6A FEATURES Sisters quarrel on Facebook Dear Annie: Recently, I cop- Dear Hurt: Using social ied an article and reposted it on media to settle disputes between Facebook. The article dealt with family members or friends is like a woman who has handicapped trying to repair reading glasses license plates. She does not appear with a sledgehammer; you have to be physically handicapped, a blunt tool and an incredibly del- although she is. Another woman icate object, and it results in a totally unnecessary bro- had approached her in a DEAR ken mess. parking lot and harassed Your sister is squarely her for using the handi- ANNIE in the wrong here, and capped parking spot. The I understand why you gist of the article was to unfriended her. But that not pass judgment on peo- is not a long-term real- ple and make assumptions. world solution. When I posted it, I Because her com- added a disclaimer in the ment seemed to you to comments area to let peo- Lane come totally out of the ple know that I wasn’t Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. blue, you two must be on the original author. I also very different pages. Talk commented that my hus- band has a handicapped placard to her in person if you can or on but does not look handicapped the phone if not. Ask her what she and that if someone did approach was thinking. Communication is the key here — real communica- us negatively, I would be ticked. My sister commented on this tion, between two sisters, not two screens. post and said, “You are an idiot.” Dear Annie: The letter from I am hurt, and I’m angry with her. I don’t understand why she “Confused Young Life in Califor- would make a comment such as nia,” a young man in prison who this to her own sister on social says he won’t change his ways, media where my children, grand- was quite interesting. You said the children and friends can see. I key to his success lies in what he deleted the post and unfriended does and whom he associates with her. Did I go too far? — Hurt immediately upon his release. True enough, but there is another Sister factor. Depending on where he is incarcerated, he may have educa- tional opportunities inside, often in trades. For example, here in New Hampshire, we have a program run by the New Hampshire Fur- niture Masters Association in which inmates learn woodwork- ing skills. Of course, only prison- ers with good behavior can be in the program, which is an added positive incentive. Several former inmates are now working as fur- niture-makers or cabinetmakers; one has even become a full mem- ber of the association. These guys are not going back to prison. In other places, prisoners are involved in training service dogs. A local family has a dog that alerts a young lady with Type 1 diabe- tes when her blood sugar is high or low. The dog was trained by pris- oners in Kansas. This is just what I know about. The point is that as a society, we need to change our ideas about what prison is. If it’s just a holding pen for “penitence,” we will cer- tainly fail. If we give these folks skills while they are in, they will then have the hope you suggest for your letter writer. — Furni- ture-maker in New Hampshire THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 18, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Start with the most crucial thing. If you don’t, there may not be time. You’ll get to the end of these 1,440 minutes in a day and be disappointed, having missed the whole point. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You construct an expectation, and when the expectation proves to be way off, there’s nothing left to do but laugh — at least, that’s your response. (Being light of heart and heavy of intellect helps make it so!) GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What was derailed is now popped back on track, thanks in part to your “popping” abilities. Force usually isn’t the way. It tends to be more of a wiggle and snap that puts the pieces back in line. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Given the mul- titude of ideas you generate, of course there’s not enough time to act on all of them. But with your knack for sensing the best one and focusing there, this day will be an enormously productive one. of what a more extensive visit might be like. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). No person who carries his worries with him is really on break. The only vacation from worry is to resolve it one way or another. You can rid yourself of a significant one inside of an hour. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The reason you are able to touch the hearts of others is because you are very much in touch with your own heart and know what makes it puff up with joy and swell with empathy. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ve gotten used to some pretty unusual situations because the oddities evolved so gradually that you couldn’t even see them as anything other than ordinary life. Friends will provide an alternate perspective. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). If you want time to go by fast, fall into the routine. If you want it to go by slowly, novelty is the ticket. Bounce between the two for optimum pacing and a humming good mood. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s definitely a work in progress, but every day, in hundreds of dif- ferent ways, you’re acting out the person you want to be. It’s not perfect. You may be starting to want something different for yourself, and that’s OK, too. Acceptance is the path. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You know what you want it to look like, and from there you’ll extrapolate all that needs to happen. The order it needs to happen in — now, that’s the tricky part. Luckily, your organizational skills will be amplified all day. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You have seen the truth without really noticing it. And the truth, not wanting to intrude on you, let you go on, knowing you’d someday come back to it and be liberated by it in some small way. The day has come. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 19). You alight upon social secrets, charismatic habits and ultimately ways of bringing out the clev- erness in others; they celebrate you time and again for it. February and October both bring a surprise gift and money, too. Professional advancement will come in April. The travel in August will be out of character in a very fun way. Cancer and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 47, 10, 33, 15 and 6. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The one you are so fascinated with represents a whole new world to you. You’ll breathe the air in that world as you interact with this person and get a sense FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE