6A
FEATURES
Mending a broken heart
Dear Annie: I am writing
Dear Brokenhearted: In
to you with my heart com- this case, daughter knows best.
pletely shattered. Someone I She sounds like an intelligent,
had been seeing for a while, kind young woman, and you
whom I thought felt the same must be a remarkable woman
for me as I do for him, made yourself to have fostered those
a complete fool out of me qualities in her. Keep setting
a great example. Act
and burned me to the
DEAR
how you’d want her
ground.
to act if some guy did
I am not a cling-
ANNIE
this to her.
ing vine and was very
As for making it
understanding about
hurt less, time is the
his job and never
best salve, but exer-
made demands on his
cise works wonders,
time. He lied to me,
too. Make a playlist
blew me off and just
of empowering songs
stopped
communi-
Lane
and go for a run, do
cating with me. He Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
yoga or just jump
wouldn’t answer my
around the house.
calls or reply to my
Although it hurts terribly
text messages. I have not slept
now, that ache in your heart
well in almost a week.
My
wise-beyond-her- will get a little duller every
years daughter told me not to day. Any man who’s too cow-
let him have so much power ardly to have an honest con-
over me, but I am having a versation is not worth your
very hard time with this. What time. Eventually, you’ll want
can I do to put him out of my to thank this loser for break-
mind and move on? I didn’t ing up with you.
Dear Annie: I hope you
deserve what he did to me,
and I know he doesn’t deserve can help me with my request.
me, but that doesn’t make this It came to my attention the
hurt any less. Any advice? other day that many elderly
— Brokenhearted in North people and those without
a computer are not aware
Dakota
of those family members
and friends who post online
condolences.
A 90-year-old family
friend of mine had no idea that
over two dozen people had
written to her and her fam-
ily when her husband passed
away two years ago. I copied
this information for her and
sent it to her. She was very
grateful. She was also a bit
hurt that the funeral home and
her own children did not think
or care to do the same. Please,
Annie, put the word out there.
Funeral homes should make
this a part of their package.
She called me again to say
that she has called several of
the people who posted their
condolences online, and she
said that this is the best she
has felt in over two years! It’s
such a small thing to do when
someone is mourning, but it
means so much. — Spreading
the Compassion
Dear Spreading: Thank
you for this thoughtful note. In
this day and age, many people
have forgotten how to truly
reach out to others outside of
social media. I’m sure your
message will inspire a few.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 25, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The placebo effect
works when a person trusts and believes the
“expert” handing the placebos out. But you can’t
give a placebo to yourself and expect it to work,
as no one really believes his own lies.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Some small things
deserve small attention, but not all. It’s wasteful
to focus on trivial matters, but who is to say
what’s trivial? If it captures your attention, there
may be a very good reason worth investigating.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Don’t assume it’s
just you talking inside that head. There are
multiple noise sources, resonant voices from
culture, peers, family and more. Question and
test your thoughts for accuracy and usefulness
before you act on them.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You might not be
the cause of your challenge, but regardless, you
can still take responsibility for your reaction to it.
With some savvy mental and physical maneu-
vering, you’ll change how this impacts you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). To be fascinated by
an interest that couldn’t care less about you is
the best way to learn right now. Principles of
detachment will work in your favor. This makes
for a pure study, unadulterated by mutual ex-
pectation.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Second chances
abound, and yet nothing can ever really happen
twice in this ever-evolving reality. So seize this
chance if it seems like a good one. Something
like it will come again. But nothing exactly like it
ever will.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The social adap-
tations you learned to get along in a group
worked fine for that group — or maybe they
just got you through. But this new situation is
different, and the same things won’t work. Come
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
up with new methods.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It may seem
there’s a lack of resources, but really there’s
only a lack of ideas. Identify the main obstacle.
There’s something good in it — a unique oppor-
tunity. What is it? Brainstorm both possible and
impossible solutions.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Multitask-
ing only works if the two tasks are compatible.
Casual conversations go with cooking, podcasts
go with cleaning, exercising and driving; music
goes with almost everything.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You can’t run
away from worry, because it’s not coming at
you from the outside. It’s within you. You won’t
escape it so much as discard it. The same goes
for any fear you’re having. Recognize it then set
it aside.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Be less reac-
tionary. In the stressful moments, stop, breathe
and gather your power. Much depends on how
you see things. Life is a picture; you control the
frame. Don’t let anyone else touch it.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It may be difficult
to tell which ideas are the best ones. If you ask
a lot of people, you’ll be even more confused.
Hint: The bright ideas are the ones that illumi-
nate what’s around them.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 26). Seren-
dipity kicks off this solar return. You’ll connect
in different social circles in the next 10 weeks.
March places you in opportunity’s path. If
anyone can turn an ordinary situation into an
extraordinary moneymaker, it’s you. Celebrate
the success of friends and family in June; the
rising tide will carry all ships. Leo and Libra
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 35, 20, 14,
9 and 45.