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Adult daughter a hoarder
Dear Annie: My 55-year-old
daughter is a hoarder. She can-
not pick up her clothes or keep
them in order. She lives in two
bedrooms in our mobile home
and they are both a complete
mess. Lately, it’s been so difi-
cult for her to get into her rooms
that she has started sleeping on
the couch. She picks clothes off
of the loor to wear. (She’s been
doing that her entire life.)
In the past, I have cleaned up
her room, but it isn’t long before
it’s a complete mess again. Right
now, it’s overwhelming. Please
help. — Mom of a Hoarder
Dear Mom: Why does your
55-year-old daughter live with
you? Does she not have a job? Is
there a history of mental illness
that makes her incapable of liv-
ing on her own?
Hoarding is a serious prob-
lem, especially when it means
your daughter can no longer
enter her rooms because the
clutter is piled so high. Please
contact the International OCD
Foundation (iocdf.org) for infor-
mation on hoarding and perhaps
some referrals for therapists who
may be able to help.
Dear Annie: I am tired of
women using menopause as an
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excuse not to be intimate with
their husbands. Marrying some-
one includes a commitment, and
sex is part of that commitment.
I don’t understand women who
think they can just say, “We’re
not going to have sex anymore.”
I am a 63-year-old woman
and a breast cancer survivor. Yes,
intercourse can be extremely
painful, but why does everyone
think that sex has to be inter-
course? There are other ways to
satisfy your partner that don’t
involve anything painful. I am
sure most of these sex-starved
men would be deliriously happy
with the alternatives.
If you love someone, you
work on it. Instead, these
women decide they’re no lon-
ger interested, so their husbands
shouldn’t be interested, either.
And then we wonder why men
stray. We vilify men for want-
ing something that’s a natural
function of being human. I don’t
believe women should kowtow
to men. I simply think that in
a marriage, love should trump
excuses for putting yourself irst.
— Austin, Texas
Dear Austin: We agree —
although some of our female
readers will not. But we’ve said
it many times. Marriage is a part-
nership. You cannot make a uni-
lateral decision that affects the
other partner negatively and not
expect repercussions.
According to our mail, most
of the men who are unhappy with
their sex lives aren’t looking to
stray. They love their wives and
want to show that love in a phys-
ical way. And they want their
wives to love them enough to
be physical, as well. This is how
they demonstrate their affection.
Intimacy is not all about sex,
and sex is not all about inter-
course. It is important to make
the effort, whatever the result,
and be willing to discuss what
can be done to make both part-
ners reasonably happy. This usu-
ally requires compromise, some-
thing that seems to be in short
supply these days.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JUNE 27, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As for this re-
cent baffling twist, don’t try to figure it all out
just yet. At the very least, it will be more fun
not to know right away. And if you never find
out at all — well, the mystery is something
delicious. Milk it.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s a day for
physical daring and endeavoring to act be-
fore thinking about whether you should. The
result might be a performance of stunning
grace, but there are other risks you’d be
wise to consider as well.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There’s some
excitement, and it will enhance your expe-
rience of the day as long as you remain
slightly detached. The drama will be fun if
you take a step back and refuse to be overly
serious about it.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll prob-
ably have to alter your plan in order to ac-
commodate weird circumstances in the
morning. Your flexible attitude will contribute
greatly to your success.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Everything is
aligned. You say what you want, and then
you do it. Your purpose is unencumbered by
doubt or obstacle. Your focus is narrow and
laser-sharp. Go!
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When you
distance yourself from the forces that would
rob you of your peace, you’re not running
away: You’re protecting and fortifying your-
self so that you can bring the best “you” to
life.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Small-scale
trials, tests and transformations are getting
you ready for the bigger changes life will
surely bring. Think of this afternoon’s test
as a drill for the real deal.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Beware of
those who would benefit from you think-
ing that the solution to the problem can be
bought in a product. If this could really be
bottled, it would be the most popular prod-
uct sold on earth.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
thing you used to do for fun may now seem
quite the opposite, but that’s the very nature
of fun: Novelty, newness, risk and reward
are all a part of the equation. It’s time to
search for new fun now.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Success
is rather simple for you today. Do what you
say you’ll do. This is made even easier if
you don’t say you’ll do anything, freeing
yourself up completely for a change.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Everyone
has a heart, but not everyone leads with it
like you do today. You’ll wind up at a magical
destination, all because you followed your
heart’s dictates.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If you’re
not careful, your tangents will go off on
tangents until you are so far from the main
road (conversationally, geographically, cre-
atively or otherwise) that it’ll take a major
transportation upgrade just to get back.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 28). Your
cosmic gift is a deep sense of belonging.
The person who understands you does
this so fully and with so much love that you
feel more like yourself than you’ve ever
been. July and August see you renewing
contracts and bringing your home into the
future, too. There’s travel to look forward to
in September. Capricorn and Libra adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 3, 40, 19
and 25.