). How about you: Do you doubt what can’t be seen, or do you believe in the magic of invisible forces? Fortunately, the forces don’t depend on your belief to render aid, as evidenced by today’s unexplainable phenomenon. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Life is a swing, back and forth, back and forth. The pendulum’s nature is to flee; the pendulum’s nature is to return. Pleasurable circumstances are tempo- rary. So are uncomfortable ones. Hang on for the change. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Some will pray to St. Anthony, the patron saint of lost objects. Others will meditate on the lost object in ques- tion, while still others will trace their own steps. Whatever your method, you’ve a lucky talent for recovery today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 17). Your blessings will multiply; a fairy-godmother type comes into your life in July. Before August is over, you’ll figure out something that’s vexed you for years. You’ll give a life-changing gift in October. Your secret wish gets a plan in No- vember and a team in January. Until then, keep brainstorming. Scorpio and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 44, 28, 11 and 29.