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Tomorrow’s horoscope
Cheating among friends
Dear Annie: My friend “Mary”
was dating “Lance.” Behind her
back, our mutual friend “Sarah”
started a physical relationship with
Lance while he was still in a rela-
tionship with Mary. Mary did not
know about this. I was often in
the company of the three of them
and was uncomfortable watching
Lance and Sarah making goo-goo
eyes at each other every time Mary
turned her back.
Now Mary and Lance have bro-
ken up, and Lance has another girl-
friend. He is still hooking up with
Sarah, behind the other girlfriend’s
back. Sarah wants to make a go of
it with Lance. He has told her that
he’ll leave the other girlfriend for
her. Oy vey!
Here’s my question: I am try-
ing to persuade Sarah to tell Mary
what’s up and ask Mary whether
she is OK with her dating Lance.
Otherwise, she’ll find out through
the grapevine. Sarah keeps saying
she will talk to Mary, but she hasn’t
yet. I feel as if I’m in the middle
of this ugly, cheating relationship.
Mary would be so hurt and angry
with me if she found out that Lance
had been cheating on her and I
knew about it. Or if she didn’t find
out about the cheating and she just
heard about Lance’s “new” rela-
Dear Annie
By
Annie
Lane
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
tionship with Sarah, she’d be hurt I
knew about it and said nothing. Do
I have any responsibility as a friend
here, to either Mary or Sarah? —
Head Spinning in North Carolina
Dear Spinning: Your head
might be spinning, but I guarantee
it’s still on straighter than Sarah’s
and Lance’s. Those two need to wise
up and calm down, Lance in partic-
ular. He’s spun you and these three
women into a very tangled web.
Normally, I tell people not to
get in the middle of friends’ rela-
tionship problems. But I think this
situation is a little different, and
Mary deserves to hear the truth in
a respectful way. It’s crummy news
no matter what, but it would be bet-
ter delivered from a close friend
than from the gossip mill.
Please advise Mary that she
is the luckiest one, whether she
realizes it yet or not.
Dear Readers: I recently
printed a letter from a man who is
fed up with servers asking, after he
has given them cash, whether he
needs any change. I asked you, my
readers, what your thoughts were
on the matter, and boy, I heard from
a lot of you. Here’s just one of many
responses. Stay tuned for more.
Dear Annie: I can so relate to
the gentleman who gets angry with
clueless waitstaff asking whether
he needs change. Unlike you, I
think this is a trained and calculated
maneuver. It happens too often for
it not to be.
I once went to a fairly expen-
sive chain restaurant for brunch. It
was busy, and we waited a bit too
long, but otherwise the service was
OK. My bill was $9 and change,
and I handed the waiter a $20 bill.
He asked that question: “Do you
need change?” Really? A 120 per-
cent gratuity?
Ever since then, I have become
more and more aware of this tac-
tic. And my conclusion is that there
can’t be that many oblivious serv-
ers. This is a directive and probably
an effective one. I, for one, react as
the gentleman does — by truncat-
ing what would have been a healthy
tip. — Hugely Peeved
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2016
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Like a child
crying in a public place, an event will separate
the inherently empathetic from the inherently
selfish, revealing who belongs in each cate-
gory. Pay attention and you’ll save yourself
from future unpleasantness.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Serious, deep
connections are often characterized by the
way they share the lighter moments — or,
more likely, the ability for two people to find
the lightness together in the heavier mo-
ments.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Worry has its
place — as long as you use it as a thorough-
fare, not a parking lot. No brakes, no stopping.
Roll with the stress. Ride it like it’s the fast
lane to remedy.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The way to
lay down boundaries now is rather subtle. No
confrontation is necessary — not even a talk.
When you are sure about what you’re willing
and not willing to do, people will understand
almost telepathically.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The feeling a per-
son kindles in your heart, it changes your
chemistry, softens your mood, alters your
mind and sweetens your senses. You can’t
help but dedicate the best of your energy to
this.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). However well
you show up on your own, you’re going to get
there with your team. “For the strength of the
pack is the wolf, and the strength of the wolf is
the pack.” — Rudyard Kipling
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Clear up the
misunderstandings, fill in the communication
gaps, and then go through all of the channels
and make sure the lines are good. You may
have to change how (or to whom) you give
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
information in the future.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When it works,
it’s brilliant. When it doesn’t, don’t give in to
disappointment. Keep the positive, inquisitive,
experimental mindset. There’s nothing to be
down about: This is all education and growth.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). One
mark of maturity is that you now have no re-
action to the occurrence that once annoyed
you. And when you get to the place where
you actually welcome this occurrence — well,
that’s spiritual evolution.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’d like
to think that your happiness isn’t dependent
on such things as the quality of lighting, but
just like the other creatures of the earth, on
a physiological level, you need sunlight to
thrive. Accept this and get out in it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Some
moods are like puddles you walk into because
you weren’t paying attention to the road. Re-
member this divot up ahead? Now avoid it by
walking around.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Some people
feel love when they make someone laugh.
There are those who prefer laughter to hugs,
gifts, and other displays of affection. Laughers
need people around them who share their hu-
mor, or their joy will shrivel.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 4). The easiest
way will be the genuine way this year. You’ll
maintain constant contact with your feelings
and gauge the health and happiness potential
of different arrangements with a new accura-
cy. This is how you’ll raise your energy, aug-
ment your fortunes and become extremely
attractive to all kinds of opportunity. Leo and
Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3,
28, 1, 22 and 49.