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Dear Annie: I am a very lov-
ing mother of two adult daugh-
ters. “Jane” has a child with her
ex and another with her cur-
rent husband. “Cindy” is mar-
ried with one child and one on
the way.
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great. We helped them furnish
their house with all new appli-
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cially when they asked. Three
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if as if I were dead. We are not
allowed to see our grandchil-
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allows us to see the one grand-
child when he has visitation.
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lets me see my grandchild only
once a month for four hours. She
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she wouldn’t let me near her for
two weeks. Others were allowed
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mother. She won’t let me talk to
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her about her current pregnancy.
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don’t even know why they are
angry with me. Any advice
would be so gratefully appre-
ciated. — A Loving, Crushed
Mother
Dear Mother: Your daugh-
ters may not be angry. They
may be trying to create some
space between your life and
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do it in a more loving fashion.
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objected to your presence. And
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may be feeding on each other’s
grievances.
It will do you no good to
keep pounding at this. Back off.
You also can stop loaning them
money if you choose. You don’t
owe it to them and it obviously
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affection. Enjoy the time you
do get to spend with the grand-
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other activities that bring you
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and we hope your daughters will
come to appreciate you again
soon.
Dear Annie: You’ve printed
several letters from parents and
grandparents complaining that
they never receive a thank-you
note.
My mother-in-law was also
disappointed that one of her
grandsons never acknowledged
the checks she sent for birthdays
and Christmas. To change the
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she didn’t actually enclose it.
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she’d apparently forgotten to put
the check in the envelope. — J.
Dear J.: Your mother-in-
law sounds like a very clever
woman.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN THURSDAY, MARCH 3, 2016
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You are the
invincible, all-powerful, benevolent warrior.
You’re also the mild-mannered opposite,
content to blend in with society until it’s clear
that the people around you need heroic help.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You want to
make sure that you’re delivering all you can,
doing your best, providing more quality than
the other guy. A less analytical approach will
serve you well. Once you relax, you’ll do
even better.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Bad times pro-
duce bad feelings, which produce bad times,
etc. etc. The same pattern will play out with
times that are good, exciting, interesting and
more. Decide which tone you want to play in,
and start playing.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If it all goes
exactly as planned you’ll start to fall asleep
mid-action. Alternately, a plan that goes
awry can be just the beautiful bit of chaos
you need to turn a regular day into a story.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). In business, “no”
isn’t a bad answer, especially if it happens to
come right on the heels of the question. It’s
much better to get a fast “no” then a “maybe”
that wastes your time by dragging on indef-
initely.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re thought-
ful, playful and artful. You add your style to
every interaction, which is so attractive. Take
your time. Enjoy yourself. The others certain-
ly are.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Nothing hap-
pens randomly. Even tropical storms are
organized. Your strong intention will act as
an organizing force. Everything fortuitous
that happens will occur as a result of good
organization.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The lan-
guage of love is humor. Make someone
laugh and you’ll win that person’s heart, at-
tention and affection. You may even win de-
votion, dollars and a permanent spot in the
inner circle.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
good news you’ll hear is actually an iceberg
situation: The part that is readily apparent
above the water is a mere implication as to
the 90 percent of massive goodness that
lies beneath.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It used to
be that you had to force yourself to look on
the bright side. Then you coerced yourself
for a while until gradually all you had to do
was suggest it to yourself. Now optimism is
easy; all you have to do is choose it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What’s fa-
vored: finishing the unfinished business,
righting a past wrong, turning the tables, flip-
ping the switch and making a fast change.
What’s not advised: waiting.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You support
your friends, show up to their events, cele-
brate their victories and give help when they
need it, too. Much of your weekend may be
taken up in this regard, and it will be time
well-spent.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 4). You have
fans and more attention than you’re used to!
The person you find most interesting is the
one who is genuinely fascinated with you.
The next 10 weeks show you getting a work
project into major shape. You may sell this
in June. Family moves affect your domestic
life. July brings a fantastic makeover. Gemini
and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 42, 25, 1, 19 and 37.