The daily Astorian. (Astoria, Or.) 1961-current, August 26, 2015, Image 5

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Husband’s daughter makes life hard Tomorrow’s horoscope
Dear Annie: My husband,
“Ben,” and I each lost a spouse
and then found each other. We live
in the same house with one of his
daughters and a granddaughter. Ben
is quite attached to this house. The
two daughters are the owners now,
but their father bought it originally
and has always maintained it.
The daughter who lives here
has a neurological disorder, which
keeps her from accepting me. She
has only spoken to me by name
two or three times, although she
knows how to blow up at us when
something makes her angry. I try
to greet her every morning with
a family nickname that she likes,
but she still only grunts in reply.
It seems that she has inÀuenced
the granddaughter to resent me, as
well. I have tried to put my foot
down on occasion, but mostly, I just
meekly defend myself from her crit-
icism. My husband feels sorry for
her and she fawns over him, so he
believes that she can do no wrong.
He cannot hear well, so he is un-
aware of how she speaks to me.
I’ve asked Ben about moving to
a place of our own, but he won’t
do it. He also doesn’t like the idea
of paying rent when he has a place
to live for free. And his daughter
wants him to stay because he does
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
Marcy Sugar
all of the upkeep and pays the
Annie, I cringe when I hear one
of these girls coming, and I hide if
I can. I have prayed about my an-
ger and tried to overcome the fear
I feel at an encounter. Ben would
not condone my going for coun-
seling, as he is a minister himself.
Is there anything I can do? —
Coming In Third
Dear Third: You do not need
Ben’s permission to get counsel-
ing to help you deal with an un-
fair and unpleasant situation that
he is perpetuating. Was the living
situation discussed in advance?
Did you agree to live with his
daughter forever? Your minis-
ter husband should be aware that
spouses promise to put each other
first when they marry. He has not
done this. Please get counseling
with or without Ben. You also may
need to get a place of your own to
find peace, and if Ben refuses to
relocate with you, suggest that he
visit often.
Dear Annie: Some close
friends of ours have become lazy
hosts. When we have a party at
our home, we provide the food and
other items. If we have a potluck,
each guest brings a dish and we
provide the main course and the
For these friends, the last few
birthday parties have been at
restaurants where we paid for our
own meals. The “hosts” might
bring a cake, but the rest of us are
expected to bring a gift to the hon-
This seems cheap to me. We en-
joy getting together, but would ap-
preciate a little more effort. Other-
wise, they aren’t hosting the party
at all. We are. — Not So Social in
Louisville, Ky.
Dear Not So: If you are pay-
ing your own way, then they are
not hosting the event. However,
it is not uncommon for a bunch
of friends to get together to cel-
ebrate someone’s birthday, in
which case, there is no host at all.
We hope they reciprocate for your
lovely home hospitality in some
other way.
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ll enter a
fluid time zone, outside of the bounds of sec-
onds and hours. The elasticity of time can al-
low you to stretch beyond your limits, or it can
snap back at you with a painful sting.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The best in-
ventions were originally conceived to solve
a problem. Money-saving tip: if you must first
be convinced of the problem, it probably nev-
er existed. Save your money for something
that’s really worth it.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You could say
this is a backward day as far as relationships
go. Flirting comes in the form of arguing,
and love comes in the form of saying “no” to
someone you adore.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Tempted to
put all of your energy into charming the one
you admire? It’s not your only option, nor is
it your best one. You’re better off cultivating a
high self-approval rating that’s independent
of the opinion of others.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You may mix with
a group of people who already know one an-
other very well. Being the new one has its ad-
vantages. Follow your instincts about making
alliances, because once you set a pattern, it
will be very hard to break it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You have to
purposely get out of your element in order
to expand your realm of influence. When you
find yourself among strangers, this means
you’re doing it right.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You may not be
in a very social mood, and if you don’t have
any clear reason for showing up (something
to sell), you’ll be tempted to forgo certain
events. Go anyway. You’ll sell yourself and
gather more supporters for Team You.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s easy to
be loving and cheerful when you’re in a good
mood. To be just as pleasant when you don’t
feel like it takes maturity. You’ll be rewarded
for the effort to project your best and highest
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Work-
ing too hard at being attractive is the antithe-
sis of attractive. You’ve already given enough
effort to the situation, and now it’s time to for-
get about it. There’s great charisma in your
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re in
a mood to be extremely selective as to how
you spend your time and with whom. If you
bring that warm smile to every interaction,
no one will suspect you’re sizing up oppor-
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). A friend will
reach out to you. The weird part is that you
will be able to feel this before it happens. It’s
because you are connected at a deep level,
working through some joint karma.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Assume the
best will happen, because when you adopt
the assumption, it absolutely will. People will
be nice and say yes. They will accept and
admire you.
complexities of a past relationship are no
more — this year brings a new page and
a fresh simplicity to the realm of love. Sep-
tember shows you dancing as you learn that
your hard work has paid off. November will
bring family bonding, travel and a business
opportunity that will up your income in 2016.
Scorpio and Aquarius people adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 14, 39, 22, 28 and