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Man left for ‘vulgar’ lady
Dear Annie: After 14 years of
marriage, my husband, “Ron,” left
me for another woman. Here’s how
it happened: For several years,
friends had dinner with us once a
week. One day, they brought along
“Fran,” a recently widowed wom-
an they took under their wing. Ron
initially told me he found her vul-
gar, overweight, unattractive and
heavily tattooed. Fran talked non-
stop about herself, bragging about
her time in a biker club where she
enjoyed “getting wasted on drugs
and having random sex,” a lifestyle
she wanted to get back into.
Within weeks, Ron changed his
tune about Fran. He decided she
was “cool,” and he, too, wanted a
life that included drugs and ran-
dom sex. He and Fran began to
text and call each other daily, of-
ten right in front of me. Ron began
to find fault with everything I said
or did, and criticized me to others.
He even assaulted me physically
and then stopped speaking to me
for months. Finally, he left and
moved in with Fran.
Annie, I did everything for
Ron. I helped support us with my
full-time job while doing all the
cooking and cleaning. Our sex life
was great. I kept myself slim and
attractive.
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Nearly a year after Ron left, he
begged me for forgiveness, and I
agreed to let him come home pro-
vided he got into anger manage-
ment counseling. I also told him
if he ever assaulted me verbally
or physically again, I would ter-
minate the marriage. With coun-
seling, Ron became a different
man, loving and supportive, and
very apologetic. But to this day,
he has been unable to tell me
what he found so provocative
about Fran, a woman he now says
he abhors.
Why would a man leave a lov-
ing relationship for one that is so
destructive? If any of the men in
your reading audience have done
this, could they tell me why? And
were they happy? — Waiting for
Answers
Dear Waiting: We don’t be-
lieve Fran was the attraction. We
think it was the promise of her
lifestyle that he found fascinat-
ing, exciting and freeing. But it
turned out to be something much
less appealing in practice. We
are glad Ron has become a better
husband, and if our readers have
more to say, we’ll be happy to
print it.
Dear Annie: What a kind ges-
ture “Heartbroken Brother-in-
Law” did by ordering vases of
his wife’s ashes to be given to his
wife’s sisters. It’s a shame they
thought it was in poor taste and
now the relationship is damaged.
When my sister died a few
years ago, we didn’t know this
was an option. Her son took the
urn back to his home state. He
didn’t do this selfishly, of course,
but all of us who loved her would
have been so grateful to have had
that remembrance. Please tell
“Heartbroken” that he was indeed
thoughtful and kind. — Louis-
ville, Ky
Dear Louisville: Several read-
ers suggested the sisters may have
had religious reasons to reject the
cremains, but we think a brother-
in-law of 60 years would know
whether this was the case. We
hope their relationship has been
repaired.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 2, 2015
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Things
do not always run smoothly for you, but
today they run right. You’ll be glad about
how it all shakes out. The important part
is that you keep believing in the benevo-
lent process of life.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You can’t
plan your own delight — it will happen by
surprise. You can, however, put yourself
in circumstances in which you are more
likely to be surprised.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Once
again, you’ve set your sights on a lofty
destination. Too lofty? No. If your wings
can take you there, then it’s not too high
for you. You’ll handle this one wing-flap
at a time.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). In a
sense, you feel that life is scolding you.
It’s not. It’s just caring for you the way a
good parent does, trying to correct you
when you stray slightly from the path.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Mostly the best
things are made slowly and painfully. If
that’s how you feel your “thing” is being
made, count yourself among the fortu-
nate. This is going to turn out well for you.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Find a new
model. The one you’re chasing isn’t wor-
thy. Whether this is business or personal,
the answer is the same. You’re bringing
something unique, and a generic model is
never going to encompass all you can do.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The good
thing about connecting with people from
your past is that they knew you before
these trials and victories shaped you.
They help you to meet yourself as you
were, which will be interesting for you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Anyone
who thinks it’s so easy to sell out isn’t
in touch with sales in general. It’s rarely
easy to make a sale. There’s work that
goes into finding the right product for the
market. You’ll do the work and win.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
person who dares to alter the power
balance in relationships must be brave,
indeed. People hate this. Maybe change
is necessary, and if so, go carefully. A
power balance is nothing to take lightly.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It will
feel like you don’t have any control over
the flow of ideas today, and maybe you
don’t. The quality of the idea will make it-
self known over time. For now, it’s enough
just to keep track. Document your mind.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Those
who buy tickets to the circus should not
be too surprised to find themselves inter-
acting with clowns. This is the day to sit
back and enjoy the entertainment.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your tone
will make or break your argument today.
Strong messages are best sent with dul-
cet tones, and weak messages can be
made more interesting with emphasis.
THURSDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 3).
After you’ve said and done what you
needed to say and do, you’ll do more.
More matters. Your willingness to go the
extra mile is what will form tighter bonds
and forge new relationships. November
and May are your best months to invest
your time and energy in a new business.
Wedding bells ring in July. Taurus and
Cancer people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 45, 31, 21, 28 and 14.