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Mom doesn’t know best
Dear Annie: I am unemployed
and living with my parents. Because
I have a disability, I am unable to do
many of the jobs available locally.
Besides my family, I am currently
working with several people at the
local Department of Labor to ind
a job related to my degrees — one
that will help me start a career. My
family wants me to get any job.
One of the local nursing homes
has several openings for certiied
nursing assistants. With the excep-
tion of my parents, no one sees this
as a good it for me. After all, my
mother is on the nursing home’s
board. As a result, I’m sure that I
would hear about every mistake I
made during dinner if I got the job.
My mother is so obsessed with
my applying. She asks me several
times every day whether I have
completed the forms. I’m losing
it. I don’t know how long it will be
before I crack. What should I do?
— Going Nuts
Dear Going Nuts: I gather
Mom is a wee bit on the overbear-
ing side. Your circumstances might
mean you have to live with her, but
that doesn’t mean you have to live
for her. Stand up to her and ind
your own career.
Dear Annie: My wife and I
divorced in 2007 after 33 years of
Dear Annie
By
Annie
Lane
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
marriage. I’m writing because I
have a crush on a woman I’ve been
friends with for 40 years.
Her late husband was a very
good friend of mine. My now-ex-
wife and I used to socialize with
them as couples. He and I hunted
and ished and talked about every-
thing in that special way you can
when you’re on a boat, no one else
listening. Our wives did their own
things together.
They were married for 25 years,
until he passed away in 2013. At his
funeral, we said our goodbyes, and
she insisted on walking me to my
vehicle. We hugged, and she said,
“Don’t be a stranger. Maybe we
could go out to dinner.” So I waited
six months and asked her out to
dinner. She accepted, and since
2014 we have been going out twice
a month and spending holidays
and both our birthdays together. I
always pay, except on my birthday;
then she insists on buying.
I haven’t been in a rush, but
lately I ind myself attracted more
and more. When our evenings
are over and I take her home, we
exchange a handshake or a peck
on the cheek, and I respect her too
much to push more than that.
She is 60, and I am 65. She
works full time, and I’m semi-re-
tired. I haven’t dated since I was
very young. Do I stay the course?
— Unfamiliar Waters
Dear Unfamiliar: Stay the
course, sailor. The conditions look
perfect. You two could offer each
other companionship as you glide
into your golden years.
Birthdays,
holidays
and
biweekly dinners together? You
two must be best friends. That is
a wonderful foundation for a rela-
tionship, and it sounds as if you’re
already going through many of the
motions of dating. Make your inten-
tions known by asking whether she
would like to go on a date. One
of the upsides of dating at 65 ver-
sus 16 is maturity and understand-
ing. If you ask her out and she’s not
interested, you can stay friends. No
awkwardly dodging each other in
homeroom.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, AUGUST 23, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). There are
some things you’ve done that you wish you
had experienced slightly less than once. Still,
no regrets, right? As for today’s interesting
scenario, dive right in, if only so you can later
tell the story.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The person
who is flakey with you is the same way with
others, so there’s no reason to take it person-
ally. Also, there’s no reason for you to take it
at all. Set a boundary and stick to it.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You take your
world citizenship seriously and refuse to sit
idly by when there is so much strife in the
world. You’ll be thinking about the problems
that face humanity and solving them in some
small way in your own life.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You will be
packing a bag, studying for an upcoming test
or carefully getting ready in some other way
to face the unknown. Where there is prepara-
tion there will be no regret.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When you think
about your favorite person it’s hard to believe
that there was a time when this person was
unknown to you. Be friendly. Make the first
move. A stranger could become someone
very special to you.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You know the
secret. It’s not enough to soldier on; you must
do so with joy in your heart, otherwise the
opportunities in this day could go wasted. If
you’re not joyful, something is wrong. Stop
and fix it.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Expect that
some mistakes will happen, so when they
do it’s nothing to get upset about. Stay calm
and mindful. You can handle anything and
everything that comes up. In fact, you look
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
forward to it.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your strong
inner drive to make people laugh is selfless,
really. This isn’t about your needing attention;
it’s about spreading joy. You quip because
you care. Underneath your teasing is un-
abashed love.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
project steps will be the same as always —
preparation, process and execution. The only
difference is that you’ll go through them fast-
er. In fact, it could all be finished by tonight.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The more
formal your expression of thanks, the better
you’ll feel about what’s being exchanged in
your world. Notes may be in order. It’s the
classy way, but people forget it all the time.
You’re different. This will impress.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve no
shortage of reasons to feel good about your-
self, and yet you may struggle with this. It’s
because feeling good doesn’t necessarily
come from a reasonable place. The love of
a Leo or Pisces will help you love yourself.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Assume that
your wishes will be granted, and move for-
ward with great enthusiasm. Some flexibility
will be required as to the time frame of this.
Keep an open mind.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 24).
What you used to think of as pressure you
now consider to be a friendly force intent on
making your dreams come true. Ask directly
for what you want. Family will be involved in
the delivery of your wishes in November. A
March financial bonus will give your personal
life new purpose. You’ll make a key play in
February. Leo and Taurus adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 45, 2, 4, 16 and 49.