The daily Astorian. (Astoria, Or.) 1961-current, April 05, 2017, Page 6A, Image 6

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Family leaves her out
Dear Annie: A few years I ordered online that is still sit-
ago, my son “Bill” and his ting unassembled in boxes.
family moved to a new state. Bill lives less than five min-
They left me behind with no utes away but always has a rea-
family or friends because they son for why he can’t help me
chose my ex over me (because around the house — e.g., his
I’m disabled and they needed long hours at work, his three
someone to help with
children and his house-
the kids while they
work. My ex-hus-
were at work). It
band also lives with
broke my heart, to the
them, and my daugh-
point that I didn’t care
ter-in-law has told me
whether I lived or died.
that he does the laun-
dry. To me, that is the
I prayed to God to
help me, and thanks to
ing chore. I don’t see
Him, I ended up find-
how housework could
ing an apartment that
fill all your days off
I could afford in my Annie
Syndicate Inc.
if laundry is already
son’s new town. I was
done for you!
so excited that I’d be
I just want my apartment
close to my grandbabies and
my son. I got a Realtor, a mov- to look the way that I envi-
ing company and a plane ticket. sioned it. I live on disabil-
Things started going badly ity and can’t really afford to
as soon as I got there. My son pay people to come help. My
and his wife didn’t bring my son and his wife have no prob-
grandbabies to the airport, and lem coming over and borrow-
all we did was ride past their ing money from me. (I took out
house. When I asked about a $5,000 loan for them in my
going to see his new house, he name.) I’m feeling alone and
told me that I was being over- depressed. Should I give up on
bearing and I’d go to his house their helping me and including
when he invited me. I started to me in family events? — Bro-
question why I’d even moved. kenhearted Mom
Dear Brokenhearted: All
I have a bunch of furniture
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
the outside help in the world
won’t help you if you don’t
first learn to help yourself.
Achieving more personal inde-
pendence will allow you to
have a healthier relationship
with your family. It will also
empower you to have a health-
ier relationship with yourself.
Try getting involved with
a local church or community
activity to make some friends.
Don’t give your son any more
loans. Instead, save that money
for you. As soon as you can
afford it, hire a handyman for
one day (ask a neighbor for
a recommendation) to come
assemble the furniture that’s
still sitting in boxes. It will be
well worth the money for you
to have the peace and rest that
come with a happy nest.
Finally, you mentioned at
one point not caring about
whether you lived or died.
Please, if you’re ever in such a
dark place again, reach out to
a counselor, a religious adviser
or the National Suicide Pre-
vention Lifeline (800-273-
8255). Do not give up. There is
a light at the end of the tunnel;
in fact, there’s light all around
it. You just can’t see it yet.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). What if you just
do what’s easy for you? The thing you’re
struggling against will drift away. You’ll find
out that some of the drama in your life was
totally unnecessary. There’s a lot that just
isn’t your battle to fight.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll find a
partner, and then you’ll find another. Which
is best? Why do you need just one? Both will
do. Two partners will be best in this instance.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Solving the
problem will be better than escaping it. A
fellow air sign will be your best ally in this
endeavor. Air signs are Gemini, Libra and
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There is a
mysterious world inside of you. The one who
recognizes that you are no ordinary person,
that there is a special and complicated puz-
zle in you that can never be solved — this
person will capture your heart.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The world is
your playground. Playgrounds are not inher-
ently exciting, though. They need people on
them to be of interest. Of course, if nothing
is fun, it’s not the thing; it’s you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Every-
one knows that diversity makes the group
stronger. If you are different from the rest,
they need you. And don’t try to attract people
who think like you. You’ll be better for the
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ve
done a lot of believing in the strengths and
competence of others. It’s about time you
thought about your own might. Your compe-
tencies are real. Believe.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People have
a tendency to adjust their values to fit their
behavior. Maybe both are out of whack. You’ll
look at your situation with more compassion
and try to find a frame that fits.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Is it a waste of
time to organized? No one will pay you or
award you for it. Yet being organized is a
huge benefit. It helps you think better and be
better. You won’t regret today’s organizational
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Give two
people the exact same information and each
will react radically differently. This is why
you stock your life with a bunch of different
friends from varied backgrounds. You want a
global view of things.
VIRGO: You know how people are. Give ’em
the same stuff and they will find radically
different ways of interpreting it. It’s essential
that you find your own interpretation. No one
else’s will fit.
gravitate toward creative people this year,
and you’ll find a group of friends that really
supports you there. Attractive people will
decorate your life in the next 10 weeks. The
change next month will take some adjusting
to, but you’ll get there and be happier for the
process. Solve a problem at work; make a
ton of money in July. Taurus and Virgo adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 30, 22, 21
and 13.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The words “I love
you” can mean all kinds of things, most com-
monly today, “Let’s get off the phone.” Your
sensitivity to the meaning behind the words
will steer you well.