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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, AUGUST 14, 2015
Boy’s mom ruining relationship Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I follow you on
Facebook. I am 18 years old and
have been with my boyfriend
for more than a year. We used to
spend a bit too much time togeth-
er and I know it wasn’t healthy,
so we worked it out and now have
new hobbies and see our friends a
little more.
Everything is good except for
one thing: His mother. She is
recently divorced and when my
boyfriend and I were spending a
lot of time at her place, she was
upset and miserable. We under-
stood, so we would make dinner
for her and keep the house clean,
but she would never come out of
her room. My boyfriend and I
would eat dinner and converse.
One day, his mother came into
the kitchen and apparently, saw
this closeness as a threat. She
complained that she wasn’t get-
ting any attention from her son
and that I was stealing him away
from her. She prohibited me from
coming over for three weeks,
which my boyfriend and I found
hurtful.
She still complains about me,
saying I give her dirty looks (I
would never do that) and that I
ignore her, even when I say hel-
lo every time I see her. I get that
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she doesn’t like me, so I try not to
engage her too often. But she also
tries to sabotage our dates, saying
my boyfriend can’t go out with
me because he has some import-
ant family dinner, which is usual-
ly a lie. Sometimes, she calls in
the middle of a date and tells him
to come home right away and that
sort of thing.
The worst part, though, is that
she has such a strong influence
on my boyfriend that he is begin-
ning to believe she knows what is
best for him and that maybe we
should break up. This devastates
me. She is ruining our relation-
ship and bringing stress into my
boyfriend’s life.
I don’t know whether to speak
to her about her behavior or leave
it alone. I fear I’m not going to
win this. — Lost
Dear Lost: You won’t win if
your boyfriend doesn’t back you
up. His mother seems very clingy,
and this may be due to the divorce
or it may be that she would not
like any girl her son dated. Talk
to your boyfriend. Let him know
that if he doesn’t defend you to
his mother, the relationship is
over. Because, Honey, it will be.
Dear Annie: I appreciate your
advice to “Torn Son,” whose fa-
ther is abusing alcohol, and the
son suspects he is also using
drugs.
I am a member of a local 12-
step program organized to help
people and families under the
stress of having an addicted loved
one. You recommended Al-Anon
and Adult Children of Alcoholics.
Please add to your list “Families
Anonymous” which was founded
in 1971 and is a national and in-
ternational self-help group. There
is no cost to attend our meetings.
— Outreach Coordinator
Dear Coordinator: We have
recommended Families Anony-
mous in this space before and we
are happy to mention it again. It
is a fine organization for those
whose loved ones are addicted to
alcohol or drugs. Interested read-
ers can contact the organization
at familiesanonymous.org.
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WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As the pillar
of stability that you are, you sometimes for-
get that in order to continue to withstand the
pressures of day-to-day living you need love.
Hugs and praise are key to your well-being.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You know
that feeling like you’re waiting for someone
and you’re not sure whether or not the per-
son is really going to show up? That’s the
kind of anticipation that will make your after-
noon interesting.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Learn and
use people’s names. Everyone loves hear-
ing his or her own name. This simple act will
be essential to your success. It will be the
difference between winning first and second
place.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you could
unravel the puzzle and unlock the mystery,
you would. But for now, your job is to expe-
rience the mystery instead. Marvel in fear,
awe and wonder at it.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Usually a person
who has quite a lot won’t mind gambling with
it. Whereas, a person with very little will hold
what he has very precious and very dear.
Let this be a clue to aid you in your nego-
tiations.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The new wish
you send from your heart to the stars has
been noted and filed. There are cosmic re-
quirements that go along with this, starting
with a request that you stretch and grow into
the blessing.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Is it possible
that you could live up to your talents without
the help of anyone around you? Probably
not. Everyone needs a mentor. Stop trying
to do it alone.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You get per-
sonal satisfaction from helping others, and
that’s a reward that overrides any tangible
reward you might be offered. Let yourself be
helped, too, without feeling that you must im-
mediately repay someone.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There’s
a time to keep score and a time to even the
score. But right now it’s better to throw out
the score sheet altogether and start fresh.
You will feel better immediately.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You can’t
force things to happen, and you wouldn’t
want to anyway. Your attention and focus
make things happen in such a natural and
elegant way that force isn’t necessary in the
least.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The inves-
tigator in you will get plenty of leads today.
A few key words from the lips of someone
you care about demand further inquiry. Your
careful listening leads to intimate bonds.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It takes a
tough person to knock down the obstacles
invented by others, but the obstacles invent-
ed by you are the hardest to knock down.
At least it doesn’t hurt when you crash into
them, because they are mostly illusory.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 15).
Your ideas are sharp; your follow-through,
impressive. With an earth sign on your side
(Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn), you’ll upgrade
your lifestyle. A worthy sweetheart comes
along in November. The end of 2015 is for
healing family ties. January will bring a wel-
come change to your professional life. You’ve
worked for this -- savor it! Aries and Libra
people adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
2, 23, 1, 19 and 37.