8A FEATURES An old flame still flickers Dear Annie: I recently recon- emotional about how well I treat nected with an old girlfriend. We her and how much I spoil her and had not spoken, texted or seen how amazingly sweet I am now. each other in almost five years. She said, “No one has ever treated She broke my heart about five me as well as you do now!” That’s years ago, and my mother was exactly how I promised myself I killed shortly after that. I’ve not would try to behave. I’ve fallen in love with dated or wanted to have a DEAR her. I’m so scared to tell serious relationship since. her, and I’m so scared About three months ANNIE to lose her. But I want ago, I told my daugh- her to know I’ve fallen ter that I was ready to for her now much dif- meet someone. So she ferently than I did in the brought up Match.com past. I always ask her and signed me up, just so now, “Were you like this I could browse. The very before — funny, smart, first profile I saw was Lane witty?” She says, “Yes, my ex-girlfriend’s! My Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. but you were blind to it daughter said, “Text her, before!” And I was. I was Dad. It’s a sign.” After debating it, I did. And I came to going through a very bad divorce find out that she really had not and losing a business, just to name dated anyone in five years, either, a couple of things. How do I convince her of this? and that she had stopped browsing Match.com more than a year and I always tell her I’m insanely crazy about her. She tells me she a half ago. Well, we started texting and feels the same. We are almost 50, then meeting for lunch and then and I’m not sure I can go through dinner, and next thing I know, we another heartbreak. — Lost Love Dear Lost: Anything worth- are spending almost all our time together. I was not the best boy- while comes with some risk. To friend years ago, but I changed win big, you have to bet big, and so much after my mother’s death. from the sound of this love affair And this woman really noticed a so far, I’m betting on you. Just huge change in me. She even got tell her you love her. Even if she doesn’t say it back, telling peo- ple you love them is great for their soul and yours. Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our mid-80s and don’t eat nearly so much as we did in our younger years. When we go out to eat, we usually share a meal. If we take guests out, we expect to pay for their meal. We try to allow the guests to order first, as it can make for an awkward situation if they order a full meal each and then we split a meal. I think this makes them feel uncomfortable. What is your take on this? — W.C. in Way- cross, Ga. Dear W.C.: My take is that you’re very considerate, generous people. Based on that fact, I’m sure that however you’re handling the situation now is the correct way to do so. Insisting that your guests order first is a good tactic to ensure that they don’t downgrade their order after seeing that you two are splitting one entree. But don’t feel bashful about politely explaining, “We simply don’t have the appetites we used to, and we enjoy sharing a plate. But please, order whatever you’d like. Our treat.” Such a warm state- ment, said with a smile, will surely melt away any awkwardness. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, APRIL 27, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You care — a lot! In fact, today you may find that you care slightly more than feels healthy for you or good for the relationship. What would happen if you let go and trusted life’s process? TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A selfish someone would have you believe that doing what makes you happy is an indulgence. It couldn’t be fur- ther from the truth. Do what makes your heart sing today, and the world will dance joyfully to your song. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s said that pen- guins fall in love and even give each other gifts. A male penguin has been known to search an entire beach for the right pebble for his mate. You’ve pretty high standards for love yourself these days. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’re not petty; you’re generous! You don’t condemn anyone for committing minor social sins, such as interrupt- ing others or talking over the entertainment. And yet, today, you’ll favor those with superior social habits. of closure. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You may be considering taking things to the next level in a relationship, going from someone’s “other” to someone’s “only.” Whether this is business-re- lated or personal, exclusivity is a pretty big step, not to be rushed into. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). In the same way that marketers know scarcity can create an immediate impulse to buy, loss triggers love. Often, “the one that got away” is suddenly con- sidered the best you’ve ever had, immediately after “getting away.” CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In some ways, you’ve become what you envisioned; you em- body what you once envied; you project what you once only fantasized about. Satisfaction in this will be brief. You’re already questing anew. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Do all you can to fortify your spirit and restore your body. Set yourself up to awaken in a good mood tomorrow so you’re strong and ready for an amazing opportunity coming your way. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ve endured plenty of adversity on your own. The people who are in your life are there because you want them there, not because you need them. Today they sense your strength and also their honored position. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You don’t regret building your life around certain people and principles, but you do recognize that things change. You’ll reorganize to make room for new influences. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re often hope- ful, but it’s not necessarily your first response. That’s why the one who makes you feel like there’s something special and magical in your future is a person you should hang out with more often. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 28). Re- lationships will thrive on stability. It’s a year for extending roots, but that doesn’t mean you can’t also take vacations. In May you’ll be offered what you’ve longed for. You’ll follow your loved one into unknown territory and come to love the adventure you share there. Excellent news comes in June; a windfall comes in November. Sagittarius and Leo adore you. Your lucky num- bers are: 1, 40, 33, 35 and 19. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s as though there was a leap without a landing. The unfinished thoughts are beautiful in their incompleteness, if you can bear the tension that takes the place FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. 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