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Rude to bring boyfriend?
Dear Annie: My cousin is
getting married soon and another
cousin’s girlfriend was invited.
They have been dating for years,
and I really like her. The problem
is, my boyfriend was not invited,
even though we, too, have been
dating for years. A lot of that was
long distance, so many of my fam-
ily members have not yet met him.
When I received my wedding
invitation, it was addressed only
to me. I was wondering whether
it would be rude to ask my cous-
in whether I could bring my boy-
friend. I don’t want to create any
problems, but this would be the
first family event that my boy-
friend could attend and I’d like
everyone to meet him.
If he cannot attend, I will still
go and make sure my cousin’s spe-
cial day is perfect. — Don’t Want
to Cause Tension
Dear Don’t: We commend you
for being understanding. It is gen-
erally expected that both parties of
an established couple are invited,
but we double-checked with Liz-
zie Post of the Emily Post Insti-
tute, who said it is not proper for
you to ask. Your cousin apparently
didn’t know that your relationship
was steady and ongoing and the
couple may not have felt obligat-
Annie’s
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ed to include someone they didn’t
know. They also may not have
room.
We think it would be a good
idea if you found a way to intro-
duce your boyfriend to your cous-
in before the wedding. Perhaps the
two of you could take the bridal
couple out to dinner to celebrate.
You might also consider having
a small party to introduce him to
your relatives so they have an op-
portunity to get to know him.
Dear Annie: My sister does
not have her own email address or
Facebook page. Everything is in
her husband’s name. That means
he sees everything I send to her.
There are times when I would
like to send stuff to my sister in
private. I’m not asking her to hide
anything important from her hus-
band, but I don’t see the point of
him being able to read everything
I send. Sometimes there are per-
sonal things between sisters that
I’d prefer she not share, although
if she chooses to, that would be
her choice. It wouldn’t be because
he is reading them anyway. Know-
ing that he is looking at everything
I send changes the way I write to
her and makes it less sisterly.
I don’t understand why she re-
fuses to create her own accounts.
It’s not that difficult. What’s up
with this? — Annoyed Sis
Dear Annoyed: Have you
asked your sister directly why
her accounts are in her husband’s
name? Perhaps it was a mutual
decision allowing both of them to
have access to each other’s com-
munications and social media
posts. This is sometimes a trust
issue and not your business. Or
maybe she can’t be bothered to
set up her own, in which case, you
can offer to do it for her.
We understand that this annoys
you, but it’s not your decision. If
you need to say something to your
sister that you’d prefer her hus-
band not be privy to, we recom-
mend the old-fashioned way: Pick
up the telephone or meet her for
coffee. Those types of personal
communication are still quite ef-
fective.
FRANK AND ERNEST
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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, AUGUST 10, 2015
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Because you
are both wise and sophisticated, you are able
to give your full attention to people whose
opinions are dead wrong without feeling the
need to prove the error of their ways.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The things
you used to do to cut loose no longer relax
you like they used to. It’s time to find a new
way. There’s a project that’s been calling you
for a while now. It may be the most relaxing
way you could possibly spend your time.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). In theory, the
people close to you should be the ones
who support you the best. And yet today
you’ll get your best (and most impactful)
support from a perfect stranger.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You think
you know what you like to do, but today will
surprise you. Something you thought you
would find uninteresting will fascinate you,
and you’ll gladly go along for the ride.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When the chal-
lenges are not big enough, you get bored.
Bored people tend to create bigger chal-
lenges for themselves, and this could take
a destructive form. Avoid boredom by go-
ing for appropriately sized challenges.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). While you
prefer to go under the radar today and will
duck from public praise, privately it’s im-
portant that you acknowledge your talents
and commit to nurturing them. Others are
depending on you to be your best.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s no
reason to struggle with new ideas. Just
accept them. You may not agree, but you
don’t have to agree to observe what is.
The true concepts will sink in immediately.
Learning comes naturally for you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). So many
times you have started out with next to
nothing and made something of it — proof
that you’re a powerful creator. Now calm
down and become mindful of what you are
secretly wishing.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Doing
any one thing too long will get tedious, and
so hopefully you’ve planned at least five
different things to move around and do. If
not, no worries — cancellations will create
room for you to roam freely.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It’s so
rewarding to contribute to the success of
a team and take the win home with the
whole group. That’s why you’re not so con-
cerned about who did what today. The ca-
maraderie you feel overrides such worries.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Factors
that are out of your control (like children,
large groups, pets, traffic, weather, urgent
situations) will ruin your punctual, courte-
ous style unless you allow large margins of
time for whatever comes up.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The other
person’s fate is connected to yours. That’s
what limits you and frees you. You do more
because you have to — for them. You do
less because you can’t — because of them.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 11). Your
heart will lead you to happy arrangements.
The agreement you sign in September will
seem hard to fulfill at first, and then easier
than you ever imagined. A playful influence
makes the end of the year memorable. Jan-
uary brings students who desperately need
you. Romance will have you floating in Feb-
ruary. Cancer and Libra people adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 45, 12, 3, 36 and 47.