THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 23, 2015
FEATURES
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Suppressing a desire to cross-dress Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I am 50 years
old. After 10 years of marriage,
I feel I must tell my wife of the
reason for my declining ability
to perform in the bedroom.
After three months without
intimacy, she requested that I
see a doctor and I agreed to do
so. However, what she doesn’t
know is that in order to have a
marriage with this wonderful
woman, I have been suppress-
ing my desire to cross-dress.
I have been searching the
Internet for days to find a ther-
apist who can help me bring
this issue out in an appropriate
way. Many of the websites I’ve
seen don’t appear to be profes-
sional.
I don’t want to talk to my
wife without a professional
present because I fear disas-
trous results. I love her dearly.
What do you suggest? — No
Life Without Wife
Dear No Life: We suggest
you contact The Society for
the Second Self at Tri-ess.org
and ask whether they can refer
you to a therapist. You also can
look online or in your phone
book for a gender therapist or
ask your doctor to refer you to
someone.
Annie’s
Mailbox
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
and
Marcy Sugar
Please don’t keep your wife
in the dark. She deserves to
know the truth about what’s go-
ing on, and she can also be a
source of support.
Dear Annie: An office
co-worker is getting married
and she invited me to her bach-
elorette party. The plan was to
take a limo and the cost was
$60 per person. The maid of
honor asked whether the price
would be OK, and even though
I thought it was a bit pricey, I
agreed.
The day of the party, two of
her friends did not show up.
Two days later, the bride and
her maid of honor texted the
rest of us to pay an additional
$20 to cover the cost of the no-
shows.
I feel this request is tacky.
Why am I responsible for
friends who aren’t reliable?
And isn’t this part of the cost of
planning a party? You don’t ex-
pect your guests to pay for food
that doesn’t get eaten. Why
should we pay the limo costs
for people who don’t show up?
— Not My Problem
Dear Not: While it is ex-
pected that bachelorette party
expenses be shared, it is unfair
to have everyone agree to a spe-
cific amount and then change it
later. The planning was done
with a certain number of guests
in mind, and the extra amount
due should be paid by the ones
who didn’t show up.
However, this is a woman
you work with and will have
to see on a regular basis in the
future. We think $20, even in
installments, is a small price
to pay for maintaining peace in
your office environment.
Dear Annie: I have a solu-
tion for “Trapped by Nosy Nel-
lie,” who is worried that putting
up a fence will reflect poorly on
them. She should tell the nosy
neighbor that she’s considering
adopting a dog and one of the
requirements is a fenced yard.
Problem solved. — Dog Lover
in Oregon
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
STONE SOUP
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Lately
you’ve gotten so used to being there for
another person that you automatically
show up and do what this person wants.
Consequently, you have lost touch with
what you want.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). What’s the
last dream you can remember? Its signif-
icance crosses many layers of conscious-
ness and offers insight to your current life.
Before you go to bed tonight, make an
intention of remembering tonight’s dream.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s important
that you connect with old friends. They re-
mind you of who you were and teach you
who you want to be. Make arrangements.
There are many who want to see you again.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Because
there is so much misinformation out there
today, people you trust could accidentally
lead you astray. Do your own research. A
skeptical mind isn’t necessarily a negative
mind.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Those younger
than you have things that weren’t available
to you growing up. You’ll benefit from letting
them teach you or from merely watching
how they manage life’s problems.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Seize the
chance to compete, because competition
will bring out your best. Also, your high lev-
el of sportsmanship will bring out the best
in your opponents. You’ll be good for the
game.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll be tak-
ing and giving recommendations. Maintain
reasonable expectations. What works for
other people won’t necessarily work for
you, and what works for you won’t neces-
sarily work for others.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When your
mind doesn’t have clarity, there’s another
part of your body that does. Maybe it’s your
heart. If not your heart, your feet. Let them
lead you to where you’ll get peace.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). In
your current adventurous mindset, you’re
not necessarily seeking security. Nonethe-
less, there’s someone in your life who loves
you like a rock. You’ll take some comfort in
this now.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some-
one wants to connect with you but is not
yet conscious of the real reason why.
Therefore, the excuse to get together
sounds completely contrived. That doesn’t
mean it won’t be fun.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The
name you give to things matters. Choose
names to empower you or to make you feel
playful or to create wonder. Give people a
mystery, and they’ll give you their curiosity.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There will
be time to learn more about your interest,
to really get inside it. Passion grows with
knowledge. The more you understand it
the more it becomes a part of you.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 24).
Your focus on one thing will change your
whole life. With laser vision on the goal,
every week you’ll get stronger, smarter,
and more efficient and productive until you
become a master. Pare down, save mon-
ey and lose baggage over the next two
months so you’ll be ready for a September
opportunity. Singles find love in October.
Aries and Libra people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 16, 42, 28, 11 and 34.