8A FEATURES A family’s religious divide Dear Annie: My husband, who go against his wishes. Forget about is serving in the Army, is loving and having it in a non-Catholic way, caring and is a wonderful father to because I’d end up disappointing his two children. He works hard for my family. I am torn between what his family. He just has one flaw: He my family wants and what my hus- has a very strong contempt for the band wants. I hate being the middle woman and just don’t want to do it Roman Catholic Church. at all. — The Torn Middle My family raised me DEAR Woman Catholic, but I left the Dear Torn: Instead church because of a lack of ANNIE of considering yourself interest. I consider myself the “middle woman,” a part-timer (attending you might want to think during holidays). When I of yourself as the leader brought up about how he of the pack. Take it upon felt about getting married yourself to find a coun- in a church, he went into a selor with whom you and tirade. I never brought up Annie Lane your husband can discuss the subject again. Creators Syndicate Inc. this matter and with whom When our son was your husband might con- born, I considered having a baptism at my church because tinue to meet one-on-one. He must it’s a tradition in my family — address the anger and hurt that this and he threatened to leave. I asked horrible trauma inflicted on him. him why he has such strong feel- The Survivors Network of those ings about this, wondering whether Abused by Priests offers many something happened in his past. resources, from free downloadable He finally told me that when he literature to a directory of support was a child, he was close to a priest groups. Visit http://www.snapnet- who ended up taking advantage of work.org for more information. Dear Annie: I was disappointed him. It was a shock. He requested that I not share this with anyone. I in your response to the 25-year-old woman whose friend wants to go decided to honor his wishes. Now I just had my daughter. His to parties given by men she doesn’t family and my family would like to really know. The friend admit- have a baptism, but I do not want to ted that she didn’t know the peo- ple throwing one party that well but said they would have “good beer and hot guys.” You told the letter writer to “loosen up” and be “less judgmental.” Do you not read the news or watch TV? Last night on TV, it was said that people are now encouraged to take a bottle opener with them and never drink from a container that is already open. It is too easy to slip drugs into a drink at a party, and you should be espe- cially careful if you don’t really know the people handing out the drinks. Too many young women are being drugged without their knowledge. One of the new drugs cannot be tasted and can put you into a coma. One young woman showed up at the emergency room in a coma. She had been somewhere, drunk what she thought was a simple Moun- tain Dew and ended up in a coma. My advice is to never go to a party where you don’t know the people well and only drink a drink that you have opened. Those were my rules for my kids. — Safe Is Best Dear Safe: I agree that safety is paramount. However, I stand by my advice that “Murky Waters” ought not to dismiss her best friend’s new friends out of hand, even if she doesn’t want to go out to parties. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 30, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). When you’re grown, no one has to sign a permission slip for you to go on the field trip, you just go. Maybe you forgot this and you’re still waiting for permission to adventure. Grant it to your- self and take off. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Carefully consider the story you’re presenting to the world. A minor reworking in the way you talk about yourself and/or your business will be the difference between creating attraction and neutrality. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your desire to make other people’s lives better will make yours better, too. Note that “easier” is some- times better, but not always. Be careful not to confuse the two. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). What sty- mies you in today’s situation is that you have a motive at all. Recognize what you want out of this and then let it go. Decide instead that you simply want the best for all involved. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). They’ll tell you that balance is a myth. They may be right. However, since each person is weighted dif- ferently (both psychically and physically) no one can define balance for another person. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Not every- thing is going to work, but something should! When one attempt after another lands in disarray, it’s time to step back, look at the broad view and examine your motives in relation to this scene. CANCER (June 22-July 22). People feel as though you’re confiding in them when actually what you’re passing off as secret information is a carefully crafted message suitable for anyone. It’s called political savvy. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Recent learning has you a little more aware of how the world works than you were yesterday. This doesn’t make you feel cynical. On the contrary, it makes you feel empowered. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If your self-as- sessment acts strictly in concert with external assessments, you’re headed in a direction that can only lead to unhappiness, emptiness and confusion. To be sure this is not the case, shut out external assessments. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Though you thrive in neatness and order, consider that a messy and authentic existence might be better than the monotony that comes with having it all figured out. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You don’t know exactly what to do next and you don’t have to know. You’re aware that a change is coming though. The most productive action will be clearing space for something to grow. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). As the sign of the fish, you sympathize with the plight of sharks. Life is movement. You have to keep going to keep breathing. Water flowing over the gills gets oxygen (and in your case, inspiration) to that incredible brain. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 31). Over time, the breeze transforms the moun- tain, penetrates rocks, influences the growth of trees. With powerful gentleness you’ll effect great change. May brings frivolous events that seriously benefit you. Your grate- ful heart attracts one who will spoil you. An August contract will augment your fortunes. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 30, 20, 22 and 1.