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Facebook invites cause confusion Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I am a 27-year-old
woman and have been verbally in-
vited to a few weddings this year.
For one, we were told to “save the
date” a year in advance. I never
received an actual invitation and
their wedding was last weekend.
The pictures are popping up on
The second wedding, the bride
and I were close, then had a fall-
ing out, then sort of made up and
she expressed verbally that she
wanted me to attend her wed-
ding. I have dinner with her ev-
ery few months, but neither of
us has made a big effort to spend
more time together. Her wedding
is coming up soon. Last month,
I saw her “save the date” photos
pop up on Facebook, but I did not
receive one personally, nor have
I received an invitation. Am I re-
quired to attend? I honestly don’t
want to.
The third invitation is for a
couple that I am good friends
with. The groom recently texted
that he expects me to be at their
wedding in September, but I have
not received any “save the date”
or invitation yet. The bride made
a Facebook page last year and
said if people wanted to come,
we should send her our address-
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
Marcy Sugar
es. Should I send her my address
now or is it too late? I originally
thought it was just for her family.
Is everything done on Face-
book now? Does no one send out
paper invitations or keep a guest
list? What is my responsibility
when a person verbally express-
es that I should attend, or posts
something on Facebook saying I
should “come to the wedding”? —
Invitationally Challenged
Dear Challenged: We can un-
derstand your confusion. Paper
invitations are still appropriate.
A “save the date” notice is not an
invitation. A verbal expression is
not an invitation. Facebook no-
tices are unreliable and informal,
but if the bridal couple considers
this an invitation, you may, also.
And someone who says, “Send me
your address if you want to be in-
vited,” is too lazy to acquire your
address and send a personal invi-
tation. She expects her guests to
do all of the work. But if you want
to send her your address, even at
this late date, that is entirely up to
you. And of course, if you don’t
wish to attend a wedding, it’s per-
fectly OK to RSVP with your re-
Dear Annie: This is regarding
the letter from “Outraged Moth-
er,” whose birthmother was re-
posting pictures of her children
on Facebook without permission.
The one suggestion you didn’t
mention is to drop social media
and share photos via text with
close friends only.
I assure you my life became
much better after I did exactly
that. Social media was fun for a
short time, but then it seemed to
become a competition about who
had the better lives, then a way to
communicate passively, and then I
watched marriages get destroyed.
Some things are meant to be pri-
vate. (Love your column.) — J.
Dear J.: Not too many people
are willing to disconnect from so-
cial media once they have learned
to depend on it for updates about
friends and family. We commend
your self-discipline. (And thank
you so much.)
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The difficult
people don’t scare you. You see the good
in them and find a positive way to interact.
This is why in the future they will want to
deal only with you. You’ll turn them into fans
and clients.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You let peo-
ple know up front what they are getting
when they get you. Just be careful. With
the flaws, or “quirks” as you like to think of
them, out in the open, someone is likely to
fall in love with you.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You haven’t
been saying “I love you” as often as you’d
like, and this is because your nearest and
dearest don’t always behave in a way that
inspires such a proclamation. Say it any-
way, if only to change the trend.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The good
thing about getting very far off track is that it
has a way of galvanizing you to get back on
track. Today you’ll feel determined to return
with new zeal to your mission.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The spending
money is sizzling in your pocket, and the
day brings worthy choices, too. Whatever
deal you are offered, apply your famous
charm as you ask for a better one.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Don’t agree
to disagree -- keep talking your ideas
through. Compromise will be lucrative.
The agreement you come to together will
be better than the one you originally had
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll keep
company with talented people, and that
makes you want to practice and improve
your own bag of tricks. The command you
have over your gifts is more important than
the particular gifts you have.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Exercise is
a miracle drug. It will do wonders for your
body and even more for your mind. Bonus:
It doesn’t hurt your love life, either. Get
back on track with your routine.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s
not that the stress doesn’t get to you -- you
feel it, all right. It’s just that you’ve learned
what kind of good comes from panicking
(none whatsoever). You’ll tap your talent for
discovering serenity in unlikely places.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). To-
morrow, the cat will be out of the bag, the
beans will be spilled, the rooster will crow,
and the bubble will burst. Because you
know the text will be irretrievably sent, to-
day is the best day to consciously craft it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). A goal
that no one knows you have will be the
most exciting one of all to work on today.
The secret status of this aim builds up that
mischievous part of you -- irresistible.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Ambition
alone can’t take you where you want to
go; diplomacy is crucial. Don’t know what
the others want? You won’t come up with
a successful strategy until you find out. Ask
outright if you have to.
you put your money into is the least of your
investments in 2016. You’ll attract support
from those who understand that relation-
ships are the true wealth in your life. When
your time and attention help your personal
life grow in satisfying directions, you’ll be
on top of the world. Leo and Sagittarius
people adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
31, 45, 17, 1 and 48.