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Ex-iancee plays mind games
Dear Annie: Several months
ago, my iancee of two years
announced that she wanted to date
other people. Although I knew
things had not been good between
us, I was devastated.
We met on the Internet, and I
saw that she was back on the same
website. I talked to her, hoping
she would give me a sign that she
wanted to get back together, but she
said she wanted to see other men
and that I should see other women.
I was desperate and even logged
onto her page on the dating website,
hoping to get through to her. After
a few days of her not responding, I
started getting messages from other
women. I made a date with one of
them, and we ended up having sex
afterward.
I felt terrible about it. I called the
woman and told her I couldn’t see
her anymore because I was still in
love with someone else. I continued
to call and text my ex, even though
I knew she was seeing other men.
This went on for about six weeks.
Last week, my ex and I had a
wonderful day together and ended
up cuddling under a blanket on her
sofa. Things started to get romantic,
and she asked if I had been out with
or had sex with anyone. I answered
truthfully. She became angry and
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said she did not want to see me
again.
While I’m not making excuses
for something I should not have
done, I am confused by her attitude.
She said she expected me to know
that she still loved me, even though
she never responded when I tried
to get back together. Why did she
insist that we date other people? Am
I as bad as she is making me out to
be? I don’t know what to say that I
haven’t already said. — Heart Torn
Out
Dear Heart: We suggest say-
ing “goodbye and good riddance.”
Your ex wasn’t satisied with you
nor committed to your relation-
ship. If you got back together, we
suspect she would break your heart
repeatedly. She also expects you to
read her mind, which is unfair and
manipulative, and gives her a rea-
son to leave whenever she gets
bored. We agree that you should
not have hopped in the sack with
the irst woman you met, but you
were essentially unattached and free
to do as you pleased. We know you
are heartbroken, but we hope you
can also see that you dodged a bul-
let with this woman. You deserve
to ind someone who cherishes and
respects you.
Dear Annie: “Not a Creepy
Guy” said his son’s iancee thinks
he’s creepy, for no particular rea-
son. Another reader said all young
women think middle-aged guys are
creepy.
I am a woman in my mid-30s and
I have worked in health care for the
past 10 years. I have discovered that
any amount of polite, friendly atten-
tion can quickly turn a man, no mat-
ter his age, into Mr. Creepy. I have
been grabbed and cornered and had
to endure inappropriate comments.
Now I do not treat any man as a safe
and respectable human being. —
Better Safe Than Sorry
Dear Better: We have to won-
der what men you are encounter-
ing that they are ALL like this. You
should never have to tolerate being
grabbed and cornered, but your
experience seems so lopsided that
you might want to reconsider your
work environment.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MAY 17, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Some of the
best teachers you will ever have are not even
alive right now. You’ll be drawn to great minds
and talents and will find them in many forms
and mediums.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Sometimes it
seems that a partnership can only support
one person’s happiness at a time. This indi-
cates a lack of mutual interests. More com-
monalities need to be discovered or devel-
oped.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve been
overly modest — so hard on yourself, in fact,
that you can afford to fluff your ego up a bit.
For instance, you’ll come across most beau-
tifully when you have a notion that you look
pretty good.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). This will be
a very productive day for you. The wheels of
your mind are turning, and they will go even
faster when greased with motivation that
comes from having a worthy opponent.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You may not know
what a loved one is thinking, but today’s tur-
bo-charged powers of empathy will help you
understand what this person is feeling. By rec-
ognizing and speaking to those feelings you
can start a healing process.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There are those
who believe they are weak and hobbled, thus
deserving of sympathetic gifts from the world.
Do not offer such gifts today. Instead, focus
only on the strengths, talents and potential for
self-sufficiency in others.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You are orga-
nized, serious and ready to dedicate yourself
to a difficult long-term project. A group of simi-
larly focused individuals will help you, as long
as you avoid the bullies and buzz-kills in this
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
mix.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Creative
bonds are just like romantic bonds in many
ways. They work best when there’s chemistry,
mutual admiration and logistic compatibility.
When you find all three, this is not a connec-
tion to be wasted.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Don’t
take the behavior of your “frenemy” too per-
sonally. Often relationships that are both affa-
ble and competitive are complicated in ways
that have more to do with history than with the
present situation.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What mat-
ters more to you is not the playground you’re in
but the playmates there with you. Good thing,
because the “equipment” may be dilapidated.
Watch out for this and other hazards.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Salesman-
ship is a conversation, and thus it’s depen-
dent on good listening and careful navigation
of topics. Success happens because you get
to know a person before making the pitch.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’d like to
give second chances, but just because a per-
son recognizes, acknowledges and pays for
a mistake doesn’t mean there won’t be more
of the same in the future. The real question is:
Can you afford to risk it?
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (May 18). You
will have greater control over your words and
actions this year, and fewer regrets in the fu-
ture. Someone special will work to keep you
interested, entertained, informed and en-
gaged. Lifestyle upgrades will happen in July.
You’ll see a wonderful part of the world in No-
vember. A December investment will pay off in
March. Cancer and Scorpio adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 2, 28, 14, 32 and 16.