THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JUNE 11, 2015
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Ex-girlfriend intruding at funerals Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I am confused
about how to handle my hus-
band’s ex-girlfriend, who shows
up at his family funerals and
stays three hours at the visitation
hanging with my husband and
reminiscing about the past. They
discuss things out loud with no
respect for me.
This woman is married, but
never comes to these gatherings
with her husband. And my hus-
band still does her taxes, even
though I told him he shouldn’t.
He’s opening the door to trouble.
I do trust my husband, but not
her. She definitely is still attract-
ed to him, and it shows. Is her
behavior normal, or should I tell
her at the next funeral to pay her
respects and leave? — Not Jeal-
ous, Just Hurt
Dear Not: Please don’t let
your insecurities cause you to
overreact. If you trust your hus-
band, it doesn’t matter what his
ex-girlfriend does. And how often
does the family have funerals that
you need to worry about this? We
agree that she is being inappro-
priately flirtatious, but it is only a
big deal if your husband responds
in a similar fashion. We suggest
you chummy up to this ex-girl-
friend at these events. It will to-
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Dear Annie: You printed a
letter from “Expecting Mom in
the Midwest,” who asked for a
response when rude people ask,
“Was it planned?” You suggest-
ed, “Why do you need to know?”
I think a good answer would be,
“Of course! God planned it!” I
love your column. — Bossier
City, La.
Dear Bossier City: Your re-
sponse was by far the most popu-
lar one we received. We appreci-
ate all who sent in their personal
preferences. Here are a few sam-
ples:
From Pat: Your response was
masterful. Another retort (not
original to me) would be: “If peo-
ple ask you, tell them you don’t
know.” And a gentler response:
“I’m hurt by your question.”
El Paso: In my opinion, a bet-
ter answer to this question is:
“Well, I guess that’s really be-
tween my husband and me. Don’t
you agree?”
R.: I would simply say, “Yes,
it was planned, but if we plan
another, should we inform you
first?” There seem to be more
ignorant and stupid people in
today’s world, and they have no
filters between their brains and
mouths.
P.: When asked, “Was this
pregnancy planned,” I would say,
“I give up. Was it?” I have used
this more times than I can say,
and it always works.
Mother of Twins: I would
simply ask, “Were you?”
Tyler, Texas: Someone could
reply, “It was more planned than
the question you just asked!”
Salisbury, Pa.: I’ve found
this response works: “Why in
the world would you ask such a
personal question? It’s rude, and
you’re normally not a rude per-
son. Are you feeling OK?” When-
ever you end with a question, the
other person feels compelled to
answer. So throw it back in their
court, and watch ‘em squirm.
They deserve a little squirming.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
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BIZARRO
MUTTS
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BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Empathy is
an underrated virtue, as many can’t see its
use. For an actor or a parent or any man-
ager of people, empathy is invaluable. You
can’t move people without first understand-
ing where they are.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Everything
has a cost, though the currency is not al-
ways dollars and cents. You’ll be aware of
today’s trade — but someone will make you
aware of it, which is a gift, though not so
pleasant in the unwrapping.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are
many things wrong with the world, and you
could spend your time talking about that all
day long if you wanted to. But what’s the
point? You have so many blessings, and
that’s what you’ll highlight today.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Today’s
challenge will help you know and appreciate
your own strength, intelligence and tough-
ness. This one will hit you on many levels,
and you’ll enjoy the fight.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The problem with
trying to stop doing something is that you
do it more because you are still focusing on
the “something.” Decide on what you’ll do
instead, and focus yourself there.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The world re-
sponds kindly to your lack of pretense. You
believe in yourself, and others believe in you,
too. Maybe you are even being groomed for
advancement.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your plans will
work out. Is that not the best thing you can
hear? Plain and simple, the intention you
put down will come to fruition. If you haven’t
made a plan, hopefully this will be your in-
spiration.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You don’t
have to pay anyone else to make you beau-
tiful. It will come from your thoughts, your
actions and your genetics, all of which have
little to do with your free will today. Beauty is
just who you are.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Do you
hear what people are saying about you?
That’s a strange feeling. The upshot is, you’ll
be struck by how you are becoming the re-
markable person you always wanted to be.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When
someone rubs you the wrong way, it’s not
personal. Maybe they have a different edu-
cation or point of view. Maybe their view is
colored by the generations that came be-
fore. Afford your dissenters some leeway.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Whatever
you wanted from this day, wrap it up, put
it in the refrigerator and save it for another
occasion. This day will be about caring for
your loved ones. They need it, and you can
give it.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Choose
your mentor carefully. The achievers aren’t
always great teachers. Look for a person
you can get along with and respect, a per-
son who can get you from A to B. Don’t wor-
ry about Z just yet.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 12). Your
family is funny. You know this already, but
the point will be proved over and over this
year. Go for the maximum interaction over
the next 10 weeks. A financial bonus comes
in September. What you learn in November
could make you rich! December brings ad-
venture and a move. Aries and Cancer peo-
ple adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 39,
1, 4, 33 and 16.