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Sad old mother-in-law
Dear Annie: My husband change, he has gone to the store
and I have been arguing over every Wednesday after 1 p.m.
his family. His mother is very No matter what our plans are, he
controlling and causes a lot of makes that a priority. We have
problems. Her husband died been working on our house —
about 25 years ago, and ever painting, etc. We have argued
since then, she’s just stopped over this so much. I get angry
because he gets noth-
living.
DEAR
ing done in our home.
She won’t go out of
I have done every-
the house unless she
ANNIE
thing, even threatening
has to go to the doc-
to divorce him. He will
tor, and she does noth-
not stop doing it. I am
ing for herself. She is
fed up.
now 86 years old, and
Two of the other
this has been going on
siblings live out of
for years. She had to
state, but three live in
have a knee replace-
Lane
the area, yet my hus-
ment 17 years ago, and Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
band is the only one
since then, my husband
who does anything for
has done her grocery
shopping. She is so stubborn her. None of his siblings will go
she won’t allow anyone else against Thomas and his insis-
to do things for her. My broth- tence on not putting her in a
er-in-law “Thomas” lives next nursing home. She would be
door to her, but he is in very bad so much better off to be where
health and can barely take care she could be cared for properly.
of himself. Thomas is the eldest No one visits her because they
sibling and refuses to put her in are so disgusted with her. I am
at my wits’ end. It’s terrible, but
a nursing home.
To complicate things, she I wish she would just go. She
doesn’t get out of bed until 1 has nothing to do with her kids,
in the afternoon. My husband’s grandchildren and great-grand-
work schedule has changed, children. I didn’t come into this
and he now works only on family until after the passing of
weekends. Since his schedule my husband’s father, so I don’t
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MARCH 27, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
know what she was like before.
I have nothing but resentment
toward her and Thomas. What
can I do? — Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: That
which we resist persists. You
might get better results if you
gave up on forcing the situa-
tion. Try to be more understand-
ing about your husband’s reluc-
tance to abandon his mother.
Though she sounds very diffi-
cult, she is still his mom, and
she raised him into the man
whom you married. I’ll bet
that his loyalty and tenderness
toward his mother are partly
what attracted you to him in the
first place.
At the same time, that
doesn’t mean you must silently
resign yourself to the status quo.
Communicate with him that you
would like to spend more one-
on-one time with him, or work
together to make a schedule of
things you can both do around
the house so there’s no resent-
ment. You’ll get better results
in the long run if you speak
from a place of love, emphasiz-
ing your own personal perspec-
tive rather than making accusa-
tions and focusing on what he’s
doing wrong.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Honest self-re-
flection requires a big person with a little ego.
You’ll review the chain of events that led up to
an undesired result. Your willingness to look at
what your part may have been will enable to
you to see a solution.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If allowed, there
are some rather unhelpful ideas that will go
marching around your mind with all the pomp
and circumstance of bonafide facts. Check
them, challenge them, or just ignore them and
they’ll diminish in the distance.
you can do for others. You are invaluable and
your worth is inherent.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). In regards to
finance, you’ll benefit from erring on the side
of caution. What builds slowly will build strong.
The same will go for partnerships of all types.
Be methodical and stay aware.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Someone is
going to get the best deal, the highest quality
and in the most abundant quantity available —
why not you? Nothing is guaranteed, but ask
anyway. Those who don’t ask, don’t get.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What seems like
a formless mess may very well be just that
now, next week and next month. But it will
not always be this way. Trust that things yet
unknown are shaping slowly into the structures
of your future.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A certain
amount of political play is to be expected. And
yet, if it seems that the intrigues and false-
hoods surround you on all sides, it’s a sign that
you are in a toxic game. Get out. No prize is
worth this.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Coral reefs make
up only about a tenth of one percent of the
earth’s surface, yet that’s where nearly a quar-
ter of the known species of marine life live. You
want beauty. Go to a rare place of concentrated
diversity.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Discovering why
what you offer is different and necessary is the
usual burden and challenge of business. Being
the total original that you are, you will find this
neither burdensome nor challenging today.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Of course you can be
creative all alone and you often have a peace-
ful experience creating in solitude and silence.
And yet, you need the group energy to keep
you motivated. Get involved.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ve been
emphasizing output over input, and that’s fine
for a while as long as you realize that when the
inspiration dries up, you’ll need to go replenish
it. But why wait?
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). They may look at
you appraisingly, figuring out what value you
might add to their lives. And yet, do not fall into
the trap of thinking you are as good as what
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WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Oddly, there are
some people in the world who find it extremely
difficult to be happy for other people. They are
the opposite of you, with powers of empathy so
strong that you feel every human victory almost
as if it were your own.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 28). Go on
and set those ambitious goals. The next three
weeks bring the clarity to organize your efforts,
prioritize your responsibilities and make a do-
able plan. One special person brings sunshine
to your summer days. You’ll create new income
for your family in July; also there’s a big sale
in October. Sagittarius and Scorpio adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 5, 39, 40, 47 and 1.