THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MAY 26, 2016
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Mom hurt by son’s anger
Dear Annie: Until two years
ago, I thought we had a loving
family, even though my husband
and I are divorced. We have two
grown children in their 50s.
Two years ago, my son asked
me to co-sign a college loan
for his child. When I declined,
he said he was “done with this
whole family,” and has not spo-
ken to any of us since.
I live several hundred miles
away from my son. My thought
now is to leave the bulk of what
little I have to my daughter,
because she will end up being
my caregiver, selling my house
and deciding my future med-
ical care. Of course, I would
leave my son a small sum, so he
knows he has not been forgotten.
I see no repair to this fam-
ily, as I do not foresee my son
changing. What advice do you
have for me? — Hurt Mother
Dear Hurt: Be grateful that
you are close to your daughter.
You were under no obligation
to co-sign a loan on behalf of
your grandchild. But your son’s
reaction was totally out of pro-
portion, and it makes us won-
der whether something else may
have been going on. Perhaps he
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felt you were somehow show-
ing favoritism to his sister or her
children. If such an accusation
has merit, please examine your
behavior honestly to see what
you can change.
Is anyone in touch with
your son — a relative or fam-
ily friend? Perhaps this person
could intercede on your behalf
and ind out whether reconcili-
ation is possible. It may require
counseling, in which case, we
hope you both would agree to
go. Otherwise, whatever you
do with your estate is up to you.
We hope, in addition to what-
ever you were planning to leave
your son, you also include a let-
ter to him expressing your love,
without judgment or blame, and
your regret that the relationship
wasn’t closer.
Dear Annie: My heart hurts
and I don’t know how to ix it. I
am in my late 70s and my adult
children rarely call. I call them.
We have had no disagree-
ments or other issues. I feel they
are waiting for me to die to get
their inheritance, and have no
real interest in me as a person.
They rarely celebrate my birth-
day or holidays, saying they
have to work and will come
another day.
I am always sad when I hear
about my friends celebrating
special occasions with their fam-
ilies. What can I do to mend this
broken heart? — K.
Dear K.: Some children
become so wrapped up in their
own lives that they forget to
make time for their parents.
Please don’t wait around for your
kids to value you. Be as active as
you can be. Join a book club, the-
ater group or choir. Do volunteer
work where your presence will
matter. Get a part-time job if you
aren’t currently employed. Take
an exotic trip with that inheri-
tance. Maybe your kids will ind
you more interesting. If not, at
least you’ll be living your life
instead of waiting by the phone.
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By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Dreaming and
scheming will be among the most pleasur-
able uses of your energy, even better than a
dessert buffet, or a shopping spree, though
not quite the high you get from philanthropy.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Instead of
going where the people look, talk and think
like you, diversify! The problem that’s been
baffling you will be easy for someone else
to solve.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your team will
get you at your best. Your high energy will
be vital to the success of a group. Your best
trick for keeping yourself up isn’t a trick at
all: You start when you’re wide-awake, and
you quit before you get tired.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Let go of
some of the finer details, because they are
holding you back from maximum produc-
tion. Sometimes it’s done when it’s done,
but most times it’s done when the time’s up.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Anything keeping
you from your goal could be called an “ene-
my.” Love your “enemy” by figuring out what
makes it work as an obstacle and then dis-
abling that capability.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your body
knows what your mind won’t tell. Direct
questions to your stomach. Its comfort lev-
el will relay to you the information that will
serve you best in regard to the entire situ-
ation.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You are reluc-
tant to change now and rightly so. There
is so much going well with the way things
are. But what if you thought of the change
as an experiment you’re doing for a limited
amount of time — just something you’re try-
ing out?
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ve been
in charge of you all these years and yet
you’re still figuring out how to properly feed
yourself. Your needs and tastes are always
changing, after all. It’s better to experiment
and fail than to get stuck in a rut.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Time
with creative people will inspire you to use
your imagination for the good of a project or
relationship. Truly there’s nothing that can’t
be improved with a sprinkle of your spar-
kling wit and ideas.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). To expect
life to come at you in neatly defined terms is
simply a setup for frustration. Nothing com-
pletely fits its definition or fully occupies its
role. Life is filled with contradiction and ap-
proximation.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You have
excellent taste and great ideas, so call the
shots. Go ahead and wield entertainment
the same way a person might use aspirin to
mitigate a headache. Curated amusements
ease the pain.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You don’t
need to come across as special or chosen
or important. To be genuinely interested in
others is far more attractive. Your friendly
ease will win affection.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (May 27). In one re-
gard you’ve always felt that you were miss-
ing out. Well, this year you remedy the situ-
ation. You make up for lost time in June. Try
and meet as many people as you can over
the next seven weeks. One winning person-
ality match is all it will take to start a wildly
successful project or business. August trav-
el is favored. Leo and Libra adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 28, 1, 3, 33 and 11.