THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2016
FEATURES
Trouble finding friends
Dear Annie: I moved to Josh’s work is sending him to
New York City for work just London for three months, and
over two years ago. Though I I don’t want these friendships
grew up in a smaller town in to disappear during that time,
the Midwest and stayed close too. As a fully grown woman,
to home for college, I really I feel embarrassed to ask, but,
love the pace of the city, and Annie, how do I make friends?
— Big Apple Blues
I’m starting to feel
Dear Blues: No
that I have my place
DEAR
need to feel embar-
here.
ANNIE
rassed. In many ways,
About a month
socializing becomes
after moving, I was
more
challenging
introduced to my now
once we’re “fully
boyfriend,
“Josh.”
grown,” as our lives
We instantly hit it off
fall into the routine of
and have a great, lov-
work, sleep, repeat.
ing relationship. He is
from New York orig- Annie Lane It’s hard to make
Creators
friends in the rat race.
inally and has a huge
Syndicate Inc.
But as you’ve rec-
community nearby.
ognized, your current
Given all his fam-
ily, co-workers and friends network is an invaluable start-
— childhood to college — ing point. Try spending some
there’s a vast network of peo- time, sans Josh, with a few of
ple whom I now feel con- his friends you feel you have
nected with. NYC can be a the most in common with.
difficult place to make friends, They in turn can introduce you
and Josh opened up a lot of to other friends and groups,
doors for meeting new people. until you’ve branched out into
Yet I still feel as if I’m your own space.
And get active in your
“Josh’s girlfriend” to most of
them rather than my own per- community. I would also rec-
son. True, we mainly see each ommend joining a site such as
other when Josh is around, Meetup, which connects peo-
but I’d like to move past that. ple with similar hobbies and
goals — for example, running
a marathon, writing a book,
learning a new language or
learning to cook. Visit https://
www.meetup.com for more
information.
Dear Annie: I’d never felt
compelled to write until today.
The letter from “To Be or Not
to Be” made me cry. My par-
ents died within 13 months
of each other. My father died
from a lengthy illness, and
my mother, who was sev-
eral years younger, died sud-
denly a year later. I remem-
ber receiving checks from
life insurance, annuities, the
sale of her house, etc. Every
time a check came in the mail,
it reminded me of my loss. I
would much rather have my
parents than any amount of
money.
So, “TBNB,” if you’re
reading this: Don’t do it!
Your children and grandchil-
dren don’t want your money.
They want you to be a part of
their lives for as long as God
allows. This is what your two
grown children would tell you
if you asked. Look at it from
their perspective. — Still
Missing Mom and Dad
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Compassion is
not just a word you read in books about popes,
saints and the Dali Lama. Compassion is an
automatic response to your daily life. It’s who
you are.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Stay out of the
minutiae. Jump up to that perch that will give
you the big picture view. This is the way to
bring/have/make the most fun possible out of
today’s scenario.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). While there are
detailed reasons why things must go as they
do, in the broader sense, the circular nature of
your business will bring with it a wallop of irony.
“Crops are sold for money spent on food.” —
Heraclitus
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’re
curious about people. Sometimes that curiosity
kicks in years later, when it’s too late to know.
You’re still wondering how certain things came
to be. Now is your chance to ask and avoid
future regret.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Gratitude will help
keep you centered and focused on creating the
experience you want for yourself and your loved
ones. Your resources are abundant, and what-
ever you don’t have will be yours for the asking.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There are
many delights in your arsenal of social graces.
Superb manners, exemplary humor, exceptional
warmth — that’s just the beginning. Wait till they
taste your pie!
CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s heaven to be
around people who get you, no explanation
necessary. For these connections, intimate
communication is subtle communication. You’ll
go right to the heart of the matter.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You and a loved
one will understand one another perfectly as
long as you’re making the effort to communicate
out loud. Because there’s so much else going
on today, your usual shorthand or telepathy
with this person won’t work.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Finding a groove
requires a bit of patience today, so don’t expect
things to work immediately. People need to get
warmed up first, and that includes you. Breathe,
smile, and get grounded. By noon all will sync
up.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Don’t let details bog
you down, and avoid trying to prepare for every
possible scenario. Most things will go right. Lat-
er, there will be more important things to tend to
than the ones you were tempted to obsess over.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Team spirit is not the
job of one team member; rather, it’s a manner
in which functions of the game are exercised.
Your esprit de corps will be contagious. Encour-
age them to originate such a feeling, too, so it’s
not all on you.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re already
the complete package. You’re whole. You’re
perfectly you, just the way you are. Make this
your mantra through the day. Sure, everyone
can improve, but it’s a choice, not a necessity.
You’re already worthy.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 24). They
might not notice your fine character, but it will
lead to extremely noticeable successes this
year. There’s an intense streak of work coming
up, which helps you make a large sum of mon-
ey by the end of February. April and beyond
bring many opportunities for connection and
closeness that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Taurus
and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1,
24, 31, 18 and 43.