THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JULY 2, 2015
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Bad moves might mean dementia Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I am gay. Two years
ago, my partner of 34 years told me
that my brother-in-law had touched
her breasts inappropriately. I didn’t
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over it. She never confronted him or
told my sister, and she has contin-
ued to socialize with my family.
Last weekend, we attended my
niece’s graduation, and much to my
horror, my brother-in-law rubbed
his hand across my butt. Worse, I
then had to get into the same car
with him. I was shocked and said
nothing, even though I was terribly
upset. I avoided him the rest of the
weekend, but things haven’t been
quite right since.
A year ago, I moved to another
state and spend vacations with my
sister and her family, either in her
home or mine. Now I’m not sure I
should continue.
I do not understand why he did
this or what to do. Was it an act
of power or hate or some kind of
midlife crisis? This is my sister’s
husband, whom I have respected
through the years. I now doubt ev-
erything about him, including his
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whether he has touched other fe-
males in the family.
I am close to my sister and don’t
want to hurt her. We are not young
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anymore and don’t have a tremen-
dous amount of time left to be near
each other. But I am not comfortable
with the idea of staying in the same
house with him. How do I explain
that to my sister without causing
more harm? — Confused and Angry
Dear Confused: There is anoth-
er possibility. Sometimes, sudden
and peculiar changes in behavior
or a loss of inhibition can indicate a
medical problem, including a small
stroke or early signs of dementia. In
all the years you have known him,
your brother-in-law has never be-
haved this way toward you.
Please talk to your sister. Say
that you’ve noticed some disturbing
changes in your brother-in-law’s re-
cent behavior and that you worry he
may have some physical or neuro-
logical problems. You will have to
tell her what you mean, but do so
with concern and caring, instead
of accusations and condemnation.
Suggest to her that she get him to a
doctor for a complete work-up and
evaluation.
Dear Annie: This is for “Had
Enough, Thanks,” the 68-year-old
woman whose husband still wants
to have sex, but she isn’t interested.
I have the opposite problem.
My husband is in his late 60s,
and I am 10 years younger. We have
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and he has had no interest in sex or
any other type of physical intimacy.
He even told me that he has no need
for this anymore and could easily
live the rest of his life without it.
This has caused extreme problems,
as I still have a strong need and de-
sire for marital intimacy.
Though I truly love him, it is al-
most more than I can bear to face
the rest of my life with virtually no
human touch. — Married, Living
Alone
Dear Married: We’re certain
a lot of women will tell you that
in a few years, you may feel the
same way your husband does, but
that’s not necessarily true. And in
the meantime, you are miserable.
Is your husband willing to discuss
this with his doctor or a counselor?
If not, counseling might help you
make some decisions.
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ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Sponta-
neous emotion can be the thrill of life or
the bane of existence. You’re feeling ready
for less impulsivity and a more reasonable,
thoughtful, controlled approach. A Virgo
can help you with this.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You keep
wondering whether you’re missing some-
thing. You don’t want to squander your poten-
tial, and yet you get the sneaking suspicion
you could be doing more with what you have.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There’s
something you’re fighting for these days,
but you’re doing it in a quiet, patient man-
ner. You’ll get your way in the end if you
continue with this persistent approach.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your ex-
pression is the best thing in your wardrobe.
It’s so versatile. You’ll wear it with style to-
day, applying just the tone that will make a
dull room light up.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s important
that you privately keep track of your ac-
complishments so that you can bolster
yourself when you’re feeling down and
build on what you’ve done.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re look-
ing for powerful, romantic and lasting love
-- the kind movies are made about. This
is why you’ll forgo tepid invitations and
half-hearted attention. You’re willing to wait
for the real deal.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Those who
insist on only one way of proceeding will
get stuck. You can get over the blockage
by being open to possibilities. Ask what’s
worked for other people.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you
share your life with another person, you let
go of some of your control over it. Relation-
ships may get frustrating as you realize
your realm of influence has changed. You
can adjust to this gracefully, and you will.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). As
long as you’re adding new friends to your
life, look for the generous souls -- the ones
who will give without asking whether it’s a
tax write-off. One truly generous friend im-
proves the way you feel about relationships
in general.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When
people don’t need help but ask for it any-
way, you feel wronged by the request. Your
motto is not to ask anyone to do for you
what you could easily do for yourself.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People
open up in different ways. Some take more
time to get to know. Some give their trust
sparingly. Don’t take any of this personally,
because it’s not about you. Patience and
love will win out.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The
sounds of rain, a distant party or crashing
waves all could be considered soothing
under the right circumstances and with the
right outlook. Search for the soothing side
of the stimuli in today’s environment.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (July 3). Career
developments spark the beginning of your
solar year. Course corrections may be
necessary next month, and you’ll quickly
switch to the path that’s best for you. Your
resources blend in interesting ways. Sep-
tember shows you extremely creative, and
love has something to do with this. January
brings a new mentor. Aquarius and Aries
people adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
25, 8, 49, 5 and 38.