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Tomorrow’s horoscope
Facing life changes alone
Dear Annie: After 24 years of
marriage, my husband wants to
split up. I have had health issues for
a few years, and now he says he is
tired of dealing with them. We have
been living with his parents and our
three kids for about a year and a
half. I have been given a deadline
to move out — alone.
I have been trying to ind a place
I can afford while staying near my
elderly father. Moving in with him
is not an option. I may have found
a room in a house and am going to
check it out tomorrow.
Suddenly, reality is hitting me.
I won’t see my kids every day. I
won’t have my cats, who are 9 and
13, because I can’t ind a place that
allows pets. I have been crying all
day. I’m trying to keep busy pack-
ing, but every time I see my cats, it
starts up again.
I have a psychiatrist or coun-
selor. I don’t have time to see them
before I leave but plan to make
appointments soon after I move.
No one in my family is acting
as if this major life change is a big
deal. I’m just looking for some val-
idation. — Crushed in California
Dear Crushed: You have 100
percent of my validation and then
some. I’m so sorry you’re going
through this.
Dear Annie
By
Annie
Lane
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
I would encourage you to keep
looking for a place that allows pets.
They can be so therapeutic.
It’s especially important to take
care of yourself during a major life
trauma such as this, so I’m glad to
hear you have a plan in place to see
your doctor and therapist. It sounds
as if you are taking all the right
steps to build a healthier, happier
life. Just give it time.
Dear Annie: Twice in two years
my husband and I were invited to a
family event at the very last minute.
We were invited to a wedding
three days in advance and a sig-
niicant birthday party 1½ days in
advance. These invitations were
from two women in my extended
family, both of whom are in their
late 20s. And in both instances, the
women used email to ask whether
we’d be attending.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 30, 2016
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
My husband and I didn’t go to
the wedding or the birthday party. I
am upset but don’t know whether I
am being selish for resenting that I
would have had to run out and get a
card and gift for an event we were
invited to at the last minute. We are
in our 50s. Is this the new way of
doing things? Should we be more
lexible and get with the program?
— Upset by These Little Things
Dear Upset: Though your
adaptability is admirable, you don’t
need to get with the program if it
means leaving behind all expecta-
tions of common courtesy.
It is becoming more common-
place for budget-conscious cou-
ples to have “standby” guest lists.
It’s not ideal, etiquettewise, but the
tactic isn’t so offensive if done dis-
creetly. But inviting someone to
your wedding three days before it
happens? That’s a faux pas in the
irst degree.
If you feel comfortable, perhaps
ask each woman individually —
without any accusation in your tone
— whether there was a reason the
invitation came so late. Each one
may have a perfectly reasonable
answer. But it’s probable that nei-
ther will, and your question will at
least prompt both of them to think
of being more courteous next time.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Those who
think that clothing doesn’t matter much will
think again. What you wear when you go
out will play a key role in how you feel and
who you are being in the situation.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Does it
seem like other people’s opinions are get-
ting heard more readily than yours? Rem-
edy this. Speak up. Bring a bullhorn if you
have to, but make yourself heard; it will
benefit all.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You could
love something just because someone
else loves it, and that will turn out to be as
good a reason as any. Getting wrapped up
in the spirit of things will be wonderful.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There’s
something complicated in your personal
life that’s about to get much less so. All you
have to do is see the truth and notice it. You
don’t have to do anything about about it.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The love of your
life may be a person, or it may be a fascina-
tion. Either way, this great love will hold the
lion’s share of your attention this weekend.
Partnering with a Libra in some way will be
lucky.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You don’t like
the feeling that someone is checking your
every move. However, right now there’s
something nice about knowing that there
are those who are aware of you and “have
your back.”
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Maybe you
don’t care if your efforts get noticed or not;
you’re acting purely to refine your character
and expand your heart as you go above
and beyond what is being asked of you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). This is
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
a lucky day to make reservations, plan
ahead, buy tickets and more. You’ll land
the best seats, the center of the meat, the
prime spot for socializing with just the peo-
ple who can help you the most.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Ba-
bies crawl before they walk: It’s safer this
way. From the hands and knees they don’t
have as far to fall. Do your learning in the
order that strengthens and builds your
skills organically.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If the
clothes don’t fit or the sheets no longer
stay on the bed, get rid of them. But if it’s
just a broken relationship — well, it’s quite
possible that can be mended with only a
few words. And you’re in just the mood to
try it, too.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As for
the weeds in the garden of your social
life, these pesky creatures seem intent on
causing disorder among your well-tended
base. Either chalk it up to “nature” or uproot
that which offends.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There may
be a surprise limitation thrown your way,
but this will actually prove to be an advan-
tage. If you’re stuck between a rock and a
hard place, there’s nowhere to go but up.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 1). You’ll
fly in your personal life — positively float
by the things that weighed you down in
the past. You’ll conjure up an elixir of love
in 2017 and use it at will to either deep-
en relationships or start new ones. What
you’ll learn in February will keep you more
lucratively employed. July brings a trophy.
Aquarius and Capricorn adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 18, 3, 35, 48 and 27.