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Generational divide on dating
Dear Annie: I’m lucky in that generation is the first to experience
I feel as if I can talk to my parents guys disappearing after a few dates?
about everything — everything, that Imagine only having a landline to
is, except my dating life. My parents communicate. Though you don’t
met in high school and got married have to share the nitty-gritty details
while still attending their local state with your folks, it sounds as if they
college. I’m in my mid-20s, and want to be there for you to share in
the good times and the bad.
though I’d like a family one
This “gap” is of your own
day, I’m currently work-
DEAR
making. Though poten-
ing on getting my master’s
ANNIE
tially awkward, explaining
degree and working part
dating apps to your mom
time. This leaves little room
could be enlightening and
for dating. My parents get
even fun.
their hopes up every time I
Your parents should
tell them I’ve met a guy, and
appreciate your dedica-
it crushes me to disappoint
tion to finding the right
them when it doesn’t go
Lane
man, as opposed to just
anywhere. It’s tiring trying Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
settling down. Better to be
to explain to my mom that
the tortoise who takes her
going on a few dates with a
guy doesn’t mean that we’re on the time getting married than the hare
road to marriage. Twenty-first-cen- who’s speeding toward her second
tury dating is so complicated. I can’t divorce.
Dear Readers: Recently, I
imagine having a conversation with
my mom about navigating Tinder printed a letter from “Snoring in
or reading into Instagram likes or Slumberland,” who was waking
being ghosted. I’ve stopped telling himself up with his own snoring. I
them about my dating life because received responses from readers on
it seems easier that way, but it also both sides of the bed.
Dear Annie: My hubby snores.
feels as if I’m hiding part of my life
from my parents. Annie, how do I I can go to a spare bedroom at the
bridge this generational gap? — other end of the house and still hear
him.
Single Sally
I have done a lot of searching
Dear Single: Give your parents
more credit, Sally. You think your online for a solution to my problem.
Here is what I found: If the snorer
can keep his mouth shut, he will
not snore. Snoring happens through
the mouth. This is probably why
you can buy those little bands that
fit around the chin and head. In any
case, Hubby won’t try to curb his
snoring or move to another room,
so it has been up to me to find a
solution. Mine has been an iPod,
noise-canceling earbuds and sooth-
ing music. It helps some, sort of like
white noise.
For myself, I have decided I
never want to put someone through
this, so I have learned to sleep with
my chin tucked firmly against my
shoulder to keep my mouth shut. —
Married to a Snorer
Dear Annie: Tell “Snoring in
Slumberland” to go see a pulmo-
nary disease doctor.
My wife discovered that when I
was sleeping, I was not breathing at
times. After seeing the pulmonary
doctor, I began using a machine
that pumps air into my nose. Some
weeks later, I got a “chin strap,”
which keeps my mouth shut while I
sleep. (I had also noted a dry mouth.)
I was waking while snoring, appar-
ently. The addition of a chin strap
solved the problem. To Mr. Slum-
berland: Good luck with your sleep-
ing! — Catching Zzz’s Once Again
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JANUARY 23, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Some say we
live in an age of narcissism, but the reasons
a person might post selfies are usually much
more complicated and nuanced than that.
Healthy self-expression will be the hallmark
of the day.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Truth-seekers
like you are trustworthy, though you should
be very skeptical of truth-finders today. The
more certain a person is of being right, the
less likely that is to be the case.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It feels as
though you’ve come a million miles but
you’re still doing the same things. The Zen
proverb says, “Before enlightenment, chop
wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop
wood, carry water.”
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If the mountain
is so tall that you can’t see over it, you’re
unlikely to want to climb to the top. Who has
time for an infinite journey? We all need
hope, a vision of the pinnacle, a reason to
think there is one.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Many people doc-
ument special events, but it takes an artistic
mindset to want to archive routine parts of
life. You’ll capture what’s interesting about the
day-to-day and later be glad for the reference
to this time period.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Others will be
bothered and hurt by things you can’t predict
and may never fully understand. You’re more
experienced. You’re tougher. But you’re still
sensitive to the fact that everyone has a right
to their feelings.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you had any
resistance to authority, you’ll drop it now. You
need a leader more than you need to be the
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leader. Anyway, a power struggle would only
waste time, when there’s so much learning
to be done.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Not knowing
what to say to that person who is hurting,
many will keep their distance. That’s why
you’ll sidle up. Acknowledge the pain in the
voice of compassion. You don’t have to solve
it, just acknowledge, “That must hurt.”
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). This is
no time to doubt, worry or over-think. This is
a time to keep on trying, doing, going. The di-
rection is simple and clear: forward, forward,
ever forward.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Even
though you really want to know the whole
story, you’ll resist the urge to push the matter,
because privacy is sacred. You respect
everyone’s right to it, including your own.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). While you
can’t force everyone to get along, you can
create an atmosphere of support, tolerance
and calm around you. Others are likely to
relax into it today.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The human
body has a delayed response to satisfac-
tion. If you keep eating until you’re full, you’ll
usually discover that you’re over-stuffed
instead. That’s why, with food and most other
pleasures, it’s best to take it slow.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 24).
Because your individual spirit and unique
vision are so strong this solar return, in most
matters you will set your own course. You’ll
feel your power surge to help you with a
challenge of your own making through the
next 10 weeks. Taurus and Aries adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 6, 9, 40, 33 and 19.