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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 1, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
Snooping and trust issues
Dear Annie: Why do
women think it’s OK to snoop
through boyfriends’ phones
or social media? It’s such an
invasion of privacy.
For background: I’m a
guy in my late 20s. I’m trust-
worthy (I think). I’ve never
cheated on a girlfriend. Yet
a few women I’ve dated
over the past few years have
snooped. One read my emails
when I left myself logged in
on her computer. (I found out
because a few emails were
mysteriously already marked
as read. Not great at covering
her tracks.) The other didn’t
exactly snoop, but I noticed
when she was showing me
something on her phone that
she had been Googling my
ex-girlfriend’s name. I took
both those things as red flags.
I want to date someone who is
secure enough not to be jeal-
ous or suspicious.
I was talking to a group
of my female friends about
this, and all except one admit-
ted that they’ve snooped,
too. Most said they know it’s
bad, but one girl defended it:
“If he’s got nothing to hide,
what’s the big deal? And if he
Dear Annie
By
Annie
Lane
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
is messing around, I’d rather
know so I can move on.” Isn’t
that sad?
I guess I’m just venting at
this point, but I would love to
hear your take on this one. —
Disappointed Dude
Dear Disappointed: My
take is the same as yours. Trust
is the foundation of a good
relationship. If you feel that
you can’t trust your partner, to
the point that you’ll invade his
or her privacy, then what’s the
point? There is no love with-
out trust. Have faith in your
relationship, and it will flour-
ish or not, but at least you’ll
have given yourself wholly to
it. I hope the next woman you
date understands this.
Dear Annie: I need some
guidance. I’m new to the dat-
ing scene after my very long-
term relationship fell apart
earlier this year. I feel like
a newbie. What’s normal? I
haven’t dated in almost 10
years. Back when I was on the
scene before, people weren’t
all meeting each other through
apps. That whole prospect
scares me, so I’ve been trying
to meet guys the old-fashioned
way so far.
Anyway, I’ve been see-
ing this guy for a little over a
month, but we’ve only gone
on four dates. Is that aver-
age, or is he not interested?
My most recent boyfriend and
I lived together for several
years, so I’m used to hanging
out almost every day. I find
myself wanting to text or call
this guy throughout the week.
I don’t want to suffocate him,
but if he’s not really into me,
I’d like to find out so I can
move on. — Anxious
Dear Anxious: I know it’s
easier said than done, but for
goodness’ sake, relax. Going
out once a week is normal.
Enjoy the slow pace, and
focus on yourself. If love is
going to kindle between you
two, it will need oxygen.
5A
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Chances are,
you’re having trouble stopping an unwanted
behavior or thought pattern. This is the time
to drop the effort. Focus on what you want to
start instead. What’s going to take the place of
this pattern? Start with that.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Make it up as
you go along. The one who will do this with
you today is a true friend, maybe even a true
love; that’s what it takes to throw out the rules
and open the gates and just trust the other
person.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Did you ever
think you’d be here? Look around with your “if
I weren’t me what would I see” head. That little
thing you’ve been frustrated with has a pretty
easy solution that will be illuminated by this
perspective shift.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ve more
leeway than you think in a situation. Still, you
don’t want to push against the boundaries —
not worth the backlash. So go slowly. Take a
small step toward your preference and, ulti-
mately, your freedom.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Most things won’t
be investigated until there’s a problem. But
why wait for trouble to find out what’s really
going on? Be proactive. Use curiosity now to
build bonds and you won’t have to use it to
sort through a mess later.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When people
move differently to the beat of the music, it’s
entirely possible that they’re not really hear-
ing the same music. Today will bring a classic
case of “vive la difference”!
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Doing things the
conventional way will cost you conventional
amounts of money; that is to say, you’ll be
paying a lot. You could keep hundreds in your
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
pocket through creative thinking.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Theoretically,
were it you in the scenario, you would be-
have in a certain way. Then again, life doesn’t
happen in theory. Since you won’t know until
you’re in it (and you don’t plan to be in it!), it’s
best to withhold judgement.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There’s
a person who feeds the needs of your soul
in a way that others cannot. The more atten-
tion and appreciation you give this person, the
more your soul gets fed.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Short-term
strategies will have flash and impact, but if
they don’t lead to your long term goal then
they are a detriment to your plans. Play the
long game.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your impulse
to put extra effort into appearances is right
on. The way you present yourself may matter
more to you than it does to the others, and
that’s just fine. You’re the one who has to walk
around in you!
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s impossible
to learn and grow if you don’t sleep. Sleep is
where life’s processing happens. It’s where
the healing and rejuvenation happens. The
value of rest cannot be underestimated these
days.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 2). Peo-
ple offer decent advice, but the whisper of fate
that comes from inside you this month is what
you’ll follow to augment your fortunes. Resolv-
ing a parental or authoritarian relationship will
free up new energy. In January your fortunes
will multiply as a direct result of your friend-
ships. You’ll be cash rich in March. Libra and
Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4,
9, 22, 21 and 16.