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Affair tempts lonely husband
Dear Annie: My wife and I
have been good friends with “Bill
and June” for 30 years. Twelve
years ago, my wife had surgery
and lost all desire for sex. She isn’t
even interested in cuddling. Last
year, Bill had a heart attack and is
now afraid to exert himself in the
bedroom.
Recently, June told me that Bill
has given her permission to seek
satisfaction elsewhere and asked
if I was interested. I am, but I do
not know how to approach the sub-
ject with my wife. Last year, when
she discovered that one of our
friends was cheating on his wife,
she stated that if I ever did that to
her, she would drop me like a hot
potato and take me for everything
I’m worth. I don’t want June’s offer
to end our marriage or destroy the
friendship we have with Bill.
My wife goes on a lot of over-
night trips for work, so I’m sure
that June and I could get together
without her inding out. But I do
not want to go behind her back.
What do you suggest? — Con-
fused Husband
Dear Confused: You cannot
guarantee that your wife will not
ind out, and the worry and guilt
would eat at you. Please don’t do
this. Instead, have a frank discus-
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sion with your wife. Tell her that
the lack of intimacy has been difi-
cult for you and that you’ve had an
offer for a commitment-free affair.
(Do not mention June’s name.)
Ask her how she would feel about
this. If she agrees, the rest is up
to you, although sleeping with a
close friend is likely to lead to all
kinds of trouble.
Of course, your wife may be
appalled at the suggestion, so your
next step is to ask whether the two
of you can do something else to
regain intimacy. Ask her to dis-
cuss this with her doctor or come
with you for counseling. Do what-
ever you can to repair the things
that need ixing within your mar-
riage before you start looking for
“solutions” that could destroy it.
Dear Annie: This is in response
to “Morose Mom,” whose chil-
dren keep borrowing money and
never pay it back. Your advice was
spot on.
One of our sons is like that. It
was a continual cycle of borrow-
ing money, even though he has
a well-paying job. No loan was
paid back. Since he also has chil-
dren, we were reluctant to say “not
another dime” for fear of getting
locked out of our grandchildren’s
lives.
One day, we decided that a
inancial counselor would be the
answer. We selected one who
understood both the problem and
the fact she would most likely not
be successful. We agreed ahead
of time that if my son “bailed,”
we would be responsible for any
unpaid fees. We then contacted
our son and gave him the counsel-
or’s contact information with the
ultimatum that there would be no
more loans unless he met with the
counselor and followed her inan-
cial program.
After a couple of months, the
counselor billed us for the unpaid
balance and said my son indicated
he could not work within the terms
of her indings. But it’s been ive
years with no further requests for
money and, amazingly, we still
have a good relationship with our
son. — Relieved Mom and Dad
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JUNE 3, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your prais-
es will be sung today, but not as loudly as
you’d like them to be. Is this mic even on?
Well, hopefully it’s enough to know that a
couple admiring souls care enough to tell
you about it.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The answer
to “Why?” will be “Why not?” That’s better
than the usual answers, which include
“Why ask why?” and of course the classic
“Because I said so.”
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll strug-
gle with a certain line of reasoning and/or
a conversational trajectory. This is indica-
tive of turmoil that goes much deeper. Are
you brave enough to explore this now?
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Being
there for people isn’t hard for you unless
the people you’re there for are hard to pin
down. Those who play hard-to-get might
get lost in the chaos of the weekend.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Why aim low?
You’ve the same odds of hitting your mark
that you would have if you aimed high.
Shoot for the top most-exciting goal. Your
first priority will match up beautifully with
another person’s wishes.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There’s an
interesting dynamic forming between you
and someone you think of as competition.
Truly, there’s enough to go around. Maybe
you can use one another to sharpen your
skills. Seek a win-win.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It will be so
worthwhile to follow the directions. Find
them. Don’t worry; your originality will re-
main intact. The only thing you’ll sacrifice
is the time it takes to read and compre-
hend.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are
doubting voices in your head, but you don’t
have to listen to them. Humanity and fear
go hand-in-hand. Good news, though: The
fear will trigger an extra flow of fuel to your
nervous system.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
may find yourself wondering if your friends
have been supportive or your loved one
has been true. Go on and actively be the
supportive, loyal person you’re driven to be
and your fears will subside.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The re-
lationship energy will flow freely through
the structures of your life. When you let
someone go, you will also be letting some-
one in. The cycle will be seamless.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You see
selfishness as a kind of sickness. You pity
those afflicted — and all are afflicted at one
time or another. The worst part is that it’s
hard to know when the afflicted one is you.
That’s why you’ll be so generous this week-
end. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The ten-
sion that exists in your personal life won’t be
such a big deal once you perfect the fine art
of ignoring the problem. It’s not as easy as it
sounds, but it’s entirely doable.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 4). Ul-
timately, no one knows what other people
are going to think of as cool, but your in-
stincts around this are so keen this year
that you’ll hit the cool-factor jackpot at
least five times before your next birthday.
An unusual hobby will bring fascinating
people into your world at summer’s end.
Money will rain on you in November. Virgo
and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky num-
bers are: 4, 9, 20, 14 and 25.