The daily Astorian. (Astoria, Or.) 1961-current, June 26, 2015, Image 6

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Tell father-in-law you know
Dear Annie: My father-in-
law “Ron” is having an affair.
At first I was not sure, but now I
have proof, and my husband has
seen his father with this woman,
as well. Even my in-laws have
told us that they only coexist
with one another. I am not sure
if my husband’s mother knows
of the affair. She might.
Since we saw my father-in-
law with this woman, things
have not been the same between
him and my husband. My moth-
er-in-law is not the same, either.
One minute she is fine and the
next she is not.
We will be leaving soon for
a joint family vacation and I
am not sure I want to be there.
I don’t even want to bring my
children to their home to visit.
My father-in-law has cheated
before. I think my mother-in-
law should divorce him and
my husband agrees. He said his
parents never seemed compat-
ible when he was growing up.
It seemed as though they were
forced to be together because of
his sister and him.
I want to tell my mother-in-
law and give her my evidence.
My husband says to leave it
alone. He says he needs time.
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
Marcy Sugar
But I feel his mother needs to
know now, the sooner the better.
I don’t want to be the one who
knew all about his affair and did
nothing. — I am Hurting, Too
Dear Hurting: This is tru-
ly not your business, and forc-
ing your mother-in-law to con-
front her husband’s behavior (of
which she is undoubtedly aware)
may not be in her best interest.
Sometimes, a spouse chooses
to ignore evidence in order to
maintain the status quo. It is not
up to you to decide whether a
divorce is better for her. What
you can do, however, is tell your
father-in-law what you know.
Anyone who cheats is exposing
a spouse to sexually transmitted
diseases, and this is something
the spouse should know.
Dear Annie: I live in a re-
tirement community. You would
think a great many residents
would have either spent time
in the service or know someone
who has.
It is so difficult for me to
drive through the streets and see
only a few homes with flags out
on Memorial Day or Flag Day.
You can buy flags at the dollar
store, for heaven’s sake. When
I think of all the young women
and men who have sacrificed so
much for our country, it is hard
to understand.
I hope people get this mes-
sage, and when July Fourth
comes around, we will see flags
at every home. Thank you. — J.
Dear J.: What an excellent
idea. Homes used to come with
flag holders attached near a
door or window so people could
hang large flags on poles for
these occasions. But it is cer-
tainly easy enough to pick up a
small flag on a stick and put it
on your lawn or by the curb. It
doesn’t matter if you are “red
state” or “blue state.” We all
love our country and appreciate
our freedoms. If you don’t own
a flag, please get one. And if
you have one, please display it
properly on these national hol-
Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). When what
you thought was a disadvantage actually
works in your favor, you’ll redefine “disadvan-
tage.” Perhaps it’s best not to think of any-
thing in terms of advantage or disadvantage.
It is what it is.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Even though
you recognize that the thing you want is
merely a symbol of success and not success
itself, you still want it. Maybe even unreason-
ably so. Calm down. You’ll have it in time.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Set a strong
intention at the top of the day about what
needs to be accomplished by tonight. You’ll
be amazed at your productivity. You won’t do
things in the expected order, but you’ll get
them done nonetheless.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You can
judge your friends not by who is real to your
face, but by who is real behind your back. Of
course, how are you going to find this out?
One way or another, you will.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The power doesn’t
always lie where most people think it does.
Sometimes the most powerful person in the
situation isn’t the richest, strongest or most
talented. Sometimes the one who serves the
best is the most powerful.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll get the
thing that every performer wants: a receptive
audience. Milk it. Take your sweet time telling
a story, giving a performance or explaining
what you know.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Try on your po-
tential for size. Act as though you’re already
the person you want to be, and you’ll quickly
grow in that direction. It’s not a lie; it’s a pro-
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). If you want
to take on an insane task, seek the perfect
partner, job, body or the perfect anything else
you can think of. Revel in the impossibility of
it. If you want sanity, expect and embrace im-
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Be-
cause you’re people-smart, you realize that
the funny ones are often wise and the seri-
ous ones are often fools. As for you, you’re
not afraid to be silly, and it’s one thing they
love about you.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your will-
ingness to fail is what leads to a success that
you and your cohorts will be extremely proud
of. Seize the chance to perform as much as
possible so you can work out the kinks.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People can
relax and be themselves around you, and
you should consider this a high honor (even
though it doesn’t always feel like one). Bonus:
There will be a lot of humor in your life today
because of your easygoing attitude.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re still
being too hard on yourself, expecting your-
self to give a top performance without al-
lowing yourself time to laugh, kick back and
recuperate. Don’t skip these steps! They are
crucial to your success.
is a year of high-energy action. You’ll attract a
like-minded partner in July, and by the end
of the year, you’ll have a whole team. In Au-
gust, you’ll create circumstances conducive
to making great money. Complicated family
dynamics even out in September. The new
year brings a restructuring of priorities and
habits. Capricorn and Aries people adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 28, 49, 13
and 25.