THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 2, 2016
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Uncle upset by boy’s advances
Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-
old single man with a serious
problem involving my 13-year-
old nephew, “Hayden.” Hayden’s
father died when he was 3, and I
immediately stepped in as a sur-
rogate parent. We share a close,
affectionate relationship, and he
has spent the night at my house
on numerous occasions. There
was never a problem until a month
ago.
During a sleepover, I awoke to
ind Hayden had crawled into my
bed and was attempting to per-
form a sex act on me. I immedi-
ately stopped him, and we spent
the rest of the evening discuss-
ing what happened. He confessed
he was attracted to men and had
been obsessed with having an inti-
mate homosexual encounter since
he was 11 years old. He thought
I would be receptive to it because
I always give him a hug and kiss
when I see him. I have been doing
this since he was a toddler, and
there was never anything remotely
sexual about it.
Hayden also admitted he has
had a few sexual encounters with
a 16-year-old male neighbor. I
was stunned by all this. I calmly
explained to Hayden that a sexual
relationship between us was sim-
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ply not possible, and that it was
dangerous to be looking for that
with any adult. He seemed gen-
uinely sorry and begged me not
to tell his mother. I agreed, but
now regret making that promise. I
worry he might seek an encounter
with someone who may not have
his best interests in mind.
Do I break my promise and tell
my sister, thereby losing his trust?
Or do I handle this myself, and if
so, how? — Louisville Uncle
Dear Uncle: You have han-
dled this well so far. However, at
some point you will need to break
that promise, so irst arm yourself
with useful information. Contact
PFLAG (plag.org) and encourage
Hayden to do the same. Like any
teenager, he should understand the
emotional and physical risks of
becoming sexually active, and he
needs guidance.
Dear Annie: My daughter
received an iTunes gift card from
one of her friends. At the birth-
day party, she and this friend
attempted to redeem the card
online, but it did not activate. The
friend told her mother the card
did not work. Two days later, we
attempted to exchange the card at
the store where it was purchased,
but we needed a receipt. I called
the friend’s mother, but she told
me she thought she had thrown
it out, but she’d check and let me
know.
Anyway, this particular mother
has not contacted me, apologized
or tried to exchange the purchase
herself. If it were me, I would
have taken the card back and got-
ten another. Am I out of line?
What would be the proper action
if this happens again? — Kind of
Annoyed in Florida
Dear Annoyed: Say nothing.
Is it possible this girl gave your
daughter a card that had already
been used? That would explain
a lot, including Mom’s reaction.
Yes, of course she should have
apologized and exchanged the
card herself. However, it was a
gift, which means even if Mom
was ill-mannered and cheap,
you’re out of luck.
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ARIES (March 21-April 19). One sign of
deep affection is the ability for partners to re-
lax around one another. Another sign is the
resistance to relaxation, wanting to continu-
ally impress and improve for your love. You’ll
dally in both sides of affection.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Negativity is
like arthritis to the soul. It makes your emo-
tional body stiff and achy. Stave off negativity;
gently stretch into hope. Your worries will dis-
sipate as your emotional flexibility increases.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Awkward stag-
es happen to all. Furthermore, everyone is
weird in some regard. You see beauty in this.
Your hospitable demeanor is comforting to
one who sorely needed comfort, and it’s at-
tractive to all.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You will skill-
fully calibrate a person’s interest level and
then match it with a response that will ratch-
et that interest up a few notches. That’s real
talent there, and you’ll be paid well for it, too.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). To volunteer or not
to volunteer — that is the question. “Not” is
the answer, unless you’re strongly feeling it
(and if you were, why would you be asking
the question in the first place?).
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You have your
eye on a role you’re not exactly qualified to
play. It’s what ambitious people do and it’s
how you grow. A low-grade razzle-dazzle
may be all the distraction you need to get
your foot in the door.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you knew that
your fond dream would come true eventu-
ally, would that allow you to relax and enjoy
what’s unfolding right now? Trust that the
future favors you so you can pay more atten-
tion to today.
FRANK AND ERNEST
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ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are
many sides to you, and sometimes you’re
not sure which “you” to bring to the mo-
ment. Breathe, relax and focus on the other
person’s needs and wants. The “you” who
emerges to help will be the perfect fit.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). So
much of who you are is coming from a deep-
ly entrenched moral belief, a moral belief that
someone close to you does not share. Today
this could cause an interesting intellectual
clash.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It feels
like the work is being put upon you, like the
meal comes with the package deal, like the
circumstances are dictated by another. Is
that really so? Or do you have choices you’re
not seeing? (Yes!)
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Nothing fits
its definition completely, and that goes for
people, too. You can sum people up in one
look today with a high degree of accuracy.
Just know there’s more to learn.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). More spon-
taneity is what’s needed, and you probably
know just the character who will give this to
you, too. This person makes an art form out
of the pursuit of happiness, and when you’re
around this person you’ll follow suit.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (May 3). There’s
a kind of rage in you this year — a fire that
burns in your belly and won’t let you quit even
when it seems quitting is the sensible thing
to do. You’ll reach a personal goal by the end
of July. August represents a turning point for
your family, and some of the struggles you’ve
been dealing with will finally be behind you
for good. Capricorn and Aries adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 3, 11, 25, 48 and 16.