THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, MAY 19, 2017
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His wife wants out
Dear Annie: Six weeks what we had and decide that it’s
ago, my wife of 14 years and worth fighting for. But recently,
the mother of my two kids told she said that I need to accept that
me that our marriage is over. it’s over. She is no longer wear-
She said that for the past sev- ing her wedding ring, yet she
eral years, we’ve been growing still expects me to play my part
apart. She is not will-
when it comes to inter-
DEAR
ing to see a marriage
actions with our friends.
I still love my wife
counselor because she
ANNIE
and would do anything
is already at peace with
to save our marriage,
this decision. This reve-
but living with her with-
lation blindsided me.
out truly living with her
I started working
may be more than I can
from the house five
take. Is it better for our
years ago so I could be
kids if I continue to live
more involved with the
Lane
a lie and just suffer in
kids and to help my Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
silence? — Trying to
wife focus more on her
Save My Marriage
career. I have also man-
Dear Trying: I’m so sorry
aged to make a good income.
While I have been working from you’re going through this. The
home, my wife has been excel- torrent of emotions you’re expe-
ling in her career. She recently riencing is too much for any per-
received a promotion and a raise. son to process alone. Although
The past few weeks have your wife isn’t willing to go to
been a challenge. We want to try counseling, I urge you to seek
to shelter the kids for as long as some form of counseling on
possible. We’re still living in the your own.
Children can sense when
same house, but I’m sleeping in
the spare room. She agreed to things are wrong, so you aren’t
give this a try for six months. doing them any favors by “suf-
Originally, I had hoped that if fering in silence.” The best thing
I stayed in the house, my wife you can do for them is to focus
might see some tiny spark of first and foremost on your own
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
mental health during this time of
immense stress.
Dear Annie: I read your col-
umn regularly. But I question
your response to “Heartbro-
ken Mom,” the very unhappy
new mother who has gone
back to work. Twelve weeks is
hardly enough time for a mom
to recover after giving birth. As
a seasoned grandmother, I say
that six months of recovery time
would be about right.
This young sweet mother
is probably experiencing some
serious after-birth depression.
She needs to see her doctor
ASAP. Please, Annie, send her
some additional advice! — Joan
AFF
Dear Joan: “Heartbro-
ken Mom” isn’t experiencing
postpartum depression; rather,
she’s frustrated that going back
to work has meant missing
out on precious moments with
her daughter. However, I hear
your concern. I would urge any
new mothers who are feeling
depressed to talk to their doc-
tors immediately. Postpartum
depression affects more than 1
in 10 women and is dangerous if
left untreated.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your mind will
wander, as is the nature of minds. Though you
shouldn’t always concern yourself with where it
goes, or take random thoughts seriously, you’ll
benefit from investigating tonight’s thought
patterns.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you try to man-
age your own behavior like a boss trying to con-
trol the staff through micromanagement, you’ll be
met with irritation, resentment and backbiting. It’s
a day for kind, gentle and tolerant self-care.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Some you will have
to entertain. Your favorites, though, will be those
self-entertaining types who will come up with a
lot of interesting work and/or fun when you ask,
“What do you want to do now?”
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Possessions are
not inherently precious to you, but you make
them precious through your associations. Others
don’t feel the same. Differing views about money
and the material world will need to be worked
out today.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People are more fragile
than they seem. You know to be gentle with the
young and the old, but you don’t stop there. Your
kind attention toward those who seem tough
and able may be where your care does the most
good today.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re naturally
self-controlled, polite without effort and inclined
to listen to the opinions and stories of others with
a level of attention that makes them feel seen
and accepted.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Looking back years
from now, your time will be far more memorable
and meaningful if you spend it on an adventure
than on the regular same ol’, same ol’. It may cost
a little more and be slightly inconvenient, but
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
don’t let that stop you!
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It turns out that
you don’t need as much as you thought you
would. Bonus: It’s easy to let it go. Even if your
generosity is foolish, it’s so important for you to
give. The ultimate benefactor will, of course, be
you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You have
a gift for exploring the interests of others while
still remaining true to yourself. This talent will
broaden you even further today, and you’ll be
surprised at how you can apply what you learn.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A craving
can seem like a curse that wears down your
resistance to temptation for things that aren’t the
best for you. However, there’s also a message in
a craving about a deeper need. Search for the
root meaning of it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Often even a
terrible situation can be made far less so by
the slightest amount of levity. Taking things too
seriously usually makes them worse. Only the
light can drive out darkness.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If you think too far
ahead you might freak yourself out, especially
in matters of relationships. Take it slow. One day
at a time may be too fast. One hour at a time is
better.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 20). Gather
souvenirs, because you’ll want to remember this
happy time! Your world will get more vivid, as
fresh experiences open your eyes to color and
nuance. Schooling will be involved, as well as
the influence of younger people and technology.
Love starts with simple courtesy and respect
and will grow from there. Virgo and Capricorn
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 45, 13, 2
and 49.