THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, MARCH 17, 2017
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Stop with the subtweeting
Dear Annie: My best friend so because I’m obviously pretty
and I have been friends for over miffed that she is being so pub-
15 years, and we get along well licly passive-aggressive and I am
and definitely know each other offended. But I also don’t want her
better than anyone else. However, to get upset with our other friends,
we are very different people. I because they shared the infor-
guess you could say that I am a lot mation. I am in a bit of a strange
pickle here. I don’t want
simpler than she is. I don’t
DEAR
there to be any unspoken
really beat around the
issues between my friend
bush, whereas she is pas-
ANNIE
and me, but I don’t know
sive-aggressive; and I am
how to deal with this rude
on the quiet side, while
and immature behavior.
she likes to be heard.
— Anti-social Media
She has been com-
Dear
Anti-social:
plaining to me a lot about
Rude and immature is
the drama she has in her
right.
Passive-aggres-
life, and I don’t mind. I
Lane
sive
behavior
has always
am always there for her, Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
been exasperating. Social
whether it’s to give my
media have taken it to a
opinion or just to listen to
her rambling on the phone. When new level.
The best approach in dealing
we are communicating openly, it’s
great. But, Annie, the issue is that with such people is to refuse to
she has taken things to another play their game. Be positive but
level. She is very active on Twit- direct. Tell her that you saw her
Twitter page (no need to men-
ter, and I don’t have an account.
A few close mutual friends tion that your mutual friends told
have been telling me she has you) and were concerned by the
been passive-aggressively tweet- tweets. Don’t let her wriggle out
ing about me in a negative way. of it. Try to get her to admit that
I don’t understand. I am always she’s upset with you, thus deny-
there for her, and I am open and ing her the ability to keep silently
honest when we communicate. sulking. At the end of the day, she
I would like to ask her what her should respect you for holding
deal is, but I don’t know how to do her accountable. Friends don’t let
friends get away with passive-ag-
gressive behavior.
Dear Annie: This is in
response to “Wits’ End,” whose
adult daughter has been verbally
abusive to her. This poor woman
does not need this daughter in her
life, period. I, too, have daughters
who hold their hands out, lie, are
dishonest and rarely ask how they
can help or do something for oth-
ers. My husband and I choose to
stay away from both of them and
all the unpleasant negativity they
bring. We own businesses and are
busy raising their little brother and
my mentally handicapped sister.
We are very happy with our lives;
our days are filled with dates,
flowers, laughter and more.
Are we disappointed that our
grown daughters choose to act so
self-centeredly and uncaring? Of
course. But people do not change
unless they want to. We are no
longer subjecting ourselves to
their behavior. If others did the
same, they would save themselves
a great deal of heartache.
“Wits’ End” can make it clear
to her daughter: “I deserve happi-
ness, too, and unless you want to
be a positive loving force in my
life, you are not welcome.” —
Happy to Let Go
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Though of course
you want to succeed, there’s a down side to
knocking it out of the park. It sets up a future
expectation that you may or may not want
to live up to. Think carefully before you set a
precedent.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). To avoid wasted
effort, get more clarity around what you’re
attempting to do. Improved communication will
be key and this includes communicating with
your own feelings and instincts.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). All will be
enhanced by social connections. Instead of
connecting with people haphazardly when it’s
convenient or when there’s a pressing and
obvious need, create a structure that will allow
you to engage others often.
accomplish together.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Rituals are a
way of symbolically processing life so you
can realistically process it with greater ease.
A ritual you create to help you move past your
sticking point will be most effective, resonating
deeply to free you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Exaggerat-
ed fears can cause social discomfort. It doesn’t
have to be this way, though you may have to
make a few mistakes first to understand that
it’s not that big of a deal to flub here and there.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When you
provide people with reasons to accept you,
you’ll earn acceptance but feel nothing. If
you don’t make any effort and are accepted
anyway, you’ll feel loved.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Though the
result of someone’s efforts to impress you may
not have the impact on your psyche that was
intended, it will still feel pretty flattering to know
you’re the cause of such a fuss.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Don’t waste
the day by trying to prolong it. Efficiency will
be the enemy of passion. Burn the hours in
exciting, pointless ways and you’ll make lasting
memories, too.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Time is the currency
of productivity. How you manage yours today
will be the difference between a hit and a miss.
You’ve a strong instinct for what’s important. All
you have to do is honor it.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Chances are
that you are imagining a risk as much greater
than it really is. You are, in a sense, “elevating
the plank” that you’d theoretically walk were
you to be punished. There is no plank, really,
just an optional diving board.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll clear up a
misunderstanding within seconds, as long
as you are aware that there is one. Go over
recent communication. Check in to make
sure that you’ve heard and have been heard
correctly.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Whether winning
or losing, for those who are in the battle, life
is about fighting. The real victors today will be
the ones who forgo the fight in favor of finding
something to agree on and
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 18).
Balance and moderation are the norm this
year, and yet there are some things you simply
won’t be able to do small: for instance, love.
The more you invest, the more you feel. You’ll
have terrific luck with a sale in June. Septem-
ber renews old relationships. December will
be a lucky time to move or build. Taurus and
Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6,
30, 22, 49 and 11.